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I think I'm done with this constant state of moneylessness. This month I can't pay my rent because I had to pay my energy bill.

My son needs underwear and just came back from his dads and guess what? The dick told him to have me buy it. My ex is living in a nice new 5 bedroom house with his parents, working full time, no bills to pay and he won't buy our son some underwear.

You know what he says when I tell him he needs to step up and help out with his kids? That I chose to be independent. If I can't support the boys, then give them to him to raise because he can afford to take care of them.

I really really don't like that man.
 
How are you going to go about doing that?

Focus on what you can control and change. An asshole ex is not one of them.
 
just...v said:
I think I'm done with this constant state of moneylessness. This month I can't pay my rent because I had to pay my energy bill.

My son needs underwear and just came back from his dads and guess what? The dick told him to have me buy it. My ex is living in a nice new 5 bedroom house with his parents, working full time, no bills to pay and he won't buy our son some underwear.

You know what he says when I tell him he needs to step up and help out with his kids? That I chose to be independent. If I can't support the boys, then give them to him to raise because he can afford to take care of them.

I really really don't like that man.
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Hit up his parents then. What kind of grandparents don't like to spoil their grandchildren.
 
what an ass, does he pay child support?

like woodyo said, hit up grandparents
 
EarthRider said:
what an ass, does he pay child support?

like woodyo said, hit up grandparents
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He does everything under the sun to avoid child support.

My dad passed away and my mom is a mess, so there are no doting grandparents on my side. His parents will do what ever he asks them to. He lies to them and makes me look like a monster.
 
just...v said:
I think I'm done with this constant state of moneylessness. This month I can't pay my rent because I had to pay my energy bill.

My son needs underwear and just came back from his dads and guess what? The dick told him to have me buy it. My ex is living in a nice new 5 bedroom house with his parents, working full time, no bills to pay and he won't buy our son some underwear.

You know what he says when I tell him he needs to step up and help out with his kids? That I chose to be independent. If I can't support the boys, then give them to him to raise because he can afford to take care of them.

I really really don't like that man.
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V - that really sux. Just to get an understanding of the situaltion did you leave him?
Was he cheating on you? Or did he leave you?
How many children? What ages?
How long have you been seperated/divorced?
Is there a court order to pay?
Does he pay it?
Do you have a job?
 
If paying child support won't make him homeless he can be forced to pay child support or go to jail.

What does your lawyer say about him dodging payments? Have you tried taking him to court?

It's extremely unfair for you to have to pay for everything and the law can protect you.

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just...v said:
I think I'm done with this constant state of moneylessness. This month I can't pay my rent because I had to pay my energy bill.

My son needs underwear and just came back from his dads and guess what? The dick told him to have me buy it. My ex is living in a nice new 5 bedroom house with his parents, working full time, no bills to pay and he won't buy our son some underwear.

You know what he says when I tell him he needs to step up and help out with his kids? That I chose to be independent. If I can't support the boys, then give them to him to raise because he can afford to take care of them.

I really really don't like that man.
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??? i'm confused, if he can afford to care for them why are they with you?? why are they not spending the weekend with you and living with him??

now that sounds short, but it might be a good idea. or should the government take from him to give to you because you can't do for yourself??

On the other hand..

he's letting you sleep in the bed you made for yourself, be independent, why do you need a man to take care of you.. "stepping up" what a crock of crap that is, he's teaching and "stepping up" he's allowing his children to be that tool, but I believe you caused the situation right??
 
-SD- said:
How are you going to go about doing that?

Focus on what you can control and change. An asshole ex is not one of them.
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How am I gonna go about doing what?

And you're right. I need to stay focused on my plan an on things getting better in the future. But sometimes I get worn down and so do the boys. Their dad can take them to do fun things and I'm always working. They are getting so big so fast. I feel like I'm missing it.
 
callmejay said:
If paying child support won't make him homeless he can be forced to pay child support or go to jail.

What does your lawyer say about him dodging payments? Have you tried taking him to court?

It's extremely unfair for you to have to pay for everything and the law can protect you.

