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Why do married people stop having sex?
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digimon7068
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married 18 years in june. . .been together 21 years in october. . .still get bizzy 3 to 5 times per week. . .got bizzy sunday, tuesday and thursday. . .gonna get bizzy again tonight 
married 18 years in june. . .been together 21 years in october. . .still get bizzy 3 to 5 times per week. . .got bizzy sunday, tuesday and thursday. . .gonna get bizzy again tonight
"Oohhhh look at me, my marriage is awesome"**
**im sure thats a repost too
*ebony*
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not sure. not married yet, but teh future husband would def be getting raped on a regular basis.
take care of what scenario? Sex? Last I checked it takes two to take care of that. By yourself it's called masturbation.
So, if a woman starts taking a man for granted it's the man's fault? And if the relationship doesn't work out it's the man's fault? So, women in your mind, have no choice in the matter?
digimon7068
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i'm not sure what he's referring too but, i'm gonna take a "stab" at it. . .generally speaking, in most "traditional" relationships (call me old if you want. . .but i'm still getting lots of hawt sex) the man is the pursuer (sp?) and the woman is the pursued (sp?) and that's the way it is. . .so, once you "have her", if you stop pursuing, chances are your sex life is gonna taper off. . .i still pursue her. . .i still get lots of sex. . .it's a wee bit more complicated than that, i'm sure, but i'm speaking in generalities.
digimon7068
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nah. . .just the same-old, same-old, i'm easily amused to a certain extent i suppose
And by pursuing you actually mean using chloroform.
that reminds me, your wife wanted me to tell you to stop bugging her to have sex.
Digi is partly right in what I am talking about
But also this:
if am man has chosen to put a ring on a women s finger he should have done so only when he was sure of most things.
if all of a sudden or gradual things go south, then it was his own fault for asking her to marry.
he should have know better about her and himself....
redshirt27se
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so whenever a marriage fails, it is the man's fault?
that's obviously not true, but it's what you are saying.
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lartinos
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Melohh is my gf is case anyone didn't know.
We had this discussion in the car before.
She asked if I would cheat on her if she eventually stopped having sex with me.
That's when she posted the thread. I told her that it depends why we would have the problems and that I would think about a divorce.
We had this discussion in the car before.
She asked if I would cheat on her if she eventually stopped having sex with me.
That's when she posted the thread. I told her that it depends why we would have the problems and that I would think about a divorce.
no of course, not
I am saying its the mans fault if he married someone with the propensity to betray him or de-value him like that
redshirt27se
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people change. It's pretty hard to blame the man for his wife's misdoings on the basis that he "should have known better."
the man has the opportunity for courte ship
he should have looked at her character to see
also he should have lived with her for a bit through some challenges before marrying
that is when you start to know someone
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lartinos
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Melohh just said she agreed with what omega said and I told her I disagree because things happen and people also grow apart.
I am not the same exact person I was five years ago for example. People and things change. I have seen it before. No one has a crystal ball and will positively know how things will work out. You can't just marry anyone of course, but just because you made a great choice guarantees nothing.
no one is the exact same person as they evolve, but usually their "roots" gravitate towards certain things
that is why the guy should take great time and care before he is sure to put a ring on
this is just my opinion , I do not seek to be right over anyone, I am just sharing how I feel...
-O
that is why the guy should take great time and care before he is sure to put a ring on
this is just my opinion , I do not seek to be right over anyone, I am just sharing how I feel...
-O
redshirt27se
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I can't agree with this at all. Pretty much exactly what Lartinos said is how I feel. 5 years ago, I was different in so many ways than I am today. Would a female who was with me then, still be with me today provided I had a steady relationship that whole time? Possibly, but who is to know? I certainly wouldn't blame a female for a change that I made.
javaguru
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I'll give you some words of wisdom spoken to me by a marriage therapist friend of mine, "A man gets married hoping his wife will never change and a woman gets married hoping to change her husband." That's from a guy with almost 20 years of clinical experience and as basic as he could boil it down.
jnevin
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Jesus fucking christ you're a pussy.
lol. spoken like an idealistic man who's never been married.
