Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below So i've been talking to this girl for about 6 weeks now, I am a personal trainer and in pretty damn good shape, she says she has never dated anyone who is in as good as shape as myself. I also am consistently being told that i am a "hot" guy.... really not trying to be arrogant, just trying to see if i can really get some help. I love to please ladies, especially in the bedroom and I really need help with this.(not being cocky, just hoping someone can help). So she says she is extremely physically attracted to me but very self concious and nervous when having sex w/ me, we have only had sex once, i was drunk and she was sober. She says she has really low sex drive, she says its not me, but that she has alwyas had low sex drive. She also is not sure if she wants to be with me, She says she has way too many feelings too fast and doesn't wanna be hurt, She totally loves some things about me, and totally hates my temper and "moods" i tend to get in. Is that enough to turn her sex drive down?? She is also on birth control, I dunno if this affects anything. Is she just physically intimidated by me, or is it more emotional... I live to please ladies that i really care about and this is constantly hanging over my head, please someone shed some light on this for me. thanks
girl w/ no sex drive... help please
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Well...maybe she is just not that into you since she is making up excuses...but on the other hand...low self drive can be caused by many things like meds, past history, hormones...ect...take it slow with her and see what happens...Just remeber if the drive is low now....just think about in a couple months to a yr,....yikes
pintoca
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I read somewhere that when girls are with guys they perceive to be hotter than them, a problem may arise... seems like girls feel insecure or not appropiate when with a guy who is in better shape...
then again, that would not be the case if your girl has high self esteem, but how to know in only 6 weeks...
she might be thinking "imagine the other girls this guy has been with, I might be the ugliest/fattest whatever"
then again, that would not be the case if your girl has high self esteem, but how to know in only 6 weeks...
she might be thinking "imagine the other girls this guy has been with, I might be the ugliest/fattest whatever"
Colonel Ingus
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My advice is to move on. I know this is a challenge, and you probably think that there must be a way to get her to be a bit more interested in sex, but that probably won't happen. In the end, you'll wind up frustrated and resentful.
Don't ask me how I know this.
Don't ask me how I know this.
aandd
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She should talk to her ob/gyn. Low sex drive in women can be brought on by a number of factors, from hormones to thryroid problems to depression, etc... She needs to rule out a medical reason first. The FDA approved the testosterone patch for women this year (I think it was approved - she needs to check with her dr.). When I read about it, they were saying it increases desire up to 74%.
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PolfaJelfa
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Geez...dont bring back memories..... Stupid young bitch that doesent know what she wants. ( no offense)
I dont touch any woman under 30 now.
If some women told me shes confused now..lmfao....i would laugh in her face.
Confused bitch? Realy ...well here is the door! Get the hell out..
When i used to be younger i used to get all raveled up in this....let a bitch bring my life to a crash. I asked questions like you.....thought about every single thing that happened...how it could be tied into another. Drove myself crazy..with anger, questions, jelousy. Its amazing how diferent things are when women can sense you dont put up with any crap/games etc, when you are steadfast.
Bro, Sounds like she doesent want you period. If she wanted you she would not be confused. I suggest you do it like in Seinfeld....go to a fancy restaurant......make it classy.....real classy..have her having a good time.
Then tell her out of the blue "its over "
Smile and leave without paying the check!
I find women 27+ are ussualy past the games etc. know what they want...how they want it...and are straitforward and DEFINATELY HAVE A SEX DRIVE!
Confused....believe me bro...no sane girl in the world who cares abvout you/loves you/remotely likes you will say she is confused......if a girl realy likes you she will do everything and anything to win you over.
So many women out there....find a new one.
"She also is not sure if she wants to be with me, She says she has way too many feelings too fast and doesn't wanna be hurt"
Ya...ok...right..
Tell her if she doesent want to be hurt and is afraid of feelings....she should stay at home and not walk out of the house.
Nothing i despise more than bitches who play games and drama queens.
At least in my case...i recieved justice...bitch got pregnant with the guy she was cheating with.....is not able to go to college like she had planned....lost all her freinds...boyfreind smacks her...doesent allow contact with freinds..is 20 with a minnimum wage job...living with parents....guy about to dump her.
Now that is karma....although i personally dont wish the bitch bad. Hope everything goes well and she has a good life.
Sory for the rant...man i needed to get that off my chest.
I dont touch any woman under 30 now.
If some women told me shes confused now..lmfao....i would laugh in her face.
Confused bitch? Realy ...well here is the door! Get the hell out..
