Update on this.....I ended up having to give Chic # 1 the gentle let down. Wish I were more like a Neanderthal....and could just bone her and make her empty promises like some guys would do, but I couldn't do that....so...yah...you playahs...are gonna berate me for this....but I am putting all my eggs in one basket on girl number 2.
Seriously I am relieved. I was on a rampage anyways. I had two fuck buddies, with a 3rd and 4th offering, and was doing a lot of dating....some chics were young enough to be my daughthers. Seriously...the guilt started getting to me...and I thought...WTF...doing quite a bit of fornicating here...maybe I am damning my soul. LOL.
So if I get burnt trying to settle down on just one girl so be it. I can at least live with myself for the time being, and if I get shot down....it's easy to go back to dating....and random hookups "safely".