Your advice please

[jenscats5]

I agree with what Velvett said 100%!!!

1) DNA test
2) I see NO reason AT ALL as to WHY this woman needs to live with your bf. Now, he needs to pay support if the kid is his, but there is no reason that she can't have her own place, work & support herself. There are way too many women in this world who will try to take advantage.

I worked with a woman who's husband got a woman pregnant on a 1 night stand way before they were married. This woman purposely slept with men to get pregnant & get support -- she had a bunch of kids & got a bunch of support & spent all the money on herself.

Before doing anything, he needs to get a DNA test then sit with a lawyer & work out a support plan & get it all in writing, so there won't be any play-by-play with the kid.

 

[velvett]

I still can't get over this.
I'm just stunned.

I feel so bad.

*speechless*

 

[skittles]

Thanks ladies

I already told him that the test MUST be taken........or I'm gone. She wants to move here first & then get it done. She say's she's 100% certain

I know that it's not my boyfriends fault, and it's not the childs fault, but I want to choke her head off her neck, I just can't get over heR thoughts behind this & waiting 4 years!!!!!

Thanks again ladies

 

[*Bunny*]

Thanks ladies

I already told him that the test MUST be taken........or I'm gone. She wants to move here first & then get it done. She say's she's 100% certain

I know that it's not my boyfriends fault, and it's not the childs fault, but I want to choke her head off her neck, I just can't get over heR thoughts behind this & waiting 4 years!!!!!

Thanks again ladies

I think the test should be done PRIOR to her coming here period...

How far away is she now?

 

[Miss24k]

Thanks ladies

I already told him that the test MUST be taken........or I'm gone. She wants to move here first & then get it done. She say's she's 100% certain

I know that it's not my boyfriends fault, and it's not the childs fault, but I want to choke her head off her neck, I just can't get over heR thoughts behind this & waiting 4 years!!!!!

Thanks again ladies

Hell I wanna choke her for you. She's a piece of work to say the least, and she thinks she slick, by saying she wants to move there first.

 

[skittles]

She's in Vancouver, I'm in Nova Scotia. I just looked up the distance - 2758 miles (4439 km) I wanna puke

 

[*Bunny*]

She's in Vancouver, I'm in Nova Scotia. I just looked up the distance - 2758 miles (4439 km) I wanna puke

I'm SO sorry girl
What was your BF's reaction to getting the pat. test before the 'move' ?

 

[velvett]

Thanks ladies

I already told him that the test MUST be taken........or I'm gone. She wants to move here first & then get it done. She say's she's 100% certain

She's totally up to something.

I mean REALLY - what if it's not his kid?
Then what?

And if she is SO certain why did she keep it secret to your boyfriend and HER now ex boyfriend.

A real piece of work.

It's no wonder men judge women the way they do.

 

[skittles]

I'm SO sorry girl
What was your BF's reaction to getting the pat. test before the 'move' ?

He agrees. I can tell if he had a son he would be so happy. I just wish the situation was alot different. I'm sort of felling like she's in command. She's making all the calls. I don't know if this is me freaking out, or if it's really the case............I don't want to be the perosn who tells him she can't come here & he never gets to meet his son (assuming it is his). If I take time away, I'm not there for him..........this really bites!

Thanks for being supportive dolls

 

[*Bunny*]

He agrees. I can tell if he had a son he would be so happy. I just wish the situation was alot different. I'm sort of felling like she's in command. She's making all the calls. I don't know if this is me freaking out, or if it's really the case............I don't want to be the perosn who tells him she can't come here & he never gets to meet his son (assuming it is his). If I take time away, I'm not there for him..........this really bites!

Thanks for being supportive dolls

You are welcome! I think the inital freak out is completely normal and acceptable given your situation.

DO not worry about freaking out...

You are in no way responsible for her lack of communication with your BF 4 YEARS AGO, if he is in fact the father.

Given that, he shouldn't feel bad about asking for a pat. test period and demanding one before this ex gets all packed and shows up on his doorstep (and make it clear to her this is what needs to be done before anything further is discussed)