IMPOTENCE... New partner, what happened here?

[waka_88]

WHOA. Ok, so I really haven't been here in a long time but I could not think of any other place to go without a bunch of viagra advertisements.

I have a new partner, whom I just had sex with for the very first time. He said he was nervous and that he was sorry. We tried to have sex but he couldn't stay hard? I was scared it was my fault, because my previous and only other partner ive ever had sex with, I never had that problem with. he had a hard time staying hard and at one point he even asked "Am I even in you?" I gave him this horrified look like "whattt..?"

So I am wondering if this is a. he was just nervous. b. my parts are too "big" for him? :| c. his penis was long, but it was narrower than my previous partners..... i hope for choice a?

I wonder if I should start consider kegal exercises? or what? This is unbelievably embarassing to talk about but I need some blunt advice. I would imagine even if it was the size of the average penis ... I would have felt more than I did.

so bottom line... He was able to get off, but not keep a firm erection. Is this even possible or is it my fault?

 

[foam4u]

Lack of interest, you probably won't see him naked again.

 

[H_T_]

selfish bitch. guy busted his balls, literally, for you. and you're going to make it about you...

 

[flex229]

for him, it was probably his nerves. it's happened to me before. sometimes with a new chick, guys will have performance problems..totally normal...dont sweat it.

 

[blut wump]

I guess the real question here is whether it's possible for a guy to be nervous enough to be unable to function. Yes, it's not that uncommon. Of course, it's never happened to any guy on this site. Well, there was this one time, at band camp...

Post pics. We'll tell you whether you're hot.

He could be overly thin for your bits. It's possible. You must have heard the rhyme, "Long and thin - too far in. Short and thick - does the trick". Some guys prefer a more capacious environment, some guys might just like you to turn over. Find a way to increase friction, learning each others' needs is part of the process.

Yes, it's possible to ejaculate without getting an erection.

Consider having some Levitra or Viagra around for next time. You can then each relax, secure that he has nothing to worry about. Take your time over sex and put at least a couple of hours aside. Don't forget that sometimes a man is in as much need of foreplay as a women can be.

 

[DJ_UFO]

yeah post pics. That way we know who's guilty. lol

 

[waka_88]

Oh god damnit. lol How did I know I was going to get these kind of responses...

there were two posts that actually kinda helped. But really, what it is.. I talked to him about it the day after and he said it was his second time having sex. He had the same problem with his ex girlfriend and he said that he thinks he needs to go to the doctor about it.

As far as PICS go... http://a914.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01117/31/96/1117506913_l.jpg
http://a752.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01117/15/78/1117508751_l.jpg
i'm no prize but i shouldn't be a horrible deformed sasquatch looking turn off right??

I also asked him like 5 times if it was my fault while we were in bed, because I kept worrying about it. lol

 

[The Shadow]

So I am wondering if this is a. he was just nervous. b. my parts are too "big" for him? :| c. his penis was long, but it was narrower than my previous partners.....

I would imagine even if it was the size of the average penis ... I would have felt more than I did.

Could be a combo....if you want to narow down the possibilities, try to be specific.

What has been your experience as far as partner size in the past??

What was the comparison in your previous experiences as compared to to your latest guy in terms of girth??

 

[Dr. K]

Oh god damnit. lol How did I know I was going to get these kind of responses...

As far as PICS go... http://a914.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01117/31/96/1117506913_l.jpg
http://a752.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01117/15/78/1117508751_l.jpg
i'm no prize but i shouldn't be a horrible deformed sasquatch looking turn off right??

Yeah your cute...maybe he is gay??

 

[blut wump]

Thanks for the pics. You definitely fall into the attractive category.

I wouldn't kick you out of bed for farting.

You probably just need to help him to relax and to take the pressure off him. Sometimes women expect a man to get hard automatically and get the job done or it can seem that way to the guy. Take the time to take his mind off his previous failures. Use your hands and mouth more. Try massage with oils and a warm room. Talk. Play games.

If needs be, try some Viagra or Levitra just to get him over the hump.

 

[dbell51]

how old are you? 21?

 

[flex229]

ya, its definitely not you...lol

try going down on him for a little while pre-sex...that oughta get him going a little more.

Oh god damnit. lol How did I know I was going to get these kind of responses...

there were two posts that actually kinda helped. But really, what it is.. I talked to him about it the day after and he said it was his second time having sex. He had the same problem with his ex girlfriend and he said that he thinks he needs to go to the doctor about it.

As far as PICS go... http://a914.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01117/31/96/1117506913_l.jpg
http://a752.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01117/15/78/1117508751_l.jpg
i'm no prize but i shouldn't be a horrible deformed sasquatch looking turn off right??

I also asked him like 5 times if it was my fault while we were in bed, because I kept worrying about it. lol

 

[KD1]

As far as PICS go...

Id hit it.

Get the guy some Cialis, tell him your ex-boyfriend used it all the time and that its "fun". If he still cant get hard, dump him.

Tell him not to jerk off anymore also, say you own all his cum now, or something nasty like that so he keeps it in his pants when you arent around. He might just beat off too much - that can cause limp cock also.

As far as your pussy being too loose for him, we need more pics...
( of you in case Im not being clear )

 

[rnch]

sounds like perfomance anxiety...happens more often (esp the first time) than most guys will admit to.

the more u question him about it the more it will bother the poor guy.

let some time go by, ya'll get a lil' bit drunk and then let nature (and attraction) do it's thang.

 

[s8nlilhlpr]

I would say nerves definetly. Poor bloke probably spanked it a few times too many that day though too . Happened to me a few times. WORST thing ever is when the girl just sits there and stares at it asking "is something wrong??" Be proactive, if obviously he's not rock hard yet, grab the lil' fella and help him out! Nothing turns me on more than a girl asking "can I play with him for you!"

If nothing else, try and take a break for a bit, he might just need 30mins or so to recover from being nervous.

 

[mobro]

if you listen to the above post and Blut wump you'll be fine. already pretty fine from the pics. like said before, it happens to way more guys than will admit it, not me of course! lol. i will tell you a trick that i have "heard' of. the next time you two get together, he WILL mention it(as far as you go, NEVER mention it again), when he does just tell him it doesn't matter if it does or not. tell him you just want to play around and see how much you can turn each other on without having sex. tell him that even if it does get hard, you still aren't gonna let him that time.
poor guy will loose all the pressure and be just fine. it is diffanetly not your BAD looks that is having that effect, but it very well could be that you intimadate him. build up his confidence, it could change his life

 

[waka_88]

Haah thank you guys so much for your replies. believe it or not a lot of these posts helped a TON. I am going to try a different route I guess, no pressure... I guess I was worried because I've never had to worry about this problem before with my ex boyfriend... So this is all new to me. Anyway i'll try some of these suggestions! : -p Thanks everyone