Help! - Married at Home Love at Work???

[DJ_UFO]

Dude. You have a major issue: Sex. Sex is something that we NEED, just like eating every day. Just like taking a shit every day. However, you cannot make a decision to get out of something just because something else came up. I mean, you can do it, but is immature and not smart. You need first to communicate this problem to your wife, and make her aware of how much are you hurt in that relationship by dealing with that every day. After dealing with the same problem for a while, your feelings towards her will change and then you have to make a decision. not based just on the present, but also thinking about the future.

 

[SpyWizard]

we always want what we can't or don't have... and it's always greener..

let it go.

 

[gear63]

dude come on I'm with everybody else here its the classic my dick wants to get wet syndrome, it always seems better because you have not really had to deal with the office chicks bull**** for ten years so of course it might seem so shiny and great! I think you want to here this because it re-enforces what you already know (to stay with your 100% proven wife)--- otherwise you would have have physical intercourse with the office chick I dont know your age is but I'm 21 and I have lived with my girlfriend (shes a fuckin 10 every dick tries to talk to her, cars honk when we walk down the road, and women also try to pick her up) on our own since we were both 18 and yeah sometimes I see beautiful women at school ,work ,on the road whatever and it all comes down to this if I was sick as hell and not on top of my game would they even help me out like she has or be there through the rough times--- F*** no woman are the same as men --- women think shits greener because we only show the good side when we try to pick them up or have interest in them! Think bout it like Im sure you have already its a bad economy but--- (maybe your rich) take your wife on a vacation and i bet you will find a new spark and if not let her go for yourself not because the ass on the other side of the fence! not wanting to be harsh just keep it real for you from my perspective granted I only no 2% of your actual situation Take care!

 

[nangiggles]

Quick question..... did the "No sex" start around the time you met this new girl (couple years back)? sometimes there is a relation....

 

[goin on 4T]

Just bang the new girl and get it over with, its just a matter of time. Then go home and have great sex with your wife and keep your mouth shut. Either way that chick at the office is going to hate you and either you or her will quit! Think with your mind not your dick. Have you tried counceling?

 

[miplank]

that grass isn't always greener bro...Think about it before you do something you can't undo.

 

[Strongbow]

Double the ass. Quiet your fucking bitching and be a man and hit both them hoes while you can. Maybe you can even swing yourself a 3some out of this deal, SWEET. Pics or video if this goes down.

 

[fakename]

Thanks for the great advice everyone. To answer your question, the sex issue started years ago. Its always been a point of contention for us. Probably the only one.

The more i try to step back from the lust of it all, you're all right. It's new, she's hot, she's giving me attention, my ego likes it and doesn't want to let it go.

Starting to think that there is something wrong with me. I am obsessed with getting what i can't have, lose interest when i succeed, and then obsess when i can't have it again.

disgusting cycle...

 

[Hellawulf]

You guys always given me good advice so here goes.

I'm 30, been married for 3 years (same woman from college 10 years ago). My wife is beautiful, puts up with my shit, and doesn't have an enemy in the world.

I am immature, get a lot of attention from women, and have a habit of never being home. I'm either at work, at the gym, or out with co-workers.

I love my wife and want to do nothing that could even come close to hurting her.

Now here comes the bad part. I started working here 2.5 years ago. First day in I meet this beautiful girl who is a couple years younger than me. We became great friends off the bat. 2.5 years go by and everyday I think to myself that I am obsessed with her (but i am married and she is engaged). A month ago it all came out. She told me that she thinks about me 24 hrs. a day just like i had been with her.

Nothing physical has happened, we have just told each other how we feel.

This weekend she decided to break up with her fiance and he guessed me immediately.

Now I'm at a crossroads. I have this beautiful, kind woman at home but all I can think about is the one I work with. I feel like a total piece of shit and that I need to make a choice quickly. Not sure I should even be married at this point....

Thanks for any advice you guys have...

I haven't read anyone's responses and I don't need to. Your situation is absolutely normal, love is played out by society that it should be for one partner, yet when you have 3 kids, you love them all, right? We biologically want what we can't have, and when we have it we don't want it as much and want to move on to the next thing. I believe that you can find a partner that you want to be with for the rest of your life, and later, not in the beginning, still lust for other partners, but the choice is yours my friend. You have what appears to be a great wife, if she is up to standards, then don't get rid of her for something new, thats not fair to her, and this could pass. If you are comitted to this relationship then by all means DO NOT CHEAT! If you must be with this other woman, you must tell your wife. I'm to young to be married, and though I am seeing only one girl now, it is not unusual for me to be dating 2-3 girls at a time, but they know that we aren't exclusive, when in an exclusive relationship, which marriage is, normally, I do not suggest cheating.

I can't tell you how you feel, you have to think long and hard, it appears that you still love the woman you are married too, don't confuse lust for love, but at the same time don't fear lonliness or lack of sex, if that is what keeps you in a marriage.

 

[musclemom]

Well, whatever you do, for crying out loud don't have an affair. You'll hate yourself and if your wife finds out, she'll hate you and the trust is shot.

You only have one of two choices: Either get out of your marriage or fix your marriage. Don't tell me your marriage is good, if you're tempted, then you're not "in love" with your wife, no matter how much friendship/respect/devotion you may feel for her. I don't believe you can be completely happy in a relationship and be seriously tempted by forbidden fruit.

Get counseling/medical help for the sex issue, or file for divorce and have fun with the office girl.

Lack of sex will do the relationship in sooner or later, seriously. Or eventually your balls will just shrivel up and you won't care anymore.