Am I Stupid????

[drols of steel]

O.K this may get a little long but what the hell. A little background on me first of all. I have dealt with alot of fucked up women, cheating on me and whatnot, always just the women that I have actually loved and believed they felt the same. I didn't have an actual relationship due to this fact (Other than 1 night stands for 4 years) So, I met this girl. I'm 28 and she just turned 20. I met her on "Myspace" She seemed like a great girl. Beautiful, great personality the whole 9. Anyway, She picked me up at my house and I took her to a movie for our 1st date, afterward to the bar for some drinks. We left the bar and she brought me 2 her house, where I obviously Hit It. (1st Night) She gives me the whole "I never do this sort of thing" anyway, I really dig this chick so I overlook her quickness to fuck me (A total stranger) I for some reason am Very into this girl, we spend every minute of the next 3 days together. She by this time has already told me "I don't know why but I have these feelings for you that I can't even explain, I just feel so comfortable with you, I want to date you exclusively" So I agree, I feel the same way. On the 4th day she teels me how she has to go up north for the night to visit her college roomate, so she does. comes back the next day, everythings fine for a month. I move her into my apartment, I start to get these bad gut feelings so I Hack her Myspace account, to find all these different guys that she is trying to holler at for the 1st couple weeks that we were together so I freak out and go home and confront her, she begins crying telling me that she's sorry and she only did it for the 1st couple weeks we were together because she didn't actually love me then but that she does now and that she hasn't spoken to them since she realized that she indeed loves me, this was true, they did stop after about 2.5 weeks and then no more. She is crying at this point and I tell her, "Tell me EVERYTHING that you may have done because I WILL find out, and If I do and you failed to mention it, your GONE. She tells me how much she Loves me and that the night she went out of town there was this guy that she met that night, well actually she met him on MYSPACE only talked to him once and drove 2 hours to meet him for the 1st time, and that they KISSED, I looked her in the eye and said "Did you FUCK HIM" she was like "YEAH" Boo Hoo Hoo...ect. So basicilly she had already told me that she wanted me and only me but then the next day makes plans with some random DoucheBag and Fucks and sucks, just to come back to me the next night and have me, I can only imagine probally go down on her and everything else. But I actually stay with this broad, this is 2 months ago that I found out, we still live together and everything is actually Great, I truly believes that she loves me whole heartedly, and she says she wants to marry me, as do I. the only thing is, I CAN NOT GET THIS out of my HEAD!! No matter what I do, and from time to time I get these gut feelings like she fucking up, It is just so hard to trust her, but I truly feel that she IS THE ONE!!! I Honestly Love her with everything that I am. WHat do I do...Please any suggestions, please keep it mature..I really do need some suggestions though, because I feel like spying on her and everything else and I dont want to lose her because now I seem like some PSYCHO!!! I'm really not, I just don't want to get played like some Bitch..I'm nobody's Fool. Help?????

 

[gettinstarted]

Dump the chick bro! If she cheated on you she doesn't love you.. get out before she cheats again

 

[ilikeem18]

Been there, that is had my long time girl cheat on me. Men are visual, so no, your going to keep picturing her fucking this guy in your head. So my advice is to leave before you waste anymore time. Trust me I went out and fucked the other guy up and it still didnt help. The problem is allways going to be there, and the problem is her. Get rid of her and the problem is gone.

 

[T-Matt]

Been there, that is had my long time girl cheat on me. Men are visual, so no, your going to keep picturing her fucking this guy in your head. So my advice is to leave before you waste anymore time. Trust me I went out and fucked the other guy up and it still didnt help. The problem is allways going to be there, and the problem is her. Get rid of her and the problem is gone.

Solid advice.

T-Matt

 

[jacked clown]

OMG...Myspace and shit. Oh God I seriously feel for you bro but its myspace and shes a slut. So she will probably end up with me cause I like sluts and I have no real emotions on anything

 

[ponyfitness]

Let's summarize.