Just curious omega, and you don't have to answer, but what is the longest (romantic type) relationship you've ever been in?
. .got bizzy sunday, tuesday and thursday. . .gonna get bizzy again tonight
She's cheating on you Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays!
and of course she rests on Saturday, like a good Jew!
bakemeacookie
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Ask Tiger Woods or Jesse James
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married 18 years in june. . .been together 21 years in october. . .still get bizzy 3 to 5 times per week. . .got bizzy sunday, tuesday and thursday. . .gonna get bizzy again tonight
Married 15 years, my typical days are Fri, Sat, Mon, Wed. When my wife's on vacation we'll sometimes go 6 days in a row.
It just takes effort, the man has to continue to work at seduction and the woman has allow herself to be seduced.
You drug her don't you?
b0und
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I wanna marry ebony....not sure. not married yet, but teh future husband would def be getting raped on a regular basis.
b0und (I Do)
Let's see how it holds up after 15 years of marriage, 2 kids, a demanding job, and a changed perspective on life over the past 15 years. Hopefully, it does hold up. However, too often, it doesn't.
Thats just stupid......EVERY guy I have ever known who got married, their wife all but cut them off from sex within 2 years of getting married.
And you think its all their fault somehow?
Women are notorious for pulling that shit.
kx250rider
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I think a lot of times, with the stress of daily life, maybe both husband & wife have to work, and maybe kids, bills, problems, weight gain, self esteem crapping out, etc etc.... It just puts the flame out. And they stay together as friends, but the physical part dims down and disappears. That happened with my ex-GF and me, and we still lived together for several years, thinking it would just fix itself. Naturally it didn't, and we split up on good terms and are still friends.
I've been married now for 2 1/2 years, and have done a lot of self-relization. My wife is a MUCH MUCH better match for me, and me for her, than either of us ever had in past relationships. Our sex life is better than anyone could ever want!
Charles
I've been married now for 2 1/2 years, and have done a lot of self-relization. My wife is a MUCH MUCH better match for me, and me for her, than either of us ever had in past relationships. Our sex life is better than anyone could ever want!
Charles
digimon7068
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nah. . .i just dump a couple of beers in her head (she only weighs like 105) and next thing i know we're bangin' like a screen door in a hurricane
do you have any real world experience outside of the gym? i respect your knowledge on training and your mod duties, but in alot of posts you talk in vague, generalized statements - many which are completely opinion based and flawed in numerous ways. your entire theory on relationships and how a man is at fault for everything is completely ridiculous. either you have little to no experience in long term relationships, have had very few relationships, or when speaking about this topic, just have no fucking clue what youre talking about. to have a relationship implies 2 people being involved. failure is the result of 2 parties not living up to their part of the agreement. ive never heard a male blame other males for intangibles so easily. so a cheating wife is the fault of a man not looking into his crystal ball and reading it properly? sorry, youre way off line here.
Boredom.
digimon7068
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i've said this before. . .i'm a little bit like a beagle i suppose. . .you can feed me the same thing, everyday, for my whole life. . .and everyday at 5pm, when i'm laying in front of the fireplace, and i hear that food bag rattle, i'll leap to my feet and yell YES!!!! FOOOOOOOODDDDDD!!!!!!
You got that right Brian!
But those that do listen become enlightened indeed!
***Now taking applications for the Church Of Brian.
javaguru
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You got that right Brian!
But those that do listen become enlightened indeed!
***Now taking applications for the Church Of Brian.
I would like to add that 10% of your gross income is a small price to pay to Brian's for true enlightenment; This is cutting edge enlightenment based on modern cutting edge technology, not some dusty old book written by people that knew less than a third grader about the universe.
