when all is said and done, we must go back to the begining...IF we would look at what our "motives" are, and be truthful with them, 90% of the BS would never occur in the first place. Heather had a very real and simple point- which is where relationships should evolve from, that is wanting to be in something that is enduring and special...In order to have THIS- the "motive" must be shared by both...otherwise you have two people going in opposite directions trying to hold hands.
Having respect for each other is what is "golden". if this is met at the begining, the journey can be enjoyed, no matter what the distance.