Couples Counseling

[Captain FT]

Holy shit I was drunk I don't remember any of these posts last night. Too much Tröegs Mad Elf

 

[Captain FT]

And Quinn you should have taken out Haqqani when you had the chance.

 

[cindylou]

i believe the opposite is true. the masculinity (machismo, whatever you want to call it), would more than likely cause the man to make a decision without thinking it out completely.

the first inclination of a masculine man would be...."fuck it, im out this bitch".

...and may or may not regret it after more rational thoughts come into play.

My definition of masculine has changed, real men do what they can to keep their families together. They try, they forgive, they recognize mistakes. They're fathers and husbands. Men are mature. Not overgrown boys with out of control egos. A lot of men that I've talked to, yes when your wife or husband cheats it is extremely painful, but survivable and fixable. Some of you...it's your egos that can't handle it. Women also feel the same pain but we don't have that ego thing you guys have. I'm not saying it's like that across the board, just in general.

 

[wootoom]

My definition of masculine has changed, real men do what they can to keep their families together. They try, they forgive, they recognize mistakes. They're fathers and husbands. Men are mature. Not overgrown boys with out of control egos. A lot of men that I've talked to, yes when your wife or husband cheats it is extremely painful, but survivable and fixable. Some of you...it's your egos that can't handle it. Women also feel the same pain but we don't have that ego thing you guys have. I'm not saying it's like that across the board, just in general.

I agree and disagree. It all depends on the situation. Like I said before, you have to make sure you are happy in your life, what's the point of trying to keep a family together just for the sake of kids. It's not healthy on both sides. Some people just aren't meant to be together and only over time couples will see that.

 

[caligirl85]

i dunno man he does like gay Toyotas

lol hilarious

 

[Captain FT]

My definition of masculine has changed, real men do what they can to keep their families together. They try, they forgive, they recognize mistakes. They're fathers and husbands. Men are mature. Not overgrown boys with out of control egos. A lot of men that I've talked to, yes when your wife or husband cheats it is extremely painful, but survivable and fixable. Some of you...it's your egos that can't handle it. Women also feel the same pain but we don't have that ego thing you guys have. I'm not saying it's like that across the board, just in general.

That's exactly it, I guess I'm masculine then.

 

[cindylou]

I agree and disagree. It all depends on the situation. Like I said before, you have to make sure you are happy in your life, what's the point of trying to keep a family together just for the sake of kids. It's not healthy on both sides. Some people just aren't meant to be together and only over time couples will see that.

I do agree with that too.

 

[Captain FT]

I agree and disagree. It all depends on the situation. Like I said before, you have to make sure you are happy in your life, what's the point of trying to keep a family together just for the sake of kids. It's not healthy on both sides. Some people just aren't meant to be together and only over time couples will see that.

I wouldn't be be going through with making things work if I wasn't happy. I agree with that too. If time goes by and I find in not happy or can't get over it then I will move on and separate. But to decide to separate the moment you find out and not try to make your existing relationship better for the sake of your kids and family and wife that's just cowardly. You have to take a step back and find out what went wrong, how it went wrong and fix it. If after you've made that effort you feel it still won't work then at least you tried. I'm at the trying stage right now.

 

[wootoom]

I do agree with that too.

I'm sure you were more talking about this situation and I agree with you, obviously FT loves his wife more than anything and wants to make it work. If she does as well, then I think it's definitely saveable.

 

[Captain FT]

I do love her unconditionally, and I've proven that to her by being willing to make this work. Now it's her turn to do the same and prove it to me. We are also working to understand how this all started through counseling.