Do men like to be hit on?

[EarthRider]

well i did go for the innocent church girl and it worked out well for me. i'd do that again

 

[newNimproved]

You were also a kid when you met her and never had a relationship before that. When I was 22, I was with someone for 11 yrs, but shit happens!
Get a little baggage and some more life experience and then see if your game changes

I don`t look in the dumpsters, I just happen to meet them.

im in the same boat, i get the crazies after me.........i guess it happens when u turn em out, lol

 

[stevesmi]

just start talking to a guy and exchange some words here and there over the course of a week or two.. then if you get a good vibe invite him to a game or yoga or something like that. he will get the hint that you want to go out before that and probably end up asking you out first if he has half a brain and can put 2 and 2 together.

 

[blueta2]

im in the same boat, i get the crazies after me.........i guess it happens when u turn em out, lol

Same here.....but I now realize that it's the vibe I was giving off. I'm a "fixer" so to speak (a healer by trade and I work in animal rescue), so I would get all the addicts and broken people (I hate the term crazy) gravitating towards me (friends and ex's)

I don't come from a family of any addictions, my parents are happily married 56 yrs and my life was really normal growing up, so how I fell into this is more about my need to save and fix others.
My Mom told me when I was 5 or 6 yrs old, I use to save bugs from water or bury dead birds or other animals and I still do that today.
It's the Buddhist in me I guess, but it's been a real drawback in my personal life, so yeah, I meet a lot of mentally unwell people for sure.
I've cleaned up a lot of my life though and still working on how to be a good person and not feel the need to fix or even associate with those who are truly broken,

 

[blueta2]

just start talking to a guy and exchange some words here and there over the course of a week or two.. then if you get a good vibe invite him to a game or yoga or something like that. he will get the hint that you want to go out before that and probably end up asking you out first if he has half a brain and can put 2 and 2 together.

Good advice...but I am actually pretty shy when it comes to talking to men I like. Odd seeing is that I am pretty assertive and social.
I can try this when it's time....yoga....that would be a good first date

 

[theoak01]

yeah, if she takes the bait of being hit on, she would seem easier and more willing to have the sexy time no?
If she had to do the work, and he take the bait, then she holds off?

there is a fine line between acting interested and cock hungry, and just being interested.

 

[AFeedz]

If a total stranger guy comes over and hits on me hard, he's probably a douche. I agree.

But I don't think you need to hit on them. Just be feminine, nice and make good conversation and guys will do the rest. Thats enough to get the job done in my experience. I don't think it's creepy in that case, if the guy is pursuing you knowing you're interested already.

I am super forward if I'm looking for sex, though, because what the point? That's not very often though that I'm attracted to a guy enough to want to hit it but not enough to want to be with him.

 

[ceo]

well i did go for the innocent church girl and it worked out well for me. i'd do that again

she's cheating on you bro!

 

[kx250rider]

Tough question... I think men are divided on that. I personally was OK with it when I was single, but I have friends who say that if a woman hits on a man, she's no challenge, and probably is...... Well, there are a few derogatory words for it. I don't agree with that, and in fact, my wife had to work pretty hard to get my attention. That's because although I liked her from the first time we met, I had no clue that she'd EVER even THINK of dating ME. She had to just about attack me to get her point across, and she's a lady (never just hooked up in her life) .

So my opinion is that there's no answer one way or the other.

Charles

 

[redsamurai]

here's an idea, next guy you like tell him so...maybe just judo trip him and follow him down to the ground and mount him. I promise he won't complain. Seriously. Women need to nut up, stop this "oh i want to be pursued" thing. This isn't victorian england anymore and you're not dainty little hot house flowers ur grown ass women, right?



sorry I just get irritated when I see these stone age gender roles sneaking their way back into society. You all should be amazons and we should have to best you in a wrestling match in order to sleep with you. You know, Conan/Red Sonja style.

I never hit on men ever, but once I meet a guy I like, yes, I much prefer being pursued.

Here is a good example: I was at a reunion party last weekend, and the one guy who actually had the courage to come talk to me, then hit on me, was an ex con, fresh out of the federal pen living with his Mom and was in and out of prison his whole life.

My male friends say only the losers will approach you because they don't care about rejection, it's a numbers game, but otherwise men feel you will reject them.

So maybe I need to pursue a little.....