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wow, what happened to fair and equitable division of assets.. make him pay child support, send him to jail.. all good things for the children, all we need is more institutionalized children dependent on the government dole.
 
just...v said:
How am I gonna go about doing what?

And you're right. I need to stay focused on my plan an on things getting better in the future. But sometimes I get worn down and so do the boys. Their dad can take them to do fun things and I'm always working. They are getting so big so fast. I feel like I'm missing it.
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Go to your states attorney general for court mandated child support, however uncomfortable that may be to your pride. Its best for your children and sets a good example of accountability.
 
I mean i don't want to sound heartless cause he's being a dick, I on the other hand am generous to the point of making a person feel bad..

He's learned to control his overhead expense by living with his parents?? good for them, that way they get to spend more time with the kids (weekends) hand over the kids to him, he and his support system are better able to care for them..

after all if seeing them only on the weekends is good enough for him.. it's got to be enough for you right??
 
just...v said:
How am I gonna go about doing what?

And you're right. I need to stay focused on my plan an on things getting better in the future. But sometimes I get worn down and so do the boys. Their dad can take them to do fun things and I'm always working. They are getting so big so fast. I feel like I'm missing it.
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I hate to keep coming back to this.. do you have a plan??

I was raised by a single mother, she worked all the time, she loved me, married a man to help her and he beat me almost every day.. good times for me, she thought she was doing what was best at the time and she was, she did all she could with what she had.

what would have been best is if she would have been alone and "independent" ..
 
he sounds like a poor excuse of a man, living with his mama and refusing to help out with his kids financially. don't be afraid to take his ass to court
 
SpyWizard said:
I mean i don't want to sound heartless cause he's being a dick, I on the other hand am generous to the point of making a person feel bad..

He's learned to control his overhead expense by living with his parents?? good for them, that way they get to spend more time with the kids (weekends) hand over the kids to him, he and his support system are better able to care for them..

after all if seeing them only on the weekends is good enough for him.. it's got to be enough for you right??
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I gotta be honest...I agree with this...
I did actually temporarily put my two oldest with the ex for a school yr (same school system) because I couldn't afford what they needed...shit got straightened out and now they're back with me..i pay for every last expense for them now.
child support isn't the only answer.
I have shared custody and don't get child support.
 
shirlene29 said:
I gotta be honest...I agree with this...
I did actually temporarily put my two oldest with the ex for a school yr (same school system) because I couldn't afford what they needed...shit got straightened out and now they're back with me..i pay for every last expense for them now.
child support isn't the only answer.
I have shared custody and don't get child support.
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If he really wanted custody, he probably could've had it by now if his finances are so great. almost sounds like he likes intimidating women. he lives with his mom. obviously can't even take care of himself, much less two kids
 
zwhit said:
If he really wanted custody, he probably could've had it by now if his finances are so great. almost sounds like he likes intimidating women. he lives with his mom. obviously can't even take care of himself, much less two kids
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Courts don't place kids with whomever has the best financial cercumstances.
Have you been through devo and child issues?
 
goin on 4T said:
Courts don't place kids with whomever has the best financial cercumstances.
Have you been through devo and child issues?
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Nah, i haven't. I'm making my judgment off of what V had posted now and in the past. Its just one side of the story but why else would she not have taken him to court if she wasn't intimidated by him? Am I the only one who thinks the fact that the dude lives with his mama is a red flag?

He hadn't taken her to court for custody but at the same time refuses to help financially? Shit doesn't add up
 
There are too many posts for me to answer individually. Here's the deal..


He is aggressive and can be abusive. It was mostly verbal but he did push me around a lot, strangled me a few times. I was with him since I was 16, the physical abuse didn't start until I had my second child. I stayed until he went after my oldest son, who was 12 at the time. He did not hit him, I got a baseball bat and pushed him out of the room. That's when I decided we were getting out.

