It's NOT the same.
when a 42 year old man has sex with a 11 year old girl. That memory will HAUNT her the rest of her life.
A HOT 23 y/o woman having sex with a 14 y/o will be looked at with PRIDE the rest of his life and be something he'll be bragging about in bars and shit.
We base our punishments based upon the "trauma" the victim may have, not just the sex part.
In these cases, the lifelong impact is minimal if any. So the punishment CANNOT be the same.
It's akin to the difference between rapes of men by women and women by men. Or the sex between a 17 y/o and a 16 y/o. They aren't treated the same, neither should this.
But goddamn if this 23 y/o was THAT fucking horny, why couldn't she have called me??
All ic an say is -- this 14 y/o had some fucking GAME like none other! Dayum!!! I wonder if he looks like Brad Pitt or something?