You met a girl on Myspace who is 8 years younger = bad idea
(28 and 20 are worlds apart on the maturity scale although it's pretty obvious you aren't the most grown up guy in the world)

You hit it on the first night and believed you were the only one = bad idea

You moved her into your apartment after a MONTH = bad idea

You hacked her account because you didn't trust her = bad idea

She admitted she fucked another guy less than a week into your relationship and you let her stay around = bad idea

Dude. Seriously. Get your freaking head together otherwise you deserve everything that you have right now. This isn't a relationship, it's an abnormal psychology textbook. You don't trust her, she lied to you and cheated on you and you think she's the one? You're kidding yourself.

 

[Stryker1992]

Let's summarize.

You met a girl on Myspace who is 8 years younger = bad idea
(28 and 20 are worlds apart on the maturity scale although it's pretty obvious you aren't the most grown up guy in the world)

You hit it on the first night and believed you were the only one = bad idea

You moved her into your apartment after a MONTH = bad idea

You hacked her account because you didn't trust her = bad idea

She admitted she fucked another guy less than a week into your relationship and you let her stay around = bad idea

Dude. Seriously. Get your freaking head together otherwise you deserve everything that you have right now. This isn't a relationship, it's an abnormal psychology textbook. You don't trust her, she lied to you and cheated on you and you think she's the one? You're kidding yourself.

FIND A FUCKING THERAPIST BRO! but before you get real and dump her ass, make her gag on your cock till she pukes the cum from the 4 others guys she blew earlier in the day!

 

[jacked clown]

Like i said i want her...www.myspace.com/(Insert her site)

 

[solidspine]

She is too young and screwed in the head, move on, don't live with here,

even if you want to see her, it will take 5-10 years for her to get her head straight.

 

[Cutiebaby]

First off- How long have you been with her?
Second off- Why come onto a internet forum looking for advice???
No one here can tell you what to do, you need to do what you think is best.
All you are goin to get from an internet chat board is conflicting results....People are going to tell you to ditch the bitch and others will tell you to take a chance..Yet the only opinion that really matters here is yours..personally people fuck up, they make mistakes.....If you feel in your heart that you cannot forgive and will never trust her again than let her go..If you can look past this bullshit than go for it, make what you can out of it. You sound like you have actual feelings for this girl, are you willing to forgive her and move on? Maybe what she says is true, maybe she got freaked out because you were breaking down walls to her heart and she did not know how to respond to that. I know it sounds like a suckass excuse seeings how you were the one hurt here, but it does happen....
Bottom line is- Take time to yourself and think the situation through fully.No one here can tell you what is best, only your heart and mind can make that type of a decision.
Good luck

 

[KD1]

Dump the slut.

But first make some porno with her and post it all over the net and newsgroups, hell even her myspace account if you can hack it.

 

[5150guy]

...... Maybe what she says is true, maybe she got freaked out because you were breaking down walls to her heart and she did not know how to respond to that. I know it sounds like a suckass excuse seeings how you were the one hurt here, but it does happen....Good luck

Come on Angel, can you honestly say that you would if tolerate this if the tables were turned? No even remotely mentally healthy woman would tolerate such a lame excuse. If it were a man who did this, the ladies would be calling for his nuts to be cut off, and that he be kicked to the curb stat!!!! ....once a cheater always a cheater ect.

Drols-cut your loses on this one, and get out while you can. This woman will take you down her own personal road of insanity if you let her, and I can guaretee you that she does not respect you. If she did, she would not have dropped her drawers for those other guys. Show some self respect (becuse she will not respect you until you do) and love yourself enough to stand up for yourself and go after someone more deserving. Do what you should have done some time ago-get rid of her. Do you think she would tolerate this from you if the shoe was on the other foot?

I ask you what sort of a foundation is this to build a long lasting healthy benefitial relationship upon? The fact that you love her is a bit disturbing as well. Just remember this-you can always love a person that you trust, but you can not always trust a person that you love. If you have to choose between love and trust-always choose trust.

You will do her a favor if you kick her out right now and not see her any longer in any capacity. she may have a chance to change as she is still quite young, and she will be a better person if she does get and accept this wake up call and makes those changes. Think of it as tough love if you have to-just do it!!!!