It's been about a year and a half. I will not have that man raise my boys. He hasn't gotten aggressive with them at all since that one day. But he did attack his next door neighbors because they were "staring at him". He threatened th with a gun and the cops showed up with their guns drawn and put my now 14y/o on the ground cause he was standing outside. He fights, he lives with his parents and thinks he's entitled to being taken care of, he holds no value in education, he has a very poor work ethic, and he hangs out with known criminals. His brother, who also lives in the house is constantly in trouble with the cops. My boys come back home and dressing like thugs from his place. He raises them with an arrogance that will only hurt them as adults.

He agreed to pay me $600 a month but I haven't seen a dime. I'm going for full custody, I don't have a lawyer because I don't have the money. His response was to ask for full custody also. The custody hearing is in 3 weeks.


Uh I can't remember what else you guys asked. I hope that's everything.
 
I have a few things to say here:

1) Spy Wizard, STFU you're stupid. You're clearly still disturbed based on your abusive childhood. Nobody cares.
2) This douche of an ex is just purposely doing what he can to make your life (and those around him) hell. It must have been an enormous shot to his ego that you walked out on him. Now he's living with his Mommy. I bet he's a very angry and messed up person. Sounds like a complete waste of skin.
3) I hope you get things straightened out through the courts. If you are sole custodian (hope you win) then YES he is responsible for paying child support (fuck off to those here who don't agree).
4) I've been through a crappy divorce/custody thing but my ex didnt have a pot to piss in, didnt have any legal representation, no job, no decent family to support him, no car, no license, no bank account, no house. I too left him and I believe he still holds it against me 12 yrs later, but not nearly as bad as he did the first 5 yrs or so.
 
smurf2 said:
I have a few things to say here:

1) Spy Wizard, STFU you're stupid. You're clearly still disturbed based on your abusive childhood. Nobody cares.
2) This douche of an ex is just purposely doing what he can to make your life (and those around him) hell. It must have been an enormous shot to his ego that you walked out on him. Now he's living with his Mommy. I bet he's a very angry and messed up person. Sounds like a complete waste of skin.
3) I hope you get things straightened out through the courts. If you are sole custodian (hope you win) then YES he is responsible for paying child support (fuck off to those here who don't agree).
4) I've been through a crappy divorce/custody thing but my ex didnt have a pot to piss in, didnt have any legal representation, no job, no decent family to support him, no car, no license, no bank account, no house. I too left him and I believe he still holds it against me 12 yrs later, but not nearly as bad as he did the first 5 yrs or so.
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You mad bro?
 
I pay my ex 12860..a month people...a month..do you think that's fair? I was married for 4 years...2 kids. Do you see me fucking complaining? Do you think my ex is? I think not lol...fuck all women
 
smurf2 said:
I have a few things to say here:

4) I've been through a crappy divorce/custody thing but my ex didnt have a pot to piss in, didnt have any legal representation, no job, no decent family to support him, no car, no license, no bank account, no house. I too left him and I believe he still holds it against me 12 yrs later, but not nearly as bad as he did the first 5 yrs or so.
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may i ask why you were with such a dbag?
doesn't seem like somebody you had much in common with
 
wootoom said:
I pay my ex 12860..a month people...a month..do you think that's fair? I was married for 4 years...2 kids. Do you see me fucking complaining? Do you think my ex is? I think not lol...fuck all women
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I'm fucking pacing

Who knows if it's fair? The court obviously decided it was fair based on everything presented to them. $12k is a fucking lot of money. More than we make here in this household in a month. You must be a fucking millionaire.
 
SpyWizard said:
I hate to keep coming back to this.. do you have a plan??

I was raised by a single mother, she worked all the time, she loved me, married a man to help her and he beat me almost every day.. good times for me, she thought she was doing what was best at the time and she was, she did all she could with what she had.

what would have been best is if she would have been alone and "independent" ..
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ur clearly not in a good place to offer any substantial meaningful advice to V on this issue. No offense but it's kind of serious what she's going through and your past is clearly stampeding into the light here so back off dude. Life is fucking complicated, you can't paste your experiences and conclusions about how things should be done on other people. Unless you're not doing that and i'm reading wrong...but it does seem like it. V needs some constructive advice here.
 
