Bdsm???

[chazk]

So, I found out that the bf I had in Texas is into BDSM. WTF? I didn't know. I dug him, but evidently he would like to have tied me up etc. in the sack. LOL. Which got me thinking, I don't even know the proper role of the submissive in that sort of relationship during that sort of thing. I mean, is the submissive supposed to act like they are fighting to get free? act like they like it? act like they hate it? just lie there like a dead trout on the 5th of July?



Screw that noise.

Chances are you would have played a few games. fox chase a fake set up where he chases you around then devoures you. Hot and cold play . Candle wax dripping on you'r body then cold object such as a spoon from the freezer being rubbed across you're back.Cat and dog ,where to fight and put up and good struggle but submit to sex.
Most lamo's use bdsm as a excuse to tie a girl up and shove it in her ass and she can not say no gagged and bonded.

Turn it around on him if he wants to dominate you tell him he must submit first
cuckhold him and make him a real bitch. Make him vacum the house house naked with a pair up panties on his head. Throw him on a lease and pull him around like a doggie.Tie him up nude and throw some rubbing alcohol on his ball sack.

When a guy starts pulling that i wann tie you up and spank and beat you . Tell him you have something else in mind , chances are he will drop it really quick when he relizes you are his equal or atleast wont be a submissive very eazy.

 

[chazk]

I guess I could go along with it a little bit every once in a blue moon, but once it gets really kinky/fetish-y I begin to think it is funny or ridiculous and not sexy at all. I'm more into passion/sensuality.

I know what you mean it becomes commical after awhile , A local dominatrix used me as a prop at a club on fetish night. I am kinda beefey so I can take alot of abuse.
It is so funny I can't stop luaghing at the whole set up , they two leathered up hotties use a doubled leather strap on me , when it hits the skin it makes a explosive sound like flesh blowing off the bones. But in reality it just goes numb and you dont feel pain anymore.
Over and over mixing it in with a small cane,flogger and leather whip.

Nothing is sexy about it then , it is very intense it becomes funny! to the point I fall down luaghing

so yes once in a blue moon or every other month would be ok. But when it becomes a daily or weekly thing it could actually get borning or very commical ...

A girl at this event in the crowd stood up and yelled " stop it just stop please " then came over to untie me . I guess she had a mothering fetish becuase she took a towel whiped down my back and the blood where a few lashes cracked the skin. then she was telling me it was going to be o.k

I guess thier is a fetish for everyone I suppose

 

[nefertiti]

hmmmm...I dont understand how if you love and adore someone you would want to make them wear a collar, like a possession.

???

I'm trying to get my head around the psychology of that.

You aren't making them...the submissive wants it.

 

[chazk]

You aren't making them...the submissive wants it.

+1 chances are if someone has to think bout being submissive , then bdsm is not for them..

 

[heatherrae]

You aren't making them...the submissive wants it.

why? what does the submissive person get out of it?

 

[cindylou]

why? what does the submissive person get out of it?

turned on

 

[heatherrae]

+1 chances are if someone has to think bout being submissive , then bdsm is not for them..

well, if being submissive entailed just lying there and eating snacky cakes then I would definitely be into that.

I should tell men I have a lazy ass fetish.

 

[heatherrae]

Chances are you would have played a few games. fox chase a fake set up where he chases you around then devoures you. Hot and cold play . Candle wax dripping on you'r body then cold object such as a spoon from the freezer being rubbed across you're back.Cat and dog ,where to fight and put up and good struggle but submit to sex.
Most lamo's use bdsm as a excuse to tie a girl up and shove it in her ass and she can not say no gagged and bonded.

Turn it around on him if he wants to dominate you tell him he must submit first
cuckhold him and make him a real bitch. Make him vacum the house house naked with a pair up panties on his head. Throw him on a lease and pull him around like a doggie.Tie him up nude and throw some rubbing alcohol on his ball sack.

When a guy starts pulling that i wann tie you up and spank and beat you . Tell him you have something else in mind , chances are he will drop it really quick when he relizes you are his equal or atleast wont be a submissive very eazy.

LOL...what sort of people do you hang around with.

I dig the play wrestling thing, though, really. Everyone likes that, I bet.

 

[nefertiti]

why? what does the submissive person get out of it?

You've never been turned on by the idea of complete submission of control in the bedroom? Forget bdsm for a second...and look at it like this. There is something completely liberating and....empowering to choose to give up all control, but yes - it requires a LOT of trust. That's the dynamic you're not getting, though both spy and I said it...it's the submissive who always maintains control. The dominant partner is merely giving the submissive what he or she desires. I don't really get into the BDSM thing (don't ask why I know so much about it), but I'm not going to lie...there are aspects of submission that I definitely understand the appeal of. Hmmmm....I'm going to send you a (fictional) story I wrote a while back...might illuminate things a little...PM coming.

 

[heatherrae]

You've never been turned on by the idea of complete submission of control in the bedroom? Forget bdsm for a second...and look at it like this. There is something completely liberating and....empowering to choose to give up all control, but yes - it requires a LOT of trust. That's the dynamic you're not getting, though both spy and I said it...it's the submissive who always maintains control. The dominant partner is merely giving the submissive what he or she desires. I don't really get into the BDSM thing (don't ask why I know so much about it), but I'm not going to lie...there are aspects of submission that I definitely understand the appeal of. Hmmmm....I'm going to send you a (fictional) story I wrote a while back...might illuminate things a little...PM coming.

Okay, thanks. No, I'm not really turned on by giving up control. Actually, it scares me. I guess that is maybe why I can't get it.