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The Shadow
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BIKINIMOM said:
Interesting that there isnt a variation that would work for you
jnevin
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It cracks me up the way people can be so quick to call people gold diggers when they use their money, or the illusion that they have money to meet girls or guys. I have friends that act like the biggest ballers that make decent money, but they throw it around at the club (first mistake), meet club girls that are probably aestiticians (sp?) making $10/ hr living with roommates, tell them about all the great shit they'll do with them (trips to Vegas, shopping), to get laid, and then bitch about the girl being a gold digger after they get what they want, saying the girl was only in it for the money. Fuckface, that's all you talked about.
I have girls I'm friends with that have done the same.
I feel lucky that I'm not dating, because people seem nuts anymore. All the stories my friends have make me think I'd just be a monk if I was single again. As far as the money goes, I met the wifey when we were each making maybe $1,500/ mo. If I dated again, I'd want someone that does well just because it would show a certain level of responsibility. I only care about spending it when it's expected of me.
I have girls I'm friends with that have done the same.
I feel lucky that I'm not dating, because people seem nuts anymore. All the stories my friends have make me think I'd just be a monk if I was single again. As far as the money goes, I met the wifey when we were each making maybe $1,500/ mo. If I dated again, I'd want someone that does well just because it would show a certain level of responsibility. I only care about spending it when it's expected of me.
test boy ii
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I can't tell you if a mans slary is important.
But his salary can be.
heh
But his salary can be.
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Bottom line is money is nothing more than a means to an end.
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Ilk
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Trust you to come up with that!
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LOL
FOr me, salary does not matter. In my dating years, I dated a couple people with money, and was not that impressed. Obviously, that is not indicative of the entire male population so I so not assume money=jerk. But it was my limited experience, lol.
I just never think about searching out people with money nor am I that interested in it. My husband and I make a decent living - we pay the bills pretty easily and have no debt (we only have a mortgage and my SUV payment). We make enough to put away some money for retirement and a tiny bit at a time for daughter's college.
And I couldn't be happier. While I would enjoy having a little more monthly income (who wouldn't?), my happiness with my life FAR exceeds anything money can bring.
I just never think about searching out people with money nor am I that interested in it. My husband and I make a decent living - we pay the bills pretty easily and have no debt (we only have a mortgage and my SUV payment). We make enough to put away some money for retirement and a tiny bit at a time for daughter's college.
And I couldn't be happier. While I would enjoy having a little more monthly income (who wouldn't?), my happiness with my life FAR exceeds anything money can bring.
Sassy69
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When I was younger the salary wasn't that important because I / we were still working our way up. What was important is what your goals & aspirations were, were they realistic and were you actually workign towards them. Also I was there for certain of my friends to lean on when they needed it - the question then became - would they be there for me if I needed to lean? I've probably toned down my generosity because in my experience my generosity really just became one more thing that enabled said friend to cruise a little longer w/ no responsibility and I gave them a reprieve from ending up in the street or something. I'm not my friend's money tree. How this has impacted me? I expect nothign from anyone and I dont' give much either. I will generally be there if a close friend or definitely a family member needs something but anyone else can probably just take a flying leap.
At my age now I absolutely expect a minimum from anyone I get involved w/ or have to rely on -- if they've been on the planet the same duration of time that I have, I assume they've had roughly the same experience and time to make their dreams happen that I have - if they are parasites I really dont' have any interest. I won't be supporting someone else so I expect probably soemthign around comparable to where I am in life. Simply because where I am in life was driven by me expectations of myself - I dont' expect any more of anyone else than I expect of myself and further I probably expect a lot less from others because I'm just that way. But not at my expense. Its not the money / income, but rather the work ethic, morals, values behind it that matter to me. And sure there can be people who bust their butt and dont' make much -- doesn't make them bad people but its not somethign I'm interested in - I guess that falls under being at a different place in your life or having different fundamental goals and expectations. I don't have the energy to accommodate someone who is that fundamentally different from me.
At my age now I absolutely expect a minimum from anyone I get involved w/ or have to rely on -- if they've been on the planet the same duration of time that I have, I assume they've had roughly the same experience and time to make their dreams happen that I have - if they are parasites I really dont' have any interest. I won't be supporting someone else so I expect probably soemthign around comparable to where I am in life. Simply because where I am in life was driven by me expectations of myself - I dont' expect any more of anyone else than I expect of myself and further I probably expect a lot less from others because I'm just that way. But not at my expense. Its not the money / income, but rather the work ethic, morals, values behind it that matter to me. And sure there can be people who bust their butt and dont' make much -- doesn't make them bad people but its not somethign I'm interested in - I guess that falls under being at a different place in your life or having different fundamental goals and expectations. I don't have the energy to accommodate someone who is that fundamentally different from me.
Sassy69 said:
Good post ..... and I do agree with it. I guess I have a different viewpoint since I am married. If I were to suddenly be single, I would likely adopt these thoughts - esp since I have a daughter to raise. Interesting.
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