Attention Ladies! How long did it take you to get off after you lost your virginity?

[Jafar]

So I took my current girlfriend's virginity and I'm having a hard time getting her to orgasm. We've probably done it about 20 times now but she still gets rather sore and certain positions/styles are still painful.

How long does it take most women after they lose their virginity? I've never had a problem with it in the past, but I'm not real experianced with this virgin deal.

She has gotten close, but I can't seem to push her over the edge.

Any input on this?

 

[jamie S]

be patient

Be patient.... I waited till 19 and I'm glad I did.

The first couple of times arent the best fun ...I remember thinking "that's it??...its not like on melrose" (LOL)... Its more pyschological than anything...she will get more comfortable with you in time, so just be patient. I think it takes time in a relationship for the best sex to happen -..once you start getting to know each other's bodies/likes better

When she's relaxed..it'll happen.

 

[Sassy69]

What jamie s said - physically "virginity" is over when the hymen is broken (excluding technicalities of doing this w/ a tampon vs. a penis) - so already there's been a certain degree of trauma to her body and then some new uses of those muscles. Give it some time - kinda like letting a cut heal....

And maybe even better, give consideration for the experience she and her body have just been through - time to turn on the charm, attention, tenderness, romantic stuff, etc. Also if she is so busy trying to get to that point of achieving more pleasure than pain, she might be more nervous about it and thus might not be relaxing as much as she could be - sort of like when you get a stiff neck when you are under a lot of pressure.

Good luck - it is a good thing! (And remember SAFE SEX! unless you are ready to become parents while seeking sexual pleasure)

 

[KINGKONG69]

JAFAR, HOW OLD IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND

 

[Jafar]

Thanks for the Input. I've often thought she needed to relax more. I've tried to be as sensative about this whole thing as possible with her.

She is 22. Yes a 22 year old virgin. Keep in mind I'm in Utah.

Also, is it normal for a girl to get the feeling like she has to pee during the first few times? This has gone away for the most part but she still gets it in certain positions.

 

[jamie S]

yes

Yes that can happen ... (esp in d-style)

RE: WAITING - I remember it being a big thing for me - hence waiting. And even though I was physically ready for it...sometimes the pysch. thing takes a while too......

My first boyfriend and I used to look back and laugh b/c for the first while in the relationship I was still uncomfortable with the whole thing and couldnt Totally let go...... but like i said you get comfortable...and things get BETTER...

 

[tropicdude]

First off, can she have an orgasm on her own? she needs to learn to get off on her own, its a learning experience.

i know this will sound old fashion, but my wife was a virgin on our wedding night, but we fooled around alot before hand, and had on a couple of ocasions given her orgasms just sucking on her breasts.

the first night was very uncomfortable for her, but after the pain goes away, no problem. but she knew what an orgasm was and knew what the feelings are that lead up to it. she told me she started masterbating when she was 13. some women just dont do that, and havent learned.

Tips:

lots of foreplay,

use lube.

if all else fails, get her off orally.

 

[strongchick]

After losing my virginity, I tried to orgasm with a couple of different guys, but no dice. I could do it myself, however.

I didn't learn how to orgasm with a guy until I did it with a girl.

 

[pocahontas]

Jafar sounds like you need to explore her body to find her erogenous zones. You want to make her feel good. She'll then want you more. Good foreplay is a great start to build up an orgasm. Once that's achieved she won't be able to handle it and let go.

 

[pocahontas]

Jafar sounds like you need to explore her body to find her erogenous zones. You want to make her feel good. She'll then want you more. Good foreplay is a great start to build up an orgasm. Once that's achieved she won't be able to handle it and let go.