When i used to be younger i used to get all raveled up in this....let a bitch bring my life to a crash. I asked questions like you.....thought about every single thing that happened...how it could be tied into another. Drove myself crazy..with anger, questions, jelousy. Its amazing how diferent things are when women can sense you dont put up with any crap/games etc, when you are steadfast.
Bro, Sounds like she doesent want you period. If she wanted you she would not be confused. I suggest you do it like in Seinfeld....go to a fancy restaurant......make it classy.....real classy..have her having a good time.
Then tell her out of the blue "its over "
Smile and leave without paying the check!
I find women 27+ are ussualy past the games etc. know what they want...how they want it...and are straitforward and DEFINATELY HAVE A SEX DRIVE!
Confused....believe me bro...no sane girl in the world who cares abvout you/loves you/remotely likes you will say she is confused......if a girl realy likes you she will do everything and anything to win you over.
So many women out there....find a new one.
"She also is not sure if she wants to be with me, She says she has way too many feelings too fast and doesn't wanna be hurt"
Ya...ok...right..
Tell her if she doesent want to be hurt and is afraid of feelings....she should stay at home and not walk out of the house.
Nothing i despise more than bitches who play games and drama queens.
At least in my case...i recieved justice...bitch got pregnant with the guy she was cheating with.....is not able to go to college like she had planned....lost all her freinds...boyfreind smacks her...doesent allow contact with freinds..is 20 with a minnimum wage job...living with parents....guy about to dump her.
Now that is karma....although i personally dont wish the bitch bad. Hope everything goes well and she has a good life.
Sory for the rant...man i needed to get that off my chest.
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great polfa, thanks for the input, I think your right, I really don't need this shit in my life now I'm young, but I know I will feel bad the moment I tell her this and she starts to cry again. But I guess I gotta get it over with now. Thanks for the help, I will keep you guys posted, and more advice is always welcome... oh yeah one minor point I forgot to mention, when we started hanging out she had a Boyfriend 1 1/2 yrs... we never kissed or anything I will not mess w/ a girl knowing she has a boyfriend, thats just not me.... but maybe jumping from him straight to me may ahve somehting to do with this huge pile of shit... only problem is I really like this girl
I'd say give her a chance if you have feelings. If you don't know details of her intimate history you could be giving up the love of a lifetime just for a chance at a quick piece of ass. Explain to her how you feel & give her a chance to be open. Be non-confrontational & non-judgemental. Then if she doesn't offer any hope, let her go. You don't have to be a dick & ruin her for someone else.PlayaPimp said:
DieselGunz
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Polfa you are right on the money
Bor drop her, get a girl who cares
Bor drop her, get a girl who cares
foreigngirl
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pintoca said:
This is true, she can be ashamed of her body compared to her lovers (that sounds funny). I know when my husband got all shredded and I just came out of having a baby I was not that much comfy to let him see me naked or feel me...its weird being shy...
karde said:
I wish it was that easy but I really like the girl, it's not just sex to me, she is only the 3rd girl ive ever slept with.... and I only slept with her b/c I felt this way about the girl. The sex drive really only bothers me b/c I feel that is one of the best ways if not the best way to make a girl feel good... You think I should give her some time to warm up??
foreigngirl
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PlayaPimp said:
I think u should. The first time u having sex cant mean that it HAS to be the best, you know
foreigngirl said:
Well the sex was good for me, it lasted a good while, and she seemed to really enjoy it at the time... she SUPPOSEDLY got off many times.... the only way i could ever really tell when a girl gets off is she got really sensitive and legs would tremble quite a bit.... when we had sex she did both... but i dunno she still could ahve been faking... what do you think??? oh yea she said she has "low sex drive.... she wants just not as much as me" i guess that should ahve been mentioned earlier.
PlayaPimp said:
man your story is a mirror of what just happened to me. i had sex with her for a good 2 hours, she was wet and i was thinking i made her come, but she barely ever wanted to hang out with me ever afterwards, even though we had text sex over the phone a few times afterwards. i really liked the girl too, it wasnt just a piece of ass to me, but im 22 she was only 19, and i know not to get involved because i know shell want to be with other dudes. that kills me, but its true and it sucks. once you hit 30 go for a serrious relationship, otherwise your gonna get hurt. young girls dont know what they want, they just live by the moment. one minute theyll be attracted to u, the next minute they wont because they are talkin to some other guy who is different in some way that entices her. i wish i was asexual to be honest, because i get fucked over again and again by females, now im just at the point where i hide away from all females, i dont even want any female friends or dont want to associate with any females...and i dont anymore, even though i think about them constantly.
