question for EF guys...

[*ebony*]

+1
The more you connect, its weird... I dunno the less it becomes about sex, I'm not articulating the thought, but it just seems the more u connect genuinely, and not as a result of you trying to manipulate the situation, then I have to agree that the whole sex thing kinda dissipates, again I have to reiterate that like Chris I have no fucking clue either.

i agree with this Ariel....i think some degree of physical intimacy can give friendships an extra wide-band channel of emotional communication where they can enhance the quality and intensity of their friendship. but it doesn't have to be major, it can be anything from an occasional hug to regular sex, depending on the inter-personal affinity and the shared values of the two people.

 

[*The_West*]

so your speaking from expierence here West?

yes. at the risk of sounding like dr sketch jr, i have slept with most of my female friends (waiting for pick3 to come and change that to male) and actually stayed friends with them afterwards, too. where's the harm in a little no strings sex between friends?

lol..i'm not goning to come on to my male friends......i value the relationships as is too much.

awww, so sweet, so innocent. one day soon you will learn that being well behaved is no fun.

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

do you find yourself romantically interested in your female friends? do you find it difficult to express you feelings?

i think the reason men are often hesitant to express interest is because of fear of rejection if they think the girl probably does not find them romantically interesting. I think the most common reason a guy would stay quiet, though, is that he doesn't want to wreck the friendship at the moment.

also i think men connect with women on a "sisterly" level, where they enjoy spending a lot of time with a woman without developing romantic interest in her, maybe because he is not at all physically attracted to her or feels she would not be a good match.

Guys if you have been in this situation...please share you expierence if you don't mind.....and tell me if my reasoning is off.

That's a hard question to answer. I think you have to be friends before anything else. Once a friendship is established than things can go either way I suppose. It really depends upon chemistry. I think you need to have some type of connection in order to share feelings, and it doesn't necessarily have to be sexual in nature. Some guys are more open to others that way.

 

[*The_West*]

real smooth choco t, you have been practising. lolol

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

real smooth choco t, you have been practising. lolol

You bet!

 

[galaxy]

All guys want the relationship to turn physical. Who the fuck would want to be friends with a girl?

 

[galaxy]

Finding a friend for casual sex is just about impossible. At some point he'll tweak and call you a whore or you'll fall in love with him and want more. And you know what a hug leads to, a kiss, and that kiss, to some reverse cow girl, and then you get an awkward slap on the back and Ill see you later buddy.

 

[hurricane]

so your speaking from expierence here West?

lol..i'm not goning to come on to my male friends......i value the relationships as is too much.

yea not until u have a few drinks under your sleeve ... works every time with the female friend thing ..

 

[*ebony*]

That's a hard question to answer. I think you have to be friends before anything else. Once a friendship is established than things can go either way I suppose. It really depends upon chemistry. I think you need to have some type of connection in order to share feelings, and it doesn't necessarily have to be sexual in nature. Some guys are more open to others that way.

i was thinking something along those lines too.....

 

[*ebony*]

yea not until u have a few drinks under your sleeve ... works every time with the female friend thing ..

if i ever meet you in real life, i don't think we should have any drinks...no?