wootoom said:
I pay my ex 12860..a month people...a month..do you think that's fair? I was married for 4 years...2 kids. Do you see me fucking complaining? Do you think my ex is? I think not lol...fuck all women
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you pay almost 13k a month?
 
smurf2 said:
I'm fucking pacing

Who knows if it's fair? The court obviously decided it was fair based on everything presented to them. $12k is a fucking lot of money. More than we make here in this household in a month. You must be a fucking millionaire.
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No Smurf...it's part of a settlement payment as well that lasts 4 years...I have to pay her this amount for 4 years and then I just pay child support...2860.00 month
 
binö said:
may i ask why you were with such a dbag?
doesn't seem like somebody you had much in common with
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Long time ago I was 19 when we met and I was not only stupid but I was careless and immature. I didn't start to grow up until I turned 30. I left him a few days after turning 30.
 
wootoom said:
I pay my ex 12860..a month people...a month..do you think that's fair? I was married for 4 years...2 kids. Do you see me fucking complaining? Do you think my ex is? I think not lol...fuck all women
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tell us how you really feel "mate"....<----:lmao: sorry i had to add that one.
 
Sorry to hear about everything V..most people have to work so hard to support their family especially being a single mom...my ex hasn't worked since she was 18 years old...it's a shame
 
SpyWizard said:
wow, what happened to fair and equitable division of assets.. make him pay child support, send him to jail.. all good things for the children, all we need is more institutionalized children dependent on the government dole.
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Child support isn't government money. Its money one parent pays to another parent to take care of the children. And if she did get it, dhs could keep track of what it gets spent on.
 
wootoom said:
I pay my ex 12860..a month people...a month..do you think that's fair? I was married for 4 years...2 kids. Do you see me fucking complaining? Do you think my ex is? I think not lol...fuck all women
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That's like $300US though, right?
 
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smurf2 said:
Long time ago I was 19 when we met and I was not only stupid but I was careless and immature. I didn't start to grow up until I turned 30. I left him a few days after turning 30.
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well at least you got a good kid out of it.
your fam proly thought you were a major tool between 19-30, marrying dbags and partying at ratt concerts
 
wootoom said:
No Smurf...it's part of a settlement payment as well that lasts 4 years...I have to pay her this amount for 4 years and then I just pay child support...2860.00 month
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correct me where i'm wrong here, but wasn't her whole infidelity categorically documented right here at EF? how on earth did she scam the courts into that settlement? child support i get, but how the fuck did she get that lifestyle payment?
 
redsamurai said:
correct me where i'm wrong here, but wasn't her whole infidelity categorically documented right here at EF? how on earth did she scam the courts into that settlement? child support i get, but how the fuck did she get that lifestyle payment?
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depending on the state you are in, infieldity doesn't factor into child support/alimony.
my BFF wife was in court with a baby bump from some other dbag, and bro still got hosed on every aspect of the settlement
 
wootoom said:
No Smurf...it's part of a settlement payment as well that lasts 4 years...I have to pay her this amount for 4 years and then I just pay child support...2860.00 month
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Woot I hear you, I pay about the same, have paid her in CS and SS a shitload since we seperated (7 years). And if you ask her its not enough.
 
redsamurai said:
correct me where i'm wrong here, but wasn't her whole infidelity categorically documented right here at EF? how on earth did she scam the courts into that settlement? child support i get, but how the fuck did she get that lifestyle payment?
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It's sooo hard to prove infedelity bro...really hard...I never had any hard evidence...shitty deal! I only have 2 more years to pay..it's not alimony, it's a settlement payment. I don't pay alimony. Just whatever my net worth is. My brother is going through a divorce right now and it's way worse than mine...he was married for 14 years...
 
binö said:
depending on the state you are in, infieldity doesn't factor into child support/alimony.
my BFF wife was in court with a baby bump from some other dbag, and bro still got hosed on every aspect of the settlement
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so the woman could go get pregnant with another dude's baby and the guy was on the hook for what? not the child support payments right? telll me the court didn't make him pay for some other dude's kid...
 