I don't know, but I always assumed that having children would take the shine off of things for a while...the lack of sleep and background crying noise must not set the mood very well.
also being a whale for a while afterwards till back in shape.
that would probably last a little while IMO
also being a whale for a while afterwards till back in shape.
that would probably last a little while IMO
wait, i thought you were the guy whose wife dunmped him for not giving her enough sex?
JudgementDay
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Well so far I'm 1 year into being married and we still bang like bunnies, on average twice a day everyday lol.......but I am 21 so......lol
DJLegacy2k1
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Married @ 21 (oh god)
Underwraps
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Okay, I'm the resident Adulteress and have a PHD in making a whore out of myself so I should know a thing or 2 right? There's a lot on here that I can ditto, though not much on Omega's sentiments. To his credit, there is a tiny bit of truth. Advice: Date A LOT before you settle down- even the ones you are only luke warm to. You won't ever be able to see into a crystal ball, but you can sort of predict the weather based on patterns. Dating helps you see the patterns. I did not date enough and tried to make up for it in my infidelity. I was having "see what's on the other side" affairs vs an ejector affair or other types.
I already did a thread on the top reasons men make on CL for why they're hunting (see thread: Is your partner awful in bed? ) And they were every shallow excuses from "boredom" to "wife acts like sex is a chore". I will admit I wasn't much interested in sex w/ my spouse b/c he was not putting in the time and care to seduce me. He NEVER did. (What did I know?- I only had typical/bad sex before him.)
It goes both ways. Women want to feel cherished, wanted, special, unique, desired...so do those things. When he stops, she stops wanting it. Men need to feel appreciated and want affirmation. When a woman stops doing that, he will stop making her feel cherished. It's a see saw and both parties have to remain in motion- not just one side pulling all the work which includes talking about your grievances openly and if he's the RIGHT guy, he will be humble enough to try.
They say 2/3 men will cheat. Maybe those are only big city statistics. But, even if we were conservative and said 1/6 men will cheat, that is still a lot and most of the reasons on CL have to do with...NOT ENOUGH SEX AT HOME &/or not enough INTEREST in sex at home. Men and women stop b/c they stop appreciating each other and stop speaking the other's "Love language". Ditto on the taking for granted comment.
When the see-saw stops rocking, so does the bed.
I already did a thread on the top reasons men make on CL for why they're hunting (see thread: Is your partner awful in bed? ) And they were every shallow excuses from "boredom" to "wife acts like sex is a chore". I will admit I wasn't much interested in sex w/ my spouse b/c he was not putting in the time and care to seduce me. He NEVER did. (What did I know?- I only had typical/bad sex before him.)
It goes both ways. Women want to feel cherished, wanted, special, unique, desired...so do those things. When he stops, she stops wanting it. Men need to feel appreciated and want affirmation. When a woman stops doing that, he will stop making her feel cherished. It's a see saw and both parties have to remain in motion- not just one side pulling all the work which includes talking about your grievances openly and if he's the RIGHT guy, he will be humble enough to try.
They say 2/3 men will cheat. Maybe those are only big city statistics. But, even if we were conservative and said 1/6 men will cheat, that is still a lot and most of the reasons on CL have to do with...NOT ENOUGH SEX AT HOME &/or not enough INTEREST in sex at home. Men and women stop b/c they stop appreciating each other and stop speaking the other's "Love language". Ditto on the taking for granted comment.
When the see-saw stops rocking, so does the bed.
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i only laugh at jooz when they are in the oven. its a sexual turn on really.
chris302001
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Im just going to let you in on a little secret. Nobody is going to fucking read more than a few lines of your rambling.
And for everyone else, its safe to say we know who has replaced .
JudgementDay
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lol Well I know a lot of people say it's to young, but if you were around us all the time, you to would know we have something special together
so special you decide to spell too wrong on both uses. thats love mang.
If im making madd cabbage with ECF teh sects would never stop bor
thats the truth.... rollin in benjamins make the poosay magnatize toward teh cawk
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lartinos
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Great quote java.
I'm not even sure Omega believes all the stuff he posts here. It is easy to just play to women and say what they want to here.