This is very true! While sex isn't necessarily a huge part of a relationship, if the compatibility isn't there, then the disparity becomes a huge issue as time goes by. If it can be resolved, or she's willing to work at it, that's great, but if she accepts it, then she's discounting your needs, which is not a good sign. In other words, she don' give a fuck what you need.aandd said:
foreigngirl
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PlayaPimp said:
oh, thats bad. I thought that maybe she felt uncomfy the first time with a new person, but if she sais that she has low sex drive even though she is right next to a hot guy....hmm...well that sucks...just try teasing her, like pinching her butt, or come from behind her and press yourself on her, if she dont answer in a sexual way (that always worked for me), forget it...you are young, you need to have a spark between the two of you. I've been married for 7 years and I hardly wait to jump on my husband when I see him
Ozz2001
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Man your blind or something! Is this the only girl you can get or what? She doesnt want you,that is crystal clear.Maybe she had sex with you just because she felt like she owed you for the training.If you have sex with her smelling like booze and she doesnt drink well there is the first mistake! Women dont want to smell a drunk bounceing up and down on them all fucked up when there sober! She probably just got rid of a cocky drunk then here you come.It's like kissing a person that smokes and the other doesnt,its just nasty! Ill leave it at that because you wont understand anymore i have to say, if you could you wouldn't be wondering why she doesn't want you for real! Maybe your not the pimp pleaseing women you think you are,or maybe its the booze making you believe you are! If you got a anger problem you should stick to street hoes! Real women want men, not wantabe's.......
karde
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You need to learn to see the warning signs of somebody who is going to make a relationship painful. You are at the very beginning and already she is saying that you two are NOT compatible. This is a very clear sign that this will not work out.
You want sex MORE than her.
THis is a problem that will get worse.
You want sex MORE than her.
THis is a problem that will get worse.
You guys are right, thanks for all the help... I'm through with her, as shitty as it may be, I guess it would be better to do this now then wait for it to be a bigger problem. thanks..... oh yea Ozz, no anger problem, just get aggravated every now and then but never even raise my voice to a female or talk down to them.... I'm a little better than that.... but thanks for the advice
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PolfaJelfa
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Playapimp....lol...bro i give you a few years...your perspective will be completely diferent.
KillzwithPillz
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I once dated girl for two nights ,didnt give head , never even rolled her own bean ,never had orgasim ever!! had no concecpt of getting dirty. by look on her face cum was like an acid eating her face off,pfftt
I pounded her silly for those two nights and gave up on her.
I pounded her silly for those two nights and gave up on her.
killz said:
trust me on this....all girls care about are looks. unfortunately thats the way it is. it doesnt matter how funny you are or how good you treat them or how good your personality is. girls will only want you if you look good. its naturally a fact of life and theres no getting around that. im not great looking and that explains why i never get any. all i ever wanted was a girlfriend but unfortunately i dont look like brad pitt on steroids. any girl that tells you otherwise that being confident and funny and all that gay shit is just because they have feelings and its an easier way of giving false hope to anyone out there who doesnt look like a male runway model or a big fucking hardass. the only other factor is wealth....they will take you if you are wealthy, use the shit out of you, fuck others behind you back, and everything will be fake. thats shitty reality.
foreigngirl
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markshark said:
Sorry, but guys do the same damn thing, too...
foreigngirl said:
Not all guys, the majority yea, but not all.... the girl I originally posted this about is not insanely hot... i have been w/ much hotter, but she is a super cool chick, but physically not what i would ever go for. She maybe a 6, while im used to 8-9's... so looks arent everything, but of course they can't be super ugly.. personality, sense of humor and compadability have alot to do with attraction
foreigngirl
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PlayaPimp said:
I cant do that. If the guy is not tottaly hot in my eyes, forget it. My mom once told me to try dating a less atractive guy (cause I allways got hurt from the good looking ones), cause his personalaty is gonna be great and I'll fall in love with him cause of it. I did it...I couldnt handle it for a long time, yuck, I didnt even want to kiss him and braking up with him was the most terrible thing I had to do
foreigngirl said:
i cant blame you for saying that, usually i get pissed, but as i get older i realize thats the way it is, its human nature. i just hate always getting turned down, and that the one of 500 times i do meet someone they decide they are not attracted to me so the leave the bar with another guy after dating me for a month. its frustrating for us guys who arent blessed with johnny depp's face and ll cool j's body.