redsamurai said:
so the woman could go get pregnant with another dude's baby and the guy was on the hook for what? not the child support payments right? telll me the court didn't make him pay for some other dude's kid...
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no he didn't have to pay any of that.
but alimony, half his retirement, and the house...and she got knocked up by a bartender (my bff was a engineer at stryker med).
couldn't even bring up the infelidility at court it meant nothing
 
wootoom said:
It's sooo hard to prove infedelity bro...really hard...I never had any hard evidence...shitty deal! I only have 2 more years to pay..it's not alimony, it's a settlement payment. I don't pay alimony. Just whatever my net worth is. My brother is going through a divorce right now and it's way worse than mine...he was married for 14 years...
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man that's a raw deal. Sorry to hear that bro.
 
binö said:
no he didn't have to pay any of that.
but alimony, half his retirement, and the house...and she got knocked up by a bartender (my bff was a engineer at stryker med).
couldn't even bring up the infelidility at court it meant nothing
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wait, how the fuck was her getting pregnant with another dude not brought up in court? it was, i'm assuming, at least one of the deal breakers right? lol....i mean right?
 
just...v said:
There are too many posts for me to answer individually. Here's the deal..


He is aggressive and can be abusive. It was mostly verbal but he did push me around a lot, strangled me a few times. I was with him since I was 16, the physical abuse didn't start until I had my second child. I stayed until he went after my oldest son, who was 12 at the time. He did not hit him, I got a baseball bat and pushed him out of the room. That's when I decided we were getting out.

It's been about a year and a half. I will not have that man raise my boys. He hasn't gotten aggressive with them at all since that one day. But he did attack his next door neighbors because they were "staring at him". He threatened th with a gun and the cops showed up with their guns drawn and put my now 14y/o on the ground cause he was standing outside. He fights, he lives with his parents and thinks he's entitled to being taken care of, he holds no value in education, he has a very poor work ethic, and he hangs out with known criminals. His brother, who also lives in the house is constantly in trouble with the cops. My boys come back home and dressing like thugs from his place. He raises them with an arrogance that will only hurt them as adults.

He agreed to pay me $600 a month but I haven't seen a dime. I'm going for full custody, I don't have a lawyer because I don't have the money. His response was to ask for full custody also. The custody hearing is in 3 weeks.


Uh I can't remember what else you guys asked. I hope that's everything.
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Have you contacted your local legal aid office? Legal aid attorneys provide free legal assistance to low income individuals. Your case would be a priority, as it involves child support/child custody and domestic violence. If you have a law school in your area, you could also probably get a free student attorney through the law school's legal clinic.
 
SpyWizard said:
I hate to keep coming back to this.. do you have a plan??

I was raised by a single mother, she worked all the time, she loved me, married a man to help her and he beat me almost every day.. good times for me, she thought she was doing what was best at the time and she was, she did all she could with what she had.

what would have been best is if she would have been alone and "independent" ..
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I'm so so sorry to hear that. I won't allow any man to do that to my boys. I've been dating a man for a year and he has met my kids 3 times. I'm super protective.

My plan is to get a bacclutette in nursing (I'm already in the program)
I'm working as a CNA at a hospital to get the reimbursement for tuition, but it doesn't pay enough.
I will not depend on a man to take care of me ever. After what I've been thru I'll always have an exit plan.
I'm thinking about re activating my real estate license and trying to do some of that on the
side. Even one sale a year would help a lot. But the market is super tough here.

If my ex would pay child support, I could rent a small house and give the boys what they need.
 
Stefka said:
Have you contacted your local legal aid office? Legal aid attorneys provide free legal assistance to low income individuals. Your case would be a priority, as it involves child support/child custody and domestic violence. If you have a law school in your area, you could also probably get a free student attorney through the law school's legal clinic.
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Yep. What I didn't do, where I completely screws up was I didn not call the police. I have no documentation of the domestic violence. I should have called the cops the last day I was there and gotten a restraining order against him. But instead I ran with the boys.

