Try this my friend, go out on the internet or grab a few mags, cut out some pics of bodys you want to have, even go as far as puting your face on them. Carry one around, and put one on the fridge. How bad do you want it, you can do it, just have will power, with all things time is key, it took you time to put the weight on, and time to get it off but in the end if you buckle down, you will be happy, no cake, pie, candy, sweets etc will make you feel better than looking your best, feeling confident, and knowing you have accomplished something.