C&C Sex discussion (not for bts)

[velvett]

sure and they also taught me that some lady had a baby, but never had sex, and that baby died for our sins so we could sing his father's praises for all eternity.

You think i believed much of what they said after THAT cocked up story?

 

[Lestat]

I think we've figured something out here.

a lot of people think that you can't talk about sex without it being bragging, or an ego thing.

For me and my friends its anything BUT taht, usually its the guys asking more questions and the person who is talking about it is more reluctant just because its embarassing if you are not used to it.

you are right though, we do have this one friend who is in his 30s and is a virgin, and we don't tell stories around him because it DOES make him feel bad. The difference is, he does hate on us, he WISHES he was getting laid and doesn't have to try to pretend like its some grand choice he made to be celebate at age 36.

 

[Lestat]

I would say it's a pride game for a lot men. Funny thing is, once you really do get "out there" and are one amongst the competition or the "herd", you realize very well that when dudes start using sex or talk of girls to sound bigger, they're actually weaker. ANYONE who has to use sex to power themselves is weak. Why? Because sex is something that we can all get and do. It's not hard. SO, not only are you taking credibility for something that can be attained by so many, but you are also saying that something else within you is lacking forcing you to bring this up. Insecurities, as killah stated.

Should you speak of sex with others....depends. You pretty much have to think if it's absolutely necessary that someone else has to know you hit that shit. Otherwise, to me, it's like taking a shit or eating food. It's something that humans do, we know it goes on behind closed doors...we can assume you do or dont. But we dont HAVE to know. Infact, your better off to keep your mouth shut. Modesty will get you even further AND when you keep some of your cards hidden, you keep people guessing about you. Mystery is appeal aswell.

I'm the opposite.

I guess I grew up thinking things were really weird, or uncommon. Why? because no one in my social circles talked about stuff, they subscribed to your philosophy of mystery or whatever.

Personally I've been a much happier person since I've started living life a little more open, more free, I realized that many other people enjoy the same things I do, and that there is no reason to be embarassed or ashamed about certain things that are almost inherant to people in general.

Sex has been glamorized by some, demonized by others. Its been manipulated for many purposes.

When I post about sex on here, its not because I am trying to impress people, who gives a fuck, I'll make up anything I want and post pictures of shit that is not mine and say it is if that was what I wanted to do.

Generally I post sexual stories for two reasons:
1) its interesting to see when people on here have shared similar experiences
2) I know some people find them enjoyable to read, and a turn on

I don't post them to make other peopel feel bad about their own lack of sex, and if that is happening I am sorry and all I can say is don't read them if its going to make you feel shitty.

 

[velvett]

a lot of people think that you can't talk about sex without it being bragging, or an ego thing.

EH, maybe.

I've just noticed that you talk about it less and less as you get older - maybe if your still a player or maybe if you are unhappy about the 65 sec sex without orgasm you're having at home you may be tempted to talk about it.

 

[T-Matt]

I think we've figured something out here.

a lot of people think that you can't talk about sex without it being bragging, or an ego thing.

For me and my friends its anything BUT taht, usually its the guys asking more questions and the person who is talking about it is more reluctant just because its embarassing if you are not used to it.

you are right though, we do have this one friend who is in his 30s and is a virgin, and we don't tell stories around him because it DOES make him feel bad. The difference is, he does hate on us, he WISHES he was getting laid and doesn't have to try to pretend like its some grand choice he made to be celebate at age 36.

Yeah, have you ever noticed that all the dudes that talk about getting ass (and get ass) don't talk shit about each other. The two guys cheers and say 'good shit, i'm proud of you.. you're inspiring me to up my game and bag a better broad.' It's all in good spirits..

Oh dear lord, then there's the guy who's always been the dork of his circle of friends who tries to bring logic to everything.. "Well, ya know, he's talking about sex all the time, so technically people who brag don't get it.. Shit, he's probably just jealous that i'm so much smarter than he is, so fuck him, i'll show him up." kinda shit and the no-ass getter has to start talking about about the guy who's pulling all the chicks.. He is who is the insecure one..

If it offends you that other guys are talking about sex with chicks, then maybe you're fucking gay.. shit, I don't know.. Stop trying to bring logic to male-female interactions.. you're just going to confuse yourself into another night of Palmela Handerson..

T-Matt

 

[seizer]

I'm the opposite.

I guess I grew up thinking things were really weird, or uncommon. Why? because no one in my social circles talked about stuff, they subscribed to your philosophy of mystery or whatever.

Personally I've been a much happier person since I've started living life a little more open, more free, I realized that many other people enjoy the same things I do, and that there is no reason to be embarassed or ashamed about certain things that are almost inherant to people in general.

Sex has been glamorized by some, demonized by others. Its been manipulated for many purposes.

When I post about sex on here, its not because I am trying to impress people, who gives a fuck, I'll make up anything I want and post pictures of shit that is not mine and say it is if that was what I wanted to do.

Generally I post sexual stories for two reasons:
1) its interesting to see when people on here have shared similar experiences
2) I know some people find them enjoyable to read, and a turn on

I don't post them to make other peopel feel bad about their own lack of sex, and if that is happening I am sorry and all I can say is don't read them if its going to make you feel shitty.

I hear ya. For me, its not that I think it's "weird" or something. I just dont have any reason to tell others. Like, I dont think telling them really benifits them or I unless its a memorable or funny story.

 

[Lestat]

EH, maybe.

I've just noticed that you talk about it less and less as you get older - maybe if your still a player or maybe if you are unhappy about the 65 sec sex without orgasm you're having at home you may be tempted to talk about it.

its not as novel and new either, if a couple were to go to a swingers club or try soething new I have a feeling they might want to talk about it (with like minded people of course)

 

[velvett]

I would say it's a pride game for a lot men. Funny thing is, once you really do get "out there" and are one amongst the competition or the "herd", you realize very well that when dudes start using sex or talk of girls to sound bigger, they're actually weaker. ANYONE who has to use sex to power themselves is weak. Why? Because sex is something that we can all get and do. It's not hard. SO, not only are you taking credibility for something that can be attained by so many, but you are also saying that something else within you is lacking forcing you to bring this up. Insecurities, as killah stated.

THAT'S IT!

SEX is easy.

 

[Lestat]

I hear ya. For me, its not that I think it's "weird" or something. I just dont have any reason to tell others. Like, I dont think telling them really benifits them or I unless its a memorable or funny story.

well yeah, I don't relate the details of every sexual experience with others, only ones that are different/unique/special/etc

 

[Lestat]

THAT'S IT!

SEX is easy.

some sex is easy