I didn't start calling the cops till after I left him. I have all that documentation. I have the court records from his arrest for attacking his neighbors. Court is at the end of the month. Those legal aid offices are very slow and you have to work around thier schedule. That's hard to do cause I have to work.
 
wootoom said:
I pay my ex 12860..a month people...a month..do you think that's fair? I was married for 4 years...2 kids. Do you see me fucking complaining? Do you think my ex is? I think not lol...fuck all women
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Holy shit. I live off of $1800 per month. And after that she gets $2800 in child support?


Fuck her for sure. I would just be grateful if he would pay $300 per month. Just help a little.
 
binö said:
how did it work out for you ROBinHood?
and for much how longer can we think of new ROB names, ROBin Leach?
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The account was actually up 20% after a month or so, I got greedy with teh visions of robin leach and didnt cash out, then it all tanked. Apparently wulf and jon lost much more than the smaller investors like me. Was a nice chunk of change but nothing to ruin your life over.
 
just...v said:
Yep. What I didn't do, where I completely screws up was I didn not call the police. I have no documentation of the domestic violence. I should have called the cops the last day I was there and gotten a restraining order against him. But instead I ran with the boys.

I didn't start calling the cops till after I left him. I have all that documentation. I have the court records from his arrest for attacking his neighbors. Court is at the end of the month. Those legal aid offices are very slow and you have to work around thier schedule. That's hard to do cause I have to work.
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A slow lawyer is better than no lawyer. The hardest part is the intake process, as legal aid is in high demand. Getting started can be daunting, but once your case has been accepted you shouldn't have too much of a time commitment. Usually it is a phone intake, an in person meeting, getting all the documents to your attorney and maybe a few more phone calls before court. At least you have a month - it isn't uncommon for legal aid attorneys to get calls from a prospective client that has court in a day or two (and even those cases are sometimes accepted). If you haven't been through the intake process, you should at least try.
 
Do people always have to go to court for a divorce In the US? I never stepped one foot in a court in Canada. I had a mediation lawyer...it got all settled without having to spend lots of money on court proceedings
 
wootoom said:
Do people always have to go to court for a divorce In the US? I never stepped one foot in a court in Canada. I had a mediation lawyer...it got all settled without having to spend lots of money on court proceedings
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If the divorce is amicable then usually no court is needed. If they both want to fight it out then court is the only way usually.
 
wootoom said:
Do people always have to go to court for a divorce In the US? I never stepped one foot in a court in Canada. I had a mediation lawyer...it got all settled without having to spend lots of money on court proceedings
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I settled mine in mediation as well and never stepped into a court. I tried to be reasonable. I was stupid. She still told the kids lies about me. I have huge issues with my oldest daughter because of her. I should have gone after her in court and paid the least amount posible. But I tried to do the right thing, however in hindsight the right thing would have been letting the court settle it. Instead of my dumb ass giving her a shitload of money. And I didn't fucking cheat on that bitch either.
 
I am not reading all this but until you take that waste of skin to court, it is hard to feel much sympathy for your plight.
 
Whoever doesn't pay to take care of their kids should be shot and pissed on...let alone not spending time with them
 
smurf2 said:
I have a few things to say here:

1) Spy Wizard, STFU you're stupid. You're clearly still disturbed based on your abusive childhood. Nobody cares.
2) This douche of an ex is just purposely doing what he can to make your life (and those around him) hell. It must have been an enormous shot to his ego that you walked out on him. Now he's living with his Mommy. I bet he's a very angry and messed up person. Sounds like a complete waste of skin.
3) I hope you get things straightened out through the courts. If you are sole custodian (hope you win) then YES he is responsible for paying child support (fuck off to those here who don't agree).
4) I've been through a crappy divorce/custody thing but my ex didnt have a pot to piss in, didnt have any legal representation, no job, no decent family to support him, no car, no license, no bank account, no house. I too left him and I believe he still holds it against me 12 yrs later, but not nearly as bad as he did the first 5 yrs or so.
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didn't know you were a man hater smurfy..

and no.. i don't ever stfu.. not even for women that are having sex with me..

and God bless him for putting the screws to her if that's what he's doing she needs a life lesson..

hows that
 
just...v said:
I'm so so sorry to hear that. I won't allow any man to do that to my boys. I've been dating a man for a year and he has met my kids 3 times. I'm super protective.

