girl stopping you?

[derailed]

after the ordeal, i started kissing her through her pants. i could totally feel and even taste her soaked again. she told me it was late and she needed to catch the last bus. i told her the last bus to her place leaves in a hour and we made a bet. if i was right, i could finish what i started. next thing im pulling everything off from her and went down again. later than i walked her to the bus stop and she asked me why i didnt have sex with her and i told her 'cause you didnt take my pants off'

seriously, after her pulling away while i went down on the first time she still expects me to take my pants off and have sex with her? feels like i got rejected the first time and now im just going for the gold...

my previous gf said that she doesnt like being eaten out. so one day i decided to not let her kiss me at all until i did what i wanted to do. every time she tried, i just pushed her down on the bed. the more she tried the more i resisted. she finally let me go down on her and ive never heard her scream so loud in my life before. after her busting, she told me if she would have any energy left, shed fuck my brains out lol.... i was totally content on the situation and watching her being the way she was, all sweaty and tired out, was as hot as her fucking my brains out... so girls, do your guy a favor and let him do his magic on your muff and he starts and you stop him, explain why- its a real ego killer if you keep quite

 

[musclemom]

I can only speak from personal experience here (so don't jump all over my shit saying "THAT'S NOT THE CASE FOR ME," it may not be, personal experience only):

In my younger days, I HAVE been with at least one guy who kept changing rhythm/position whatever ... I realize that sometimes the mouth/jaw gets tired but the thing is that 30 or so seconds when you're repositioning/revising/switching/unhinging your jaw some of us get seriously cooled down. You do that three or four times, it's shot for me, I'm overly sensitive and it's uncomfortable -- virtually sore, the female equivalent of blue balls, so to speak -- but I just ain't getting mine that evening (or at least for a while, I have to totally calm down and start back from ground zero). When you're not really, REALLY familiar with your partner (or younger, that can be the case too), it's tough to say, "uh, sorry, but it ain't happening."

I've also had the situation where he just can't seem to hit the sweet spot -- he goes everywhere BUT there -- which can be nice for a bit but you try to be subtle and get him where the right place is and he's like HOMED IN on the wrong place ... or what he's doing just DOESN'T feel right, maybe it started out right and then it's like, "PUUULLLEEESSE stop touching there! Stop touching it LIKE that!"

It gets to the point where it's more frustrating than fulfilling, but you don't say that to your partner, because ... well, you don't say it to him because he's not in the ZONE THAT night, doesn't mean he won't be batting 1000 the next night, if that makes sense. You make a guy too self conscious about the whole oral sex thing and there's the fear you might be waving bye-bye to tongue action permanently. You don't want to encourage him in bad habits, but you don't want to discourage the enthusiasm, either

And honestly, those of your who say, "well, just tell us what we're doing wrong ..." umm, again, personal observations here:

a) It generally doesn't make any difference, he may change what he's doing for a couple minutes, but he pretty quickly lapses back into his "comfort zone."

b) I haven YET to have met a man who enjoys receiving either directions or constructive criticism.

 

[immortalis]

b) I haven YET to have met a man who enjoys receiving either directions or constructive criticism.

I swear to GOD I'm right here!

Bark at me like a god damn drill seargent, i dont care. But tell me wtf you like, how you like it, and wtf you want me to do and by god I will do it to the best of the human ability. Id much rather be told what to do, than feel like Im doing something you dont like. I am to please... thats what turns me on more than anything. So, help me ... help you !

 

[derailed]

a) It generally doesn't make any difference, he may change what he's doing for a couple minutes, but he pretty quickly lapses back into his "comfort zone."

Ive assisted in open heart surgery where I would have to hold the heart in a position for 30 minutes with my arm bent in the weirdest way. I know its not a mouth, but guide me to the sweet spot and Ill make your entire body sweet.

Girls, if it sucks, then repetitive coaching is the way. As for knowing if you are in the zone, how could you tell if the girl is squriming all over the place, and asking usually kills the mood lol? I guess its like being at the upscale resturant on a date and talking with your mouth full of food... not sexy lol

Besides that, I think Musclemom nailed it down. Most of us guys are too narcistic to even consider that their pussy licking abilities are anything but God's gift to women

 

[musclemom]

Okay, one more personal observation ... I believe oral sex is one of those things that you either click as a couple or don't.

I'm not sure how much you can TEACH someone who doesn't SORT of hit your buttons from the word go. Technique can be refined, but I really think it's one of those things that the person "does it" for you, or not.

I dunno, have any of you guys met a girl who gave mediocre or even poor blow jobs and you were able to teach her to what to do (or she taught herself, whatever), so that now she's a champ???

... or does this question fall under the category of, "There IS no such thing as a bad blow job!"

 

[KillahBee]

... or does this question fall under the category of, "There IS no such thing as a bad blow job!"

any man that truly believes that does not value himself very highly.

I have only had ONE woman who TRULY gave a fantastic blow job. Most have no clue what they are doing. I think most men are so happy to be getting head that they don't want to criticize and risk losing more opportunities down the road.

That's a load of poo

 

[eat big]

I have only had ONE woman who TRULY gave a fantastic blow job.

Lucky. One of the few I have gotten with talked it all up but when it came time to do the deed she couldn't do it without crying because of her gag reflex. I swear she couldn't down it past the dome.

 

[KillahBee]

Lucky. One of the few I have gotten with talked it all up but when it came time to do the deed she couldn't do it without crying because of her gag reflex. I swear she couldn't down it past the dome.

It really is an art form. The combination of most guys just being satisfied to be getting one at all and most women believing all they have to do is show up is a dangerous one.

 

[eat big]

It really is an art form. The combination of most guys just being satisfied to be getting one at all and most women believing all they have to do is show up is a dangerous one.

Agreed. More proof though is that a guy I know who hooked up with her said she was good. She moved to fucking slow to and didn't use her hands.

 

[derailed]

such a double standard- if a guy ever told a girl to stop blowing him...