I'm not even sure Omega believes all the stuff he posts here. It is easy to just play to women and say what they want to here.
digimon7068
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i've been on a bit of a bender. . .i hit it 4 nights in a row. . .i was gonna hit it again tonight too, but she pulled up lame, and i have to be in court at 8 am, an hour and a half away from home, so we took the night off.
mrplunkey
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That's step of a woman's plan. What plan you ask? It's called the "no ass" plan and someday she'll put you on it!
JudgementDay
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lmao and do you feel better pointing that out? ........Douche.
so basically, someone gets fat
digimon7068
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jeezuz. . .we've been married for 18 years (next month). . .and we've been together (in the biblical sense) 21 years in october. . .i wonder when she's gonna spring this big surprise on me??
yes, yes i do feel better. i wasnt promoted to lead detective on the grammar police for nothing.
jeezuz. . .we've been married for 18 years (next month). . .and we've been together (in the biblical sense) 21 years in october. . .i wonder when she's gonna spring this big surprise on me??
Im happy for you bor
sadly your case is the exception rather than the rule
the vast majority of married couples sex life wanes way down and the rates of infidelity are absolutely sky high
mrplunkey
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jeezuz. . .we've been married for 18 years (next month). . .and we've been together (in the biblical sense) 21 years in october. . .i wonder when she's gonna spring this big surprise on me??
Probably any day now. She's just making sure she's set the hook first.
You'll be on the plan in no time.
digimon7068
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i see. . .she's still lulling me into a false sense of confidence. . .i hope she does it before i turn 50. . .i might knot give a shit after that.
IrightI
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kids, energy, job stress, life stress, time constraints for various reasons, hormones or lack there of, etc, all or part of the list. It doesn't help either when she bitches at every thing imaginable and yes, "it's ALL your fault".
It a well known fact, women have this pressure point located on the left ring finger, happens to be right under the wedding ring. Any pressure in the least totally stops/ represses any urge for sex. fyi
Except in Digi's case, cuz he's da man.....
It a well known fact, women have this pressure point located on the left ring finger, happens to be right under the wedding ring. Any pressure in the least totally stops/ represses any urge for sex. fyi
Except in Digi's case, cuz he's da man.....
Underwraps
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One more thought: It's weird, but people like digi must have the lucky combination that sex is both fun and a form of expressing love even in the same old same old routines. Some couples don't need the lovey dovey stuff as much, and guys overall don't need it as much, but when it only becomes about the grind and the fun and no longer about romance, that's when women will start to lose interest, in general. It's true what someone said about chasing and seducing. If it's routine sex just to get the edge off, it's no longer about fun and frolic and certainly not an expression of love. A guy needs the fun aspect and the woman needs the sensual aspect. The poster sounds like she's having a lot of fun with sex and that's great, and my guess is Lartinos is great in bed (so jealous) and knows how to trigger all the spots in both body and brain- has the right balance between animalistic and sensual sex (I don't understand women who only like it animalistic), but when EITHER one starts to slack and not keep it interesting, fun (animalistic) AND an expression of love (sensual), even if alternating between the two kinds, then that's when things might grow cold... Love and growls- you need both.
lol!
women and I mesh Sir jack
I like women "in general period"
they tend to be honest with emotions and intent.
There are some women who are just as messed up in the head as bad males are.....mean spirited, and fallow
I also noticed something about you, your very nice when some one is nice to you or does not vibe bad.
but you pick up on bad vibes FAST if someone is not so good
No I do and practice what I believe in and what I say when I am with reasonable people.. and who mean well
if a women is just a mess but has a heart to Gold and is gentle I'll endure for however long
If I find out someone does not mean well or is a user...........then thats a different story
mrplunkey
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Stick to your story player!
Hope you're scoring mad p00n with the sensitive approach.
(I kid!