My plan is to get a bacclutette in nursing (I'm already in the program)
I'm working as a CNA at a hospital to get the reimbursement for tuition, but it doesn't pay enough.
I will not depend on a man to take care of me ever. After what I've been thru I'll always have an exit plan.
I'm thinking about re activating my real estate license and trying to do some of that on the
side. Even one sale a year would help a lot. But the market is super tough here.

If my ex would pay child support, I could rent a small house and give the boys what they need.
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good for you and I'm glad to hear it.. some advice in regards to school for you.. is take infomatics classes if they are offered..

even with the RN degree and some experience you can transfer into that verticle and double what any nurse can make.. if you consider $85 per hour a good income..

but that's just my 1st hand experience..
 
WoodyO said:
How do you live off $1800/mo.?
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Well...I'm skating by. Behind on my energy bill on a regular basis, always cook at home, we eat a lot of rice cause it's cheap. I can make ramin noodles like 10 different ways. Frozen veggies cause they keep. I have no cable or Internet (I post at work on my cell using thier wifi) or home phone. Cell phone plans are kept to the bare minimum. Only run the washer completely full, I try not to use the dryer if I can help it. Every time I drive it's a planned trip to conserve gas. I own my car. Some of my school loans I use to catch up on utilities. My rent is low. There is absolutely no money for anything but bills and food. Oh and I have no credit card debt.

The problem is one trip to the doctor, the car breaking down, any unexpected expense puts me in danger of beig homeless.
 
just...v said:
Well...I'm skating by. Behind on my energy bill on a regular basis, always cook at home, we eat a lot of rice cause it's cheap. I can make ramin noodles like 10 different ways. Frozen veggies cause they keep. I have no cable or Internet (I post at work on my cell using thier wifi) or home phone. Cell phone plans are kept to the bare minimum. Only run the washer completely full, I try not to use the dryer if I can help it. Every time I drive it's a planned trip to conserve gas. I own my car. Some of my school loans I use to catch up on utilities. My rent is low. There is absolutely no money for anything but bills and food. Oh and I have no credit card debt.

The problem is one trip to the doctor, the car breaking down, any unexpected expense puts me in danger of beig homeless.
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Welcome to America post 2008
 
SpyWizard said:
didn't know you were a man hater smurfy..

and no.. i don't ever stfu.. not even for women that are having sex with me..

and God bless him for putting the screws to her if that's what he's doing she needs a life lesson..

hows that
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Why does she need a life lesson? I'm missing your justificatiom there (probably bc there is none)

I'm far from a man hater. I'm a douchebag hater. So i guess if the shoe fits...
 
Stefka said:
A slow lawyer is better than no lawyer. The hardest part is the intake process, as legal aid is in high demand. Getting started can be daunting, but once your case has been accepted you shouldn't have too much of a time commitment. Usually it is a phone intake, an in person meeting, getting all the documents to your attorney and maybe a few more phone calls before court. At least you have a month - it isn't uncommon for legal aid attorneys to get calls from a prospective client that has court in a day or two (and even those cases are sometimes accepted). If you haven't been through the intake process, you should at least try.
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Wow.. welcome back. And here is the lawyer you were looking for.
 
Stefka said:
A slow lawyer is better than no lawyer. The hardest part is the intake process, as legal aid is in high demand. Getting started can be daunting, but once your case has been accepted you shouldn't have too much of a time commitment. Usually it is a phone intake, an in person meeting, getting all the documents to your attorney and maybe a few more phone calls before court. At least you have a month - it isn't uncommon for legal aid attorneys to get calls from a prospective client that has court in a day or two (and even those cases are sometimes accepted). If you haven't been through the intake process, you should at least try.
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I did the intake and all that jazz. They said they would help, I'm the poster child for cases like this...blah...blah...blah. But I have a friend who is a paralegal and she showed me how to do the papers so I did that part without them. I got tired of waiting.
 