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PolfaJelfa
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foreigngirl said:
I Dont do the same thing.....If im goign to date someone it is for the purpose of eventually leading to love/mariage etc. First thing i look at is if im atracted to the girl. Of course there has to be an atraction...however this is not most important. The woman must have the same political/moral beliefs i do and be on the same page. Character, a good heart and sould is what i look for.
If im looking for a fuck...there is a whorehouse 5 minutes from my gym
or always some dirty slut who want some.
aandd
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markshark said:
I dated a 'sweet' guy who was much less good looking than any of my other previous r'ships.... maybe a 5 or a 6. Not ugly - but wasn't turning a lot of other girls head's either.
Turns out he had his own set of issues and STILL found someone to cheat with. At Wal-mart. Blegh.
Everyone can be an asshole.
foreigngirl
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markshark said:
well, the day is gonna come. You know what they say: some guys get better looking as they grow older. Look at Richard Geere for expm
foreigngirl
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PolfaJelfa said:I Dont do the same thing.....If im goign to date someone it is for the purpose of eventually leading to love/mariage etc. First thing i look at is if im atracted to the girl. Of course there has to be an atraction...however this is not most important. The woman must have the same political/moral beliefs i do and be on the same page. Character, a good heart and sould is what i look for.
If im looking for a fuck...there is a whorehouse 5 minutes from my gym
well, not all of them are that way
foreigngirl said:
true, but women can pick and choose more than a guy can, because the guys are after the girls usually, and the guys have to work for the female most of the time. the reason girls like good looking guys is, i think, to show off to their friends and for a challenge. im a nice guy. im the kind of guy that will drive 50 miles to a girls house that i like in the middle of the nite and put a teddy bear and a rose on her doorstep with a little note on it just so she has a good day the next day, and i also, if i do get to be intimate with them, care more about them being pleased than me, and for those reasons girls are turned off from me because im not a "challenge". not all are that way, but most ive met are, and luckily im becoming more at ease with it everyday because thats life and something nobody can help.
PolfaJelfa said:I Dont do the same thing.....If im goign to date someone it is for the purpose of eventually leading to love/mariage etc. First thing i look at is if im atracted to the girl. Of course there has to be an atraction...however this is not most important. The woman must have the same political/moral beliefs i do and be on the same page. Character, a good heart and sould is what i look for.
If im looking for a fuck...there is a whorehouse 5 minutes from my gym
i agree with this guy ^^^
foreigngirl
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markshark said:
You are right, you gotta be a challenge, play cat and mouse
Dekaxx
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PolfaJelfa said:Geez...dont bring back memories..... Stupid young bitch that doesent know what she wants. ( no offense)
I dont touch any woman under 30 now.
If some women told me shes confused now..lmfao....i would laugh in her face.
Confused bitch? Realy ...well here is the door! Get the hell out..
When i used to be younger i used to get all raveled up in this....let a bitch bring my life to a crash. I asked questions like you.....thought about every single thing that happened...how it could be tied into another. Drove myself crazy..with anger, questions, jelousy. Its amazing how diferent things are when women can sense you dont put up with any crap/games etc, when you are steadfast.
Bro, Sounds like she doesent want you period. If she wanted you she would not be confused. I suggest you do it like in Seinfeld....go to a fancy restaurant......make it classy.....real classy..have her having a good time.
Then tell her out of the blue "its over "
Smile and leave without paying the check!
I find women 27+ are ussualy past the games etc. know what they want...how they want it...and are straitforward and DEFINATELY HAVE A SEX DRIVE!
Confused....believe me bro...no sane girl in the world who cares abvout you/loves you/remotely likes you will say she is confused......if a girl realy likes you she will do everything and anything to win you over.
So many women out there....find a new one.
"She also is not sure if she wants to be with me, She says she has way too many feelings too fast and doesn't wanna be hurt"
Ya...ok...right..
Tell her if she doesent want to be hurt and is afraid of feelings....she should stay at home and not walk out of the house.
Nothing i despise more than bitches who play games and drama queens.
At least in my case...i recieved justice...bitch got pregnant with the guy she was cheating with.....is not able to go to college like she had planned....lost all her freinds...boyfreind smacks her...doesent allow contact with freinds..is 20 with a minnimum wage job...living with parents....guy about to dump her.
Now that is karma....although i personally dont wish the bitch bad. Hope everything goes well and she has a good life.
Sory for the rant...man i needed to get that off my chest.
Well said Bro and a BIG AMEN to no women under 30!!
