Dating chicks with kids.Advice.

[Gymgurl]

You have known each other for two months and she is asking you, "When are you going to warm up to my kids?"

Stupid question: How long had she known you before she introduced you to them?"

Answer: NOT LONG AT ALL.

HYUGE RED FLAD

This will sound harsh, but, fuck the shit out of her as long as you can and run like hell when it ceases to be worth it anymore. But not when the kids are in the pic. Meaning, only see her when the kids are with the dad or take her out and doink her in a hotel while the kids are home with a sitter.

Any woman that feels the need to push her kids on a young man (or any man) that soon after she has met him has rocks in her head and that young man (or any man) is better off without HER...

Children are NOT baggage. They are a blessing and a gift, one that is not to be taken lightly or "pushed" on anyone.

I agree 100%..If you were dating me you wouldn't meet my kids until we were really serious and almost getting married...

 

[Steve The Bluesman]

This is my first experience dating a woman with kids. She is 30 and I'm 24. We have only known each other for 2 months and she is wanting things to go fast. Her kids are 6 and 8. I really like this girl but things are goin so fast. She also asked me "When are you going to warm up to my kids?" Like I am not interacting with them enough. I guess Im not good with kids. Any advice on how to help fix this? Thanks.

Run. For. Your. Fucking. Life.


Bluesman

 

[PICK3]

Make sure the woman's daughters are 18 and hit them too.

 

[rudeboyja]

I been with a few women with kids. Some wanted me to meet the kids, some didn't. You can't be expected to just warm up to the kids. It has to be natural. My buddy is dating someone with kids. I told him it's 2 way. You can't just jump in and be an instant father figure. They have to earn your trust also. But for 2 months, it sounds as if she's being way too pushy with the situation. If she's pushing these kids on you now, I bet she's done it with other men, which means these kids have seen many men come and go. Which also means they most likely will resent you anyway.

 

[javaguru]

I personally wouldnt beable to enter a relationship where the other person already has kids. I know that since they arent my own, I could never truly care for them as much as I would want like they were my own. This chick is probably lookin for a father, you're 24...while thats old enough to be a good dad, you have the option to grow more as a person before you make any child commitments.

Are you 100% sure about this statement because I get the impression you've never been with a woman who has kids? Breaking off the engagement with my ex was hardest because I missed her two kids so much. I saw them "as my own" and I still talk to them and help them out when they need it. They already have a great father in their lives but you would be surprised how quickly you become attached. There are plenty of biological parents who abandon there children without a second thought, my last girlfriend was dealing with this. I'm sure adoptive parents love and cherish their children as much as any good biological parent.

That being said, if he's doubting the situation then he's definitely not ready! He needs to be honest with the mother and it needs to be said as soon as possible. I've dated mostly single mothers and if she's a good parent then she will bring a certain level of maturity and stability you will ahve a hard time finding in a woman the same age without children. Therefore, a serious relationship will be easier in some respects but the children will be a priority and you have to accept that if you want to be in a relationship.

 

[onerepmaximum]

I agree 100%..If you were dating me you wouldn't meet my kids until we were really serious and almost getting married...

But baby, I told you you're the only one for me.

 

[seizer]

Are you 100% sure about this statement because I get the impression you've never been with a woman who has kids? Breaking off the engagement with my ex was hardest because I missed her two kids so much. I saw them "as my own" and I still talk to them and help them out when they need it. They already have a great father in their lives but you would be surprised how quickly you become attached. There are plenty of biological parents who abandon there children without a second thought, my last girlfriend was dealing with this. I'm sure adoptive parents love and cherish their children as much as any good biological parent.

That being said, if he's doubting the situation then he's definitely not ready! He needs to be honest with the mother and it needs to be said as soon as possible. I've dated mostly single mothers and if she's a good parent then she will bring a certain level of maturity and stability you will ahve a hard time finding in a woman the same age without children. Therefore, a serious relationship will be easier in some respects but the children will be a priority and you have to accept that if you want to be in a relationship.

I just say this because I know my self, and that while I could hold someone else child very close to me if i were a step dad or something...i really wouldnt beable to hold them as if they were my own blood. That's just me though.

 

[jenscats5]

This is my first experience dating a woman with kids. She is 30 and I'm 24. We have only known each other for 2 months and she is wanting things to go fast. Her kids are 6 and 8. I really like this girl but things are goin so fast. She also asked me "When are you going to warm up to my kids?" Like I am not interacting with them enough. I guess Im not good with kids. Any advice on how to help fix this? Thanks.

IMO, dating only 2 months is pretty soon to be meeting her children. With them being so young, it's not good for kids to see men go in & out of their's & their mother's lives. The mom's relationships, IMO, should be kept separate from her children.

As for kids -- they aren't for everyone. You are only 24 & have a lot of time to decide if kids are for you or not. If you don't want children, then you prolly shouldn't be in a relationship with a woman who has kids. But if you do, remember, her kids will come first -- not you.

I think it's too soon in your relationship for you to interact with her children. Plus, if you want the relationship to be casual & she wants it serious - you both need to work that out 1st before meeting & interacting with her children.

 

[Dunk]

I did it once. Well, more along the lines of "slept with" than dated. I was 24 and she was 22 with 2 kids. Incredibly hot. Extremely horny. Best sex I ever had. But all that is forgotten quickly when a 2-year-old that isn't yours jumps on the bed you are sleeping in while you are naked under the covers and just gave Mommy a healthy dose of mangoo in the grill 30 minutes ago. Not fun.

My advice - get out and stay out. It's tough for the guy and certainly tough for the woman. I did everything I could possibly do to not get involved with the kids, for their sake. Not easy.

ditto. he rbeing the piece of ass she was was what got me in the beginning.

my ex is my ex for this reason.

im 24 shes 26.

had a lil 3 yearold.

couldnt stand being balls deep in that ass and hearing from the other room

"ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"

..........












"ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"







shut up im tryin to gooj ova here!

 

[javaguru]

I agree 100%..If you were dating me you wouldn't meet my kids until we were really serious and almost getting married...

Is that REALLY practical? There are a lot of bad parents out there who have permamnently damaged their children. Shouldn't the man have a chance to see how the woman interacts with the children and how they behave. After all, if he's walking down the aisle with a woman he's going to be there father. It doesn't have to be a "children this is your new father" introduction but simply hanging out as "mommy's friend javaguru" is always how its been done with me after we were serious.