kano said:
ya i slept with both of them .. Next day i was about to say something to my wife about it and she just goes leave it alone.. what ever the fuck that means
I'm taking a shot in the dark here, but I think it probably means she's embarassed.
Okay, here's the deal, it sounds like she did something impetuous that might have been a fantasy of hers, and probably discovered, after the fact, that it wasn't necessarily "all that." She also might be worrying about how it will impact her relationship.
You need to tread lightly here, because if you try to be extra affectionate to prove you still love her and nothing's changed, she's gonna think you're all over her because of the 3-some. If you withdraw and try to give her space, she's gonna think you're shut down. You better just literally forget it ever happened dude, seriously, and go back to living life EXACTLY the same. In time she may want to deal with it, but if ANYTHING changes in your relationship right now, you're gonna be in a helluva mess.
Good thing it was her idea and not yours, you'd really be fucked otherwise.