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When is it too much? I flirt a lot and mostly I think I am just being playful, however a few times as of late it has got me in hot water. I was wondering if and how other people can tell when you are being playful? and when you are serious?
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hamstershaver
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keep flirting with me and ill tell you when its too much
Imnotdutch
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jackangel said:
Exactly.......men always think u r serious.
Paulo
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Not a big fan of flirting myself. I mean, for example, if I say that I want to massage every square inch of your body with my lips, then that is what I want to do. No confusion that way.
Generally, where I get discombobulated, is when women are actually being serious with me and since I always assume they are just playing around, rarely act on it.
Generally, where I get discombobulated, is when women are actually being serious with me and since I always assume they are just playing around, rarely act on it.
Imnotdutch said:
Why can't guys tell the diffrence? I know some can I was talking about it with a guy I work with he can tell I am joking around.
hamstershaver
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superqt4u2nv said:
some guys are stupid
LOL @ Paulo I would never say something like that to some random guy I flirt with. I however may selectivly say it to someone that knows me well enough to get that I am just playing around. I think you can tell by if there is physical contact or not. For example if I am really flirting with someone I will get physical. (Example touch there hand or arm.) However again if it is someone that knows me well I may do that as well.
Bran987 said:Actually, he thinks you are trying to send him signals, and each night when he goes home he tries to work up the courage to finally do something about it.
Hahaha hardly he is just as big a flirt as I am. He knows I am only playing with him and vice virsa.
Imnotdutch
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superqt4u2nv said:
And women wonder why men dont understand them.
hamstershaver
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superqt4u2nv said:
dont worry i know when you flirt with me you are being serious, i feel sorry for all those others suckers on here though
Imnotdutch said:
I guess you have a point here actually a dam good one. But like I was saying I think other people that flirt also can tell when your flirting. So maybe it is not so much a man woman thing but a flirt non-flirt thing.Yes it is because out in the real world I am a notorius flirt just not in here.And we have a good time at work with it.Remember flirting doesn't cost anything, doesn't promise anything,doesn't hurt anyone and is fun therefore its all good.superqt4u2nv said:
bodytemple75
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Women...if you had a boyfriend/husbad can you say you would be 100% completely comfortable with knowing he is also talking about sex all day/ flirting with some chick(s) he works with? Them doing it for "attention" translates to, they basically want to see what still bites, and what their options are in the dating field are still. I just am not a big supporter of flirting nowadays. Maybe 10-20 years back, if some 35-40 year old neighbor said how handsome you look like to your mom,... that was pretty harmless, flattering/laughable really. But now, the level, degree, and type of flirting of today is a completely different scenario altogether. Being nice is one thing, flirting while at work seems unprofessional to me, but that's me...I think that should stay in the bars and clubs. At work, I do get it a lot, but I always stay professional, and just blow it off nicely with a simple forced smile. But, I really could do without that at "work," really makes me uncomfortable. I just shut up, and stay quit though...do my job. With all the sexual harassment claims at work, I truly feel for some of these guys sometimes. I mean,...you don't really know nowadays what happened, and where,when, or "how" it started? How could you tell with all these double standards today? Women really have that much power nowadays to kill a guy's life by, by will, if they choose. It just takes one "sexual harassment claim" and you are basically done. Scary. BUT LEMME' POINT OUT THANKFULLY "NOT ALL" WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT. but some are. Scary...
Not to insuly on you, Qt....by no means.
I have a girl, and if she flirted with guys at her job, I would blow up on her, and immediately end it tomorrow. I'm too old for that shit. (28)I feel prolonged flirting, is basically right under cheating, in some cases.
Not to insuly on you, Qt....by no means.
I have a girl, and if she flirted with guys at her job, I would blow up on her, and immediately end it tomorrow. I'm too old for that shit. (28)I feel prolonged flirting, is basically right under cheating, in some cases.
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B0ARDIN087
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dayna everyone on the board doesn't get a chance to think about whether ur kidding or not becuz they are staring at that amazing avatar of yours and using most of thier brain power on that
I have no idea, unless it is real blatant I rarely pick up on it.
strongsmartsexy
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superqt4u2nv said:When is it too much? I flirt a lot and mostly I think I am just being playful, however a few times as of late it has got me in hot water. I was wondering if and how other people can tell when you are being playful? and when you are serious?
Well, this is all harmless.
It's not like I'm ever going to meet anyone from here. Or it's highly unlikely. And should I meet someone from here, reality is entirely different than any flirting that may go on.
