question for EF guys...

[*The_West*]

ebonycurves, i dont mean to be a bastard, but are you allergic to sex or something?

 

[*ebony*]

ebonycurves, i dont mean to be a bastard, but are you allergic to sex or something?

lol...nah sex is great babe, i just don't jump into bed with every guy i meet....

 

[*The_West*]

lol...nah sex is great babe, i just don't jump into bed with every guy i meet....

me neither.
lets do the sex to celebrate.

 

[*ebony*]

me neither.
lets do the sex to celebrate.

LOLOLOL

 

[musclemom]

The only straight guys I know that have had "pure" friendships with women were A) Older (and I'm not talking geriatric, just old enough to have started thinking with the larger head); B) In a healthy/happy/committed relationship; C) Not as "Macho" (don't know how to explain this one, I call it having a few extra chick chips, meaning they relate to women well, but it's got nothing to do with being "Gay").

But even the most happily married, comfortably connected to his feminine side guy will have the odd "I wonder what she'd be like in the sack" thought about long time work colleagues or his buddies wives, that's natural. I don't think that's the same as wanting to fuck them. I'd like to believe that men evolving beyond their hormones is the norm, not a rarity.

 

[ricco561]

The only straight guys I know that have had "pure" friendships with women were A) Older (and I'm not talking geriatric, just old enough to have started thinking with the larger head); B) In a healthy/happy/committed relationship; C) Not as "Macho" (don't know how to explain this one, I call it having a few extra chick chips, meaning they relate to women well, but it's got nothing to do with being "Gay").

But even the most happily married, comfortably connected to his feminine side guy will have the odd "I wonder what she'd be like in the sack" thought about long time work colleagues or his buddies wives, that's natural. I don't think that's the same as wanting to fuck them. I'd like to believe that men evolving beyond their hormones is the norm, not a rarity.

I actually work with a lot of women and I also travel (for work) with a lot of women.
For professional reasons, I don’t hit on them, maybe flirt, but nothing serious.
There is a few though that make me wonder (daydream), but always keep your indiscretions 200 miles from the flag pole.

 

[rudeboyja]

do you find yourself romantically interested in your female friends? do you find it difficult to express you feelings?

i think the reason men are often hesitant to express interest is because of fear of rejection if they think the girl probably does not find them romantically interesting. I think the most common reason a guy would stay quiet, though, is that he doesn't want to wreck the friendship at the moment.

also i think men connect with women on a "sisterly" level, where they enjoy spending a lot of time with a woman without developing romantic interest in her, maybe because he is not at all physically attracted to her or feels she would not be a good match.




Guys if you have been in this situation...please share you expierence if you don't mind.....and tell me if my reasoning is off.

you must hand around a bunch of wimps. Never been anything sisterly about somebody I want..

 

[Razorguns]

do you find yourself romantically interested in your female friends? do you find it difficult to express you feelings?

i think the reason men are often hesitant to express interest is because of fear of rejection if they think the girl probably does not find them romantically interesting. I think the most common reason a guy would stay quiet, though, is that he doesn't want to wreck the friendship at the moment.

also i think men connect with women on a "sisterly" level, where they enjoy spending a lot of time with a woman without developing romantic interest in her, maybe because he is not at all physically attracted to her or feels she would not be a good match.

Guys if you have been in this situation...please share you expierence if you don't mind.....and tell me if my reasoning is off.

No.

If they're friends - i'm happy with them being friends. I don't subscribe to be in 'friend zones'.

Other guys do, and I think it's pathetic and unfair to the female - being a friend only cuz u want to shag her one day.

r

 

[musclemom]

I actually work with a lot of women and I also travel (for work) with a lot of women.
For professional reasons, I don’t hit on them, maybe flirt, but nothing serious.
There is a few though that make me wonder (daydream), but always keep your indiscretions 200 miles from the flag pole.

Well, according to your profile you fall into at least one of the categories of men I described.

Frankly, not mixing business with pleasure is the safest bet in the long run. Dating co-workers can be professionally awkward under the best of circumstances. Granted, sometimes it works out but even then it's potentially risky.

 

[Basikstylz]

In my opinion, its hard to be "just friends" with an attractive female. Not that its impossible but its hard. 1 way is that they just aren't into you and you don't have a choice. Another would be that there is someone else that you don't want to hurt by pursuing this "friend."

Guys will always have some kind of sexual thought about a girl they are close to friends or not IF they are attracted to them, and some guys will even if they aren't attracted to them. Now that doesn't always mean they will try something, but its still there.

Now, its different for girls Ebony. I think Chris Rock said it best...."It's easy for women to turn down sex, every guy you have met since you were 16 has been offering you sex... Would you like a glass of water?(how bout some sex) Can I get the door for you?(How bout some sex?)" Girls can be friends with out being interested in a physical relationship because girls are emotional creatures.(yes I know not every girl, but im going off the sterotype of a typical girl) Besides girls like to keep "guy friends" around for other reasons. If they need a favor, or if they need something done and want help or someone else to do it. All you do is batt ur pretty eyes flash a smile and you know you have that one guy friend who will run right over to help....


Just sayin