worried about my girlfriend.

[BNG]

Don't take this the wrong way but read through what you wrote with my highlights. Do you see what I do?

my negativity is whats ruining it. i blame if all on myself. the poor girl just wants to love someone who is fun and positive. she is so beautiful and positive and i feel i always bring her down. i feel like i fucked everything up so bad. but i never want to leave her. we rarely even have sex anymore. yet i dont want anyone but her. i dont know what to do. i want to fix the negativity but shit in my past has made me this way./ i try to change it but it wont work. i just dont want to lose her.

When you want to accomplish something it requires a goal and focus.
CHANGE YOUR FOCUS Get the focus off of you. You don't do curls to flatten a stomach.

If you are so possessive that she feels trapped then nothing will be fun together for her. She's still around because of you. It's not because of the way you look, it's because of you.

The past should stay in the past. Believe me I know how easy it is to bag drag but if you drop the baggage and set future goals, look at where you want to be in the future, even put up a picture, you'll start to focus on what's ahead of you. Nobody wins races looking where they've been!

 

[velvett]

Is this the same girl you cheated on and suspect is cheating on you everytime she's out with friends?

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

bro, you really need to grow up. Your posts are always the same - girls don't like me, I'm ugly, I don't stand a chance, I'm negative and sad, etc. I felt sorry for you about 2 years ago when you first started posting but now you need to get your shit together. If you want to know what girls/women want i'll tell you. Don't believe this alpha shit about being a dick makes girls want you - some can pull it off but there are reasons for that. What they really want is a guy that is nice to them but not too nice, will stand up for her but not be out there trying to pick a fight with every dude that looks at her, is funny but not a fucking irritating comedian, looks the best he can with what God gave him, treats her friends well, is gracious and thoughful, has ambition (doesn't mean he has to be rich but she wants to know he's got plans and isn't just skating through life), knows how to kiss her the way SHE wants to be kissed not the way you THINK she wants to be kissed, and somebody that when she sees him she's happier than she was the moment before she sees him (not sure if that made sense but it did in my head). That's my take on it. Having a great body or being really good looking helps but it's not even close to the most important. Good luck bro.

 

[Sassy69]

bro, you really need to grow up. Your posts are always the same - girls don't like me, I'm ugly, I don't stand a chance, I'm negative and sad, etc. I felt sorry for you about 2 years ago when you first started posting but now you need to get your shit together. If you want to know what girls/women want i'll tell you. Don't believe this alpha shit about being a dick makes girls want you - some can pull it off but there are reasons for that. What they really want is a guy that is nice to them but not too nice, will stand up for her but not be out there trying to pick a fight with every dude that looks at her, is funny but not a fucking irritating comedian, looks the best he can with what God gave him, treats her friends well, is gracious and thoughful, has ambition (doesn't mean he has to be rich but she wants to know he's got plans and isn't just skating through life), knows how to kiss her the way SHE wants to be kissed not the way you THINK she wants to be kissed, and somebody that when she sees him she's happier than she was the moment before she sees him (not sure if that made sense but it did in my head). That's my take on it. Having a great body or being really good looking helps but it's not even close to the most important. Good luck bro.

Listen to him mark - he's pretty close to spot on about wimmens.

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

Listen to him mark - he's pretty close to spot on about wimmens.

How can it be that I know so much about women yet still have so much trouble with them????? lol

 

[katdav]

bro, you really need to grow up. Your posts are always the same - girls don't like me, I'm ugly, I don't stand a chance, I'm negative and sad, etc. I felt sorry for you about 2 years ago when you first started posting but now you need to get your shit together. If you want to know what girls/women want i'll tell you. Don't believe this alpha shit about being a dick makes girls want you - some can pull it off but there are reasons for that. What they really want is a guy that is nice to them but not too nice, will stand up for her but not be out there trying to pick a fight with every dude that looks at her, is funny but not a fucking irritating comedian, looks the best he can with what God gave him, treats her friends well, is gracious and thoughful, has ambition (doesn't mean he has to be rich but she wants to know he's got plans and isn't just skating through life), knows how to kiss her the way SHE wants to be kissed not the way you THINK she wants to be kissed, and somebody that when she sees him she's happier than she was the moment before she sees him (not sure if that made sense but it did in my head). That's my take on it. Having a great body or being really good looking helps but it's not even close to the most important. Good luck bro.

Ha Ha, my sisters ex husband...

 

[Sassy69]

How can it be that I know so much about women yet still have so much trouble with them????? lol

YOu know too much.

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

YOu know too much.

So if I knew less I would have less grief? lol.

 

[DJ_UFO]

I think most of us have the picture pretty clear but the problem is: MEN ARE NOT LIKE WOMEN EXPECT US TO BE. It is just our nature. So when we do it? when we are going nuts for a girl; that's when we do and we are everything she expect. But after a while, we go back to our nature. Is part of the game; we are animals of several sexual partners, not just one.

And for guys is the same thing. If a hot girl drop my pants and gives me a BJ while I'm watching a NASCAR race, or she pole dance in one corner during advertisements, I fall in love. But for how long she can act like that?

They are from Venus. We are from Mars. Simple as that. By accident we are here together and we try to make things the best we can but doesn't work...


and by the way...I'm getting divorced after 6 years of marriage.

 

[velvett]

I think most of us have the picture pretty clear but the problem is: MEN ARE NOT LIKE WOMEN EXPECT US TO BE. It is just our nature. So when we do it? when we are going nuts for a girl; that's when we do and we are everything she expect. But after a while, we go back to our nature. Is part of the game; we are animals of several sexual partners, not just one.

And for guys is the same thing. If a hot girl drop my pants and gives me a BJ while I'm watching a NASCAR race, or she pole dance in one corner during advertisements, I fall in love. But for how long she can act like that?

They are from Venus. We are from Mars. Simple as that. By accident we are here together and we try to make things the best we can but doesn't work...


and by the way...I'm getting divorced after 6 years of marriage.

Sorry about the divorce...

I've said this before and I still stand by it - for success you really have to love someone with or for their faults and imperfections otherwise you're bounded to be disappointed with and resentful of your mate.