 

[peejae]

your story almost sounds pretty close to mine. met the chic on the internet. went on a date fucked her.dated her told me she loved me. i was the only one etc etc etc same shit as yours except for the myspace it was aol. so i 2 hacked her internet account found all kinds of shit while we were dating. etc etc etc same story as yours.took her back thought she was the one just like you couldnt get it outta my head though,but here is the catcher i married her whooooo what a dumbass i was.
anyway after we are married she starts her internet games again cuz im such a jealous freak at this point that is all i think about. it consumed my life. etc etc etc a few fights here and there. I get deplyed to afgahnistan. bitch takes all my money goes to vegas takes all her friends on my dime. buys a bunch of shit for her ex fiance with my money and fucks him to. basically drains me dry. yada yada yada i get home she gives me the same song and dance as always you know im sorry i love you it wont happen again. BULLSHIT!!!!!!
anyway dropped her ass after that my life has never been better i was actually able to get myself debt free without her money grubbin ass around. so yeah take my story for what its worth. they only get crafty and find diff ways to hide shit that you dont know about yet then you will get hit with the ton a bricks and it will consume you get out now im telling you its so easy just take her shit box it up and put it out front . nuff said .

 

[redsamurai]

always go with your gut! she may really think she loves you, but her obvious self esteem issues will have her seeking men out because the good things in her life, ie you right now, will eventually go away. This is a lost cause......projects never work. Solidspine was right......she's got at least 10 years ahead of her for straightening her life out.....do you really want to be on that ride? cause when she finds out who she is, she may not love you........and that's more painful than anything....helping someone through their shit, and then them realizing that they don't really love you. It's very "using", so to say. So do yourself a favor and find a mature woman who's made it out there on her own and knows who the fuck she is. Those women you meet that intimidate you.....those are the one's......they challenge you.

 

[SlimJim52]

What was the question again?

Get that HO out of your house, and don't be stupid like that again. DAM!

 

[jimi3times]

Screw around with one of her friends. Let her taste that shit.

 

[Wulfgar]

www.robbinsbros.com/

 

[Nohaters78]

This is actually really funny!! I did a search on my old screen name on here and found this old ass post that I posted, It's funny olnly because I actually married this girl in July of 07 and honestly it was probably the very BEST thing I EVER did!!! I was so nieve when I first got with her and just all together insecure. She has actually turned out to be the MOST trustworthy girl that I have EVER been with, This girl eats, sleeps and BREATHES "ME"!!!!! I couldn't in a million years prey for a girl as loya or as loving as she is, she admitted that she had made a mistake and I also realized that I shouldn't have over reacted at the time I was only with her for a few days and somehow I expected her to have some kind of Loyalty to me (A TOTAL STRANGER) More or Less!! But it is funny how things turn out though, I remember when I wrote this I was having so many doubts and now looking back it seems almost funny!! My WIFE is a great woman, truley my OTHER HALF!!! We have a baby on the way in 6 months, and life is good for now!! I admit I have some problems keeping my dick in my pants, but I just have to continue reminding MYSELF just how special she is to me!!! Sorry Bros for bringing thhis old stuff out of the archives but I thought it deserved an update!! Peace, Nohaters aka Drols of steel

 

[KD1]

Wow hope this works out but it sounds really risky and will likely cost you a lot of money and the ability to ever trust another women.

If she has cheated on you before getting married, its 99% likely she will cheat afterwards.

I give it 5 years max.

 

[BNG]

So now she's loyal to you but you have prob's keepin ur dick in ur pants??? WTF???

 

[Nohaters78]

Not so much have a problem, It's just I find myself easily tempted as do I dunno 99% of the male population, Fortunatly I have some amount of control.

 

[glover]

Get over your ego. If you like her that is fine you do not own her. I do not think you guys sound mature enough to be commited to only each other.

You should keep her and both of you see others. She won't leave you if you give her freedom.

 

[jacobk]

Take nude pictures of her to give to your friends...