)
redsamurai
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jeezuz. . .we've been married for 18 years (next month). . .and we've been together (in the biblical sense) 21 years in october. . .i wonder when she's gonna spring this big surprise on me??
you have to understand here that you just blew the young lads mind. I mean you just rocked his world with your confession of a seemingly successful marriage. You probably caused him to stare out his front window for hours wondering what it's all about.
mrplunkey
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you have to understand here that you just blew the young lads mind here. I mean you just rocked his world with your confession of a seemingly successful marriage. You probably caused him to stare out his front window for hours wondering what it's all about.
How would someone who has never had a girlfriend know such things?
redsamurai
Banned
How would someone who has never had a girlfriend know such things?
OH zing!!! you razor wit you.....I just can't keep up with that kind of jocular ivy league game.
bwwaahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
mrplunkey
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That's the first non-whacky thing you've said in a long time.
Fluke, or road to recovery?
How would someone who has never had a girlfriend know such things?
Now this thread is guaranteed 20 pages.
mrplunkey
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and.... "filled".... with .... lots of "quotes" and.... elipses... and bouncing... "emoticons" and run-on "sentences"... "as"... well, irregardless of drug use and massive inflation under reagan using all-natural pot smoke.
I'm almost caught-up on Springer DRV's now. It's time for RS to say something dumb and entertain me as again.
redsamurai
Banned
nah, I've seen enough of plunkey slithering up from the depths to try to pull other guys into his little pit of misery. I saw this thread earlier and somehow I just knew he'd be up in here trolling. He simply cannot tolerate success in other people where he's failed. His begrudging of digi was obvious even though he's playin it off like he's just playin. I'm absolutely not getting making another post in this thread.
mrplunkey
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Just keep talking. We're overdue a really dumb comment on big food, reincarnation, sarah palin, new age crystals, massive inflation from Reagan, meat's being a culmination of its collective experience... There's a stupid comment dying to come-out there. Just let it fly. It's got to fee like an uncomfortable fart you just have to let pass. Just say it. It will give me something to make fun of you tomorrow.
AztecWarrior
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Have you seen food when it's fresh and new how appealing it is? It's fucking awesome. Then you go look at it later in time, it's old and stale. LOL! Just joking, there are many reasons to why this happens. Poeple need to start listing reasons and bunch them together.
*masturbation
Overall I'd say plunkey is a pretty successful guy. Hell, I'd like to have some of the type of success he has had so far.
digimon7068
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have pity on the man for chrissakes. . .it's an obvious cry for help. . .and by "help" i mean pussy
did i cover all of my annoying habits in the above ^^^ ??
and, for the record. . .plunkey. . .doesn't. . .have. . .a. . .problem. . .with. . .me (if you read that like it's written, i sound like william shatner LOL. . .nice!!). . .we're actually surprisingly like-minded on most topics.
No fucking way rob
mrplunkey
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I.... "feel"... confident... that... "we"... will "see" him... again.... on this... thread... "irregardless" of previous... "posts"... or "drug" use.. as... long "as"... it is "all-natural"... pot smoke... that ... "is" driving... the discussion.
digimon7068
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sarcasm is "caustic, cutting humor". . .i find both of them to be interesting and thought provoking, and i enjoy exchanging ideas with them. . .but i definitely don't find either of them to be particularly humorous. . .just. . .me. . .i. . .guess
digimon7068
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actually. . .i. . .take. . .that. . .back. . .plunkey. . .has. . .made. . .me. . .slap. . .my. . .knee. . .a. . .few. . .times. . .razor. . .however. . .has. . .never. . .made. . .me. . .l. . .a. . .u. . .g. . .h
digimon7068
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with regard to the topic. . .i've texted back and forth with my wife a few times in the last 15 minutes, trying to get her to come home for lunch, so i can stick my cock in her. . .so far = teh fail. . .she's promising a good ride tonight though. . .meh.
Im waiting for synthetic pot smoke, sure to be killer.
jackangel
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i lol'd...because i've seen it a few times now. you are a redsam-disparaging machine. how's the sweater?
also, lol at razorgamz being a master of anything.
digimon7068
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your wait has been over for a while, bruh. . .
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