Dad wasn't dad after all, but still owes child support

[redsamurai]

i guess i just don't think that the biological ties matter that much. he wanted kids, his wife had a kid, and he raised it for however many years. that isn't enough to love the child? he needs to just get over the fact that his wife cheated on him and stop taking it out on the kid

that's his FUCKING MORAL CHOICE TO MAKE.........end of discussion. The state has no moral/ethical right to "make" him love that child.........it's not his. If it was me personally, I'd only take care of the child if she relinquised full custody to me...........or at least enable the father to enact some sort of escrow account the kid can have access to once he/she is 18. But to have any of that money going to the low life is unacceptable. Not even god has the right to judge this man on this matter.......it's his and his alone to do what he wants.

 

[jh1]

i guess i just don't think that the biological ties matter that much. he wanted kids, his wife had a kid, and he raised it for however many years. that isn't enough to love the child? he needs to just get over the fact that his wife cheated on him and stop taking it out on the kid

Love does not equal financial obligation. Many men in this situation have agreed to be part of the children's lives and support them while they are with them, but not to hand over their money to the woman.

Besides - who are you to decide when someone else should love someone?

Maybe that guy has as much love for that child as you do... none.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Love does not equal financial obligation. Many men in this situation have agreed to be part of the children's lives and support them while they are with them, but not to hand over their money to the woman.

Besides - who are you to decide when someone else should love someone?

Maybe that guy has as much love for that child as you do... none.

Did anyone read my post about the man that I know who lived this?

He was actually insulted that his attorney suggested that he doesn't have to pay support for the one child who was not his biological child.

I also stated that I have mad props for him to have arrived at the decision that his ego was far less important than an innocent child.

Can all the sharks pause for a moment and think on that?

 

[redsamurai]

I think you put nimbus in this situation and his stance on this changes VERY drastically..........meh, just a suspicion of mine. Hard to judge this man harshly till you put yourself in his position...........to have your world basically swept out from underneath you...........than have uncle sam double fist you with no reach around?.........and you're supposed to just have a coke and a smile and sit the fuck down? I would just cut my testicles off.......no use for them anymore.........none!

 

[Bikini Mod]

I think you put nimbus in this situation and his stance on this changes VERY drastically..........meh, just a suspicion of mine. Hard to judge this man harshly till you put yourself in his position...........to have your world basically swept out from underneath you...........than have uncle sam double fist you with no reach around?.........and you're supposed to just have a coke and a smile and sit the fuck down? I would just cut my testicles off.......no use for them anymore.........none!

Yea well, it happens the other way too...


Just sayin, life aint fair. PERIOD.

I'd rather be this poor guy then me any day of the week.

 

[redsamurai]

I'd rather be this poor guy then me any day of the week.

what? why? aren't you and grumps happy?

 

[nimbus]

that's his FUCKING MORAL CHOICE TO MAKE.........end of discussion. The state has no moral/ethical right to "make" him love that child.........it's not his. If it was me personally, I'd only take care of the child if she relinquised full custody to me...........or at least enable the father to enact some sort of escrow account the kid can have access to once he/she is 18. But to have any of that money going to the low life is unacceptable. Not even god has the right to judge this man on this matter.......it's his and his alone to do what he wants.

i actually like the escrow account idea a lot. like a college fund of some sorts. the laws in place could definitely use some more work

 

[Smurfy]

Oh my god, this is such bullshit, and it's pissing me off. That man is not the sperm donor. Fine. He doesn't want to pay. Fine. Cut him and his connection and his obligation and his hope for a relationship with a lovely child off. He is missing out. I do; however, believe the man is the victim here and should have the choice once he is allowed to absorb all the fucking bullshit this insane, monetary, self-absorbed excuse for a woman is heaping upon him. That's just my HUMBLE opinion. what do I know?

agreed.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

someone needs to post the pic of the family where the two parents are white but the kid has a lot darker skin and it has the ''pwnd'' message somewhere on the picture...

 

[Bikini Mod]

what? why? aren't you and grumps happy?

My Grump and I are as happy as we can be given our circumstances. Matter of fact, he is a gift from God and I dont know what I did to deserve him!

This guy got shafted, no doubt but we are talking a check here... and yea, I know he is hurt because his whole world was turned upside down. I have had both those situations occur, sucks, truly does, but that is just life.

He didn't have any of his children stolen from him, his job taken, his income hurt because of an incredibly litigious ex, his children abused daily while he is powerles, etc etc etc...

I am not complaining too much mind you, I am just saying let's put it in perspective.

And for me to maintain perspective I always think of the mothers whose children were kidnapped, tortured unspeakably and murdered. With those women I have NO ROOM to consider myself unlucky...

Just talkin about perspective.