The court process is actually quite painless. I've gone thru it 3 times. Once for myself, when I got custody of niece and nephew, then again when my bros ex wife took him to court, I'm not a lawyer, but was allowed to represent him. Just make sure you have documentation for every thing you bring up. And any chance you have to discredit anything he says, do it.
And definitely take that douchebag to court for support. The money isn't for you, but thats how douchebags think.
First establish some sort of set physical custody order. If he ends up with primary physical custody of them, you could very well be made to pay him support. I wish you all the luck in the world.
 
SpyWizard said:
good for you and I'm glad to hear it.. some advice in regards to school for you.. is take infomatics classes if they are offered..

even with the RN degree and some experience you can transfer into that verticle and double what any nurse can make.. if you consider $85 per hour a good income..

but that's just my 1st hand experience..
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Like classes on algorithms?

Informatics is a very broad field. What area do you suggest?
 
just...v said:
There are too many posts for me to answer individually. Here's the deal..


He is aggressive and can be abusive. It was mostly verbal but he did push me around a lot, strangled me a few times. I was with him since I was 16, the physical abuse didn't start until I had my second child. I stayed until he went after my oldest son, who was 12 at the time. He did not hit him, I got a baseball bat and pushed him out of the room. That's when I decided we were getting out.

It's been about a year and a half. I will not have that man raise my boys. He hasn't gotten aggressive with them at all since that one day. But he did attack his next door neighbors because they were "staring at him". He threatened th with a gun and the cops showed up with their guns drawn and put my now 14y/o on the ground cause he was standing outside. He fights, he lives with his parents and thinks he's entitled to being taken care of, he holds no value in education, he has a very poor work ethic, and he hangs out with known criminals. His brother, who also lives in the house is constantly in trouble with the cops. My boys come back home and dressing like thugs from his place. He raises them with an arrogance that will only hurt them as adults.

He agreed to pay me $600 a month but I haven't seen a dime. I'm going for full custody, I don't have a lawyer because I don't have the money. His response was to ask for full custody also. The custody hearing is in 3 weeks.


Uh I can't remember what else you guys asked. I hope that's everything.
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an abusive shit head that puts his kids in harms way is a different ball game
have him fucking killed so your kids can collect social security
 
just...v said:
I did the intake and all that jazz. They said they would help, I'm the poster child for cases like this...blah...blah...blah. But I have a friend who is a paralegal and she showed me how to do the papers so I did that part without them. I got tired of waiting.
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the current action in most states now is to revoke a person's drivers license for non payment of child support, and seizure of payroll monies via an employer, unless they are on a payment plan with the state.. but unless you have it court ordered there is little you can do about it other than go after it now, which you should do..

but we don't want to see you on the jerry springer show.. "who the daddy" dna testing..
 
Fitguy308 said:
Don't vote for Obama if your sick of being broke
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this has nothing to do with politics you slimy fucking piece of shit...if i lived in the United States (which i would never fucking do) i would vote Obama...you will just go and blame the next president on your stupid fucking crisis...fuck off
 
wootoom said:
this has nothing to do with politics you slimy fucking piece of shit...if i lived in the United States (which i would never fucking do) i would vote Obama...you will just go and blame the next president on your stupid fucking crisis...fuck off
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You mad?
 
wootoom said:
this has nothing to do with politics you slimy fucking piece of shit...if i lived in the United States (which i would never fucking do) i would vote Obama...you will just go and blame the next president on your stupid fucking crisis...fuck off
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what the fuk are you talking about? an oil man doesn't vote for obama, that is seriously reckless talk i should call your family and tell them to cut you out of the bizz.
seriously i'm mad as fuk!
 
wootoom said:
this has nothing to do with politics you slimy fucking piece of shit...if i lived in the United States (which i would never fucking do) i would vote Obama...you will just go and blame the next president on your stupid fucking crisis...fuck off
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Come to your senses breh

You're rich...you're supposed to love republicans....
 
binö said:
what the fuk are you talking about? an oil man doesn't vote for obama, that is seriously reckless talk i should call your family and tell them to cut you out of the bizz.
seriously i'm mad as fuk!
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Hahahaa I know I hope Romney wins bro...I'm just fucking around
 
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