Do men like to be hit on?

[EnderJE]

there is a fine line between acting interested and cock hungry, and just being interested.

I prefer the cock hungry vs the just interested. It's more honest.

Blue, I'll fly out to Montreal so you can hit on me.

 

[cindylou]

here's an idea, next guy you like tell him so...maybe just judo trip him and follow him down to the ground and mount him. I promise he won't complain. Seriously. Women need to nut up, stop this "oh i want to be pursued" thing. This isn't victorian england anymore and you're not dainty little hot house flowers ur grown ass women, right?



sorry I just get irritated when I see these stone age gender roles sneaking their way back into society. You all should be amazons and we should have to best you in a wrestling match in order to sleep with you. You know, Conan/Red Sonja style.

Damnit Red, you know I <3 you but fug...I like to be pursued and it's my right to like what I like w/o being told I'm not a grown ass woman, which I am regardless of what I like. I'm sorry if that irritates you, but no I will not stop. Lol, I don't need a man to tell me what I ought to like, I'm perfectly capable of my own opinion and so is blue whatever she decides.

See, now I wrapped all that up nice and pretty though I know you don't need me to do that for you...but think about how often we have to...sigh... because we are told 24/7 we don't already know whats best for ourselves or what we should like...

A man will come to me if he wants me. That is what I want. If that is what blue wants, she is still a grown woman and not a delicate flower or any other degrading term.

 

[*ebony*]

cant believe I forgot about this. Should have post it earlier.


http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/elite-players-seduction/picking-up-guys-girls-guide-729259.html

 

[redsamurai]

hehe no worries Cindy, that's your opinion and ur entitled to it. But I still stand by my thought that women ought to take stronger roles in male/female relationships. I honestly think the "courting" process of men pursuing women has damaged the overall relationship dynamic and it partly to blame for why there's so many of us divorcing. It's an uber complicated situation and i'm not going to remotely pretend to trivialize it by saying women should just drop men left and right and ride them off in the middle of the street, although that would rule..lols. But the old thought patterns have to go or at the very least be seriously revised. We've been doing the same thing for so long and it just isn't working. I know it's a nice ego stroke to be pursued but just think about the mentality that promotes within the person pursuing you and how that will then re-emerge throughout the relationship. It almost boils down to an entitilement process.

 

[-SD-]

Males will always pursue females, you cant fight millions of years of evolution

Of course it works, it might not be working just for you lol

divorce rates dont have anything to do with who pursued who because by the time youre married...all the pursuing is over

 

[redsamurai]

Males will always pursue females, you cant fight millions of years of evolution

dude we've been doing alot of things for millions of years that ain't workin. Are you saying we should drag women by their hair back to the cave? Cause we did that for a long time, why'd that stop btw?

divorce rates dont have anything to do with who pursued who because by the time youre married...all the pursuing is over

i did state there was more to it but I still beleive the whole dynamic from start to finish is responsible so part of it is that pursuit process. It's a complex concept that requires more than just passing thought while u breeze through the internets. Male/female dynamics are possibly the most complex concept on our planet tbh.

 

[zwhit]

lol

 

[AFeedz]

hehe no worries Cindy, that's your opinion and ur entitled to it. But I still stand by my thought that women ought to take stronger roles in male/female relationships. I honestly think the "courting" process of men pursuing women has damaged the overall relationship dynamic and it partly to blame for why there's so many of us divorcing. It's an uber complicated situation and i'm not going to remotely pretend to trivialize it by saying women should just drop men left and right and ride them off in the middle of the street, although that would rule..lols. But the old thought patterns have to go or at the very least be seriously revised. We've been doing the same thing for so long and it just isn't working. I know it's a nice ego stroke to be pursued but just think about the mentality that promotes within the person pursuing you and how that will then re-emerge throughout the relationship. It almost boils down to an entitilement process.

But trying to force anyone, man or woman, into the role of pursuer is no better than forcing one to be the person pursued via societal rules/expectations.

It's contradictory to support a group's rights or equality, but demand they act any certain way.

Truly supporting female equality in any place: work, home, society means allowing them their right to make the decision about the role in those places they would like to have, not forcing them to choose any one.

A woman who wants to be a housewife for example doesn't set the female role back any so long as she could enter her work place of choice if she wanted to. I'm not setting women back by wanting to be pursued, because women who would like to take that role can take that role.

People are allowed to have preferences.

 

[-SD-]

dude we've been doing alot of things for millions of years that ain't workin. Are you saying we should drag women by their hair back to the cave? Cause we did that for a long time, why'd that stop btw?
i did state there was more to it but I still beleive the whole dynamic from start to finish is responsible so part of it is that pursuit process. It's a complex concept that requires more than just passing thought while u breeze through the internets. Male/female dynamics are possibly the most complex concept on our planet tbh.

If you want to blame the courting dynamic then blame feminism and the gender role confusion it has brought for many. Males pursuing females is constant throughout the animal kingdom including humans and is one of those things that will always be as long as we have "men" and "women". Its ingrained in our DNA and permeates society very deeply.
You wont change something like that while breezing through the internets.
Are you just not good at getting chicks bor? Need the women to chase after you or something? Not being a dick, its a legit question given the topic.

 

[redsamurai]

I'm not espousing forcing anyone to do anything...I'm just of the opinion that there is not really an open an honest discussion about compatability during the intial "pursuit" process. What it turns into is an athletic competition between crooning males and it strokes a certain part of the female ego, i just don't feel that's a legit start to a foundational relationship that stands the test of time.

Bachelor/Bachlerotte anyone?

It's a failed social paradigm. Hard fail.

And yeah i agree that there is nothing at all wrong with a woman who chooses to stay at home, that is not the social contruct i am condemning.

But trying to force anyone, man or woman, into the role of pursuer is no better than forcing one to be the person pursued via societal rules/expectations.

It's contradictory to support a group's rights or equality, but demand they act any certain way.

Truly supporting female equality in any place: work, home, society means allowing them their right to make the decision about the role in those places they would like to have, not forcing them to choose any one.

A woman who wants to be a housewife for example doesn't set the female role back any so long as she could enter her work place of choice if she wanted to. I'm not setting women back by wanting to be pursued, because women who would like to take that role can take that role.

People are allowed to have preferences.