A lot of it depends on tone of voice combined with body language. If there is no body language but the chicks voice sounds like someone's messing with the playback speed of a tape recorder, then she probably is just f'in with you. If she has body language, touches you or lets you touch her casually, then you have something.
lucidblue
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bodytemple75 said:
I agree with you. I absolutely would not be comfortable with my b/f (or husband if I was married) flirting with anyone, whether at work or anywhere else... including message boards. When I am with someone and I love them I don't feel any urge to flirt with other guys... he is the only person I want to flirt with etc. I don't understand why guys (and girls) need to flirt when they are supposed to be in a committed relationship and love someone. It is hurtful and disrespectful to their significant other.
sh4dowf4lcon
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strangebrew
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It's not flirting until you touch my penis. That's pretty much what it takes for me to get it.
string_bean00
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SublimeZM said:
Hahahah, you know how we do.
Testosterone boy
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I'd say it is when you squish a breast against someone without meaning anything. Guys think breast contact is a green light but once again........it just may be another form of teasing....I mean flirting.superqt4u2nv said:When is it too much?
Flirting is fun though if nobody is serious. Noyone gets hurt that way.
Paulo
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Testosterone boy said:I'd say it is when you squish a breast against someone without meaning anything. Guys think breast contact is a green light but once again........it just may be another form of teasing....I mean flirting.
Flirting is fun though if nobody is serious. Noyone gets hurt that way.
I think your avatar is flirting with me.
Testosterone boy said:I'd say it is when you squish a breast against someone without meaning anything. Guys think breast contact is a green light but once again........it just may be another form of teasing....I mean flirting.
Flirting is fun though if nobody is serious. Noyone gets hurt that way.
i'm pretty sure if you get the breast squish against your arm thing....you've got a good chance...I call BS on any woman who would say that is innocent.
jerkbox said:
LOL agreed!
I didn't really mean flirting on the message board that is even more innocent then in real life IMO.
bodytemple75 said:
I don't flirt at my day job much once and a while on the phone to customers but they always start it. Has more to do with the ton of voice nothing extreme in a sexual nature at all just more playful.
I was talking about my part time job I cocktail waitress and the guy I flirt with is a bar back. In general at this type of job you do a lot of flirting. The problem I was having was with one customer once I realized he thought I was serious I toned it down. However he continued to keep hitting on me I even told him I had a boyfriend (lie) and he wouldn't stop. He came back the following night then I just tried to ignore him as much as possible. Luckly he was not sitting in my section and I think he got the point.
bowling ball nutz
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flirting(being friendly) obviously helps out getting a better tip super qt
Robert Jan
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Women get by flirting.
GoldenDelicious
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well then QT be honest now: do you ever flirt with someone that you would never, ever, under no circumstances would ever get physical with?
the way i see it is if a girl flirts with me, even playfully, then some little part of her has accepted me as a potential partner. all i gotta do, then, is work on that little bit. id say thats where youre running into trouble (although its a nice sort of problem to have)
the way i see it is if a girl flirts with me, even playfully, then some little part of her has accepted me as a potential partner. all i gotta do, then, is work on that little bit. id say thats where youre running into trouble (although its a nice sort of problem to have)
sh4dowf4lcon
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lucidBlue said:
WIB
GoldenDelicious said:
Of course most of the people I flirt with I have zero intention of ever getting physical with them. It is my job to be friendly and make sure they have a good time.
GoldenDelicious
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superqt4u2nv said:
lol im not sure what to say...youre a loose flirt canon
casualbb said:
Is there something wrong with being really picky?
strongsmartsexy
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velvett said:RRRRRRRRRRRRRRUUUFFFFFFFFF.
C'mere baby I have something special for you.
PoonRaider
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There is a time to flirt, and a time not to flirt I believe.
I am very flirtatious by nature, but I try to tone it down if I'm in a relationship.
I work at Olive Garden as a waiter, so flirting with a wide age spectrum of women, from hotties my age to grandmas is kind of necessary if I want to get a phatter than average tip. If you're waiting tables, flirting is being professional.
I am very flirtatious by nature, but I try to tone it down if I'm in a relationship.
I work at Olive Garden as a waiter, so flirting with a wide age spectrum of women, from hotties my age to grandmas is kind of necessary if I want to get a phatter than average tip. If you're waiting tables, flirting is being professional.
TheRide said:Oh and superqt4u2nv, I know you want me!
Yes I want pics of you!
superqt4u2nv said:When is it too much? I flirt a lot and mostly I think I am just being playful, however a few times as of late it has got me in hot water. I was wondering if and how other people can tell when you are being playful? and when you are serious?
dont flirt unless you are serious, because with us guys we dont know the difference.
well actually sometimes we do, but subconsciously we lie to ourselves and say its something more when it isnt (just to let ourselves have hope)
bodybuildingislife1
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fyxgel said:
THAT IS SOOO TRUE!!! DAMN WERE LAME SOMETIMES
I think a woman has to flirt cautiously and responsibly. Flirting can be very fun so it's tempting to do a lot of it and/or take it too far. However, we have to acknowledge that we (yes I include myself) flirt for selfish reasons. Exciting, fun, ego boost, etc. We REALLY need to think about what we're doing and strive to behave more responsibly.
A few guidlines:
Dont know a guy at all and dont have any real interest in him?
Dont flirt AT ALL At the very least you'll avoid raising false hopes and worst case scenario avoid a psycho.
You know the guy somewhat, but know you'll never be having sex with him?
Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.
And the biggie, unless you really know a guy well Do not discuss topics directly or indirectly related to sex unless you want to play bumpity bump with the dude in question.
I know very often women complain that men do not understand us, but I think often women dont understand men any better. And grossly oversimplifing men's interests, feelings, and motives is never gonna help you figure them out. You must stop and consider what you call flirting means to him.
A few guidlines:
Dont know a guy at all and dont have any real interest in him?
Dont flirt AT ALL At the very least you'll avoid raising false hopes and worst case scenario avoid a psycho.
You know the guy somewhat, but know you'll never be having sex with him?
Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.
And the biggie, unless you really know a guy well Do not discuss topics directly or indirectly related to sex unless you want to play bumpity bump with the dude in question.
I know very often women complain that men do not understand us, but I think often women dont understand men any better. And grossly oversimplifing men's interests, feelings, and motives is never gonna help you figure them out. You must stop and consider what you call flirting means to him.
Fast Twitch Fiber
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God damnit! Why do you idiotic female creatures flirt with a guy when you're not interested? Women like you have made my life hell! A woman flirts with me, I think she wants me. What else would I think? Then when I get up the nerve to ask her out she says she has a boyfriend or isn't interested. What do you think you're doing by flirting? Flirting with a man is the same thing as telling him that you want his penis inserted in your vagina.
anya said:
Good Post except I'd argue this one,
Dont touch him at all, anywhere Guys arent socialized to be touchy like we are and any kind of touching at all means something very different to them.
Depends I guess on culture, the family and area I am originally from touching while flirting and other shows of simple friendship and affection are normal, but then again dad's family was highland and mom's was Rom. Both very emotional people.
strongsmartsexy
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I dunno about the men aren't socialized to be touchy. Almost our entire family, immediate and distant, is like that. We hug all of our friends and acquaintences when we visit or they visit. And as marriages occured, the tactilization of the inlaws began. It was successful and is spread all the time.
It was successful and is spread all the time.
rpol and SSS, thoughtful replies both of you. You obviously both actually took the time to really read my post.
But notice that I qualified the dont touch him at all rule by how well you know him. I said if you know the guy somewhat, meaning you dont know him well and do not know what the touch might mean to him.
Rpol, I'm not talking about touching among family and same sex friends/aquaintances. Girls are taught to be pretty comfortable touching one another without any kind of sexual subcontext. And while I know that in other cultures (like in Mexico where I am from originally) guys may be more comfortable with touching each other, I still say that pretty much all over the world guys are likely to assume that when a woman they dont really know touches him it means she's probably sexually attracted to him.
But notice that I qualified the dont touch him at all rule by how well you know him. I said if you know the guy somewhat, meaning you dont know him well and do not know what the touch might mean to him.
Rpol, I'm not talking about touching among family and same sex friends/aquaintances. Girls are taught to be pretty comfortable touching one another without any kind of sexual subcontext. And while I know that in other cultures (like in Mexico where I am from originally) guys may be more comfortable with touching each other, I still say that pretty much all over the world guys are likely to assume that when a woman they dont really know touches him it means she's probably sexually attracted to him.
strongsmartsexy
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anya said:rpol and SSS, thoughtful replies both of you. You obviously both actually took the time to really read my post.
But notice that I qualified the dont touch him at all rule by how well you know him. I said if you know the guy somewhat, meaning you dont know him well and do not know what the touch might mean to him.
Rpol, I'm not talking about touching among family and same sex friends/aquaintances. Girls are taught to be pretty comfortable touching one another without any kind of sexual subcontext. And while I know that in other cultures (like in Mexico where I am from originally) guys may be more comfortable with touching each other, I still say that pretty much all over the world guys are likely to assume that when a woman they dont really know touches him it means she's probably sexually attracted to him.
I get hugged by almost every woman I know, so I'm glad that they're not all sexually attracted to me. I have most of my male friends somewhat indoctrinated to hugging also. Some of they are not so comfortable, so they're likely to only hug on holidays and special occasions, but it's still better than they were.
Agree with this 110%. Because of these flirty chicks, I always give them my "Terminator Face".
Probably the reason I'm still alone...
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Flirting is not all good if the one being flirted with has a real intrest with the one whom is flirting, but the feeling is not mutual from the flirter. Just a game. There is a good chance there will be hurt feelings.
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