Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[Bikini Mod]

This thread made me realize that I didn't date that much.

To answer your question - no.

Your date - had no sense whatsoever and that's a big turn off in itself.

I have walked through restaurant kitchens and back door exits to ditch a "date" before - if I got the pyscho "I've got toys under my bed i'd like to show you" or "I still live with my momma" vibe, I was out.

If I liked my date I always tried to pay and the guy wouldn't hear of it but they always thought it was "cute" that I tried.

All I can say is - THANK GOD I don't have to date anymore.

Dating bites.

On my last first date I was like listen - this is who I am, yahda yahda, who are you what do you like - yahda (are you going to eat that piece of sushi?) yahda - everything was very much on the table without being tacky and it was refreshing, it was like hanging out with an old friend catching up on life...

...it's been that way ever since.

I never ditched a date like that, though I should have!

I was always very open with every single man I dated. I didn't know how else to be. A very few I got on famously with, but none like my husband. On our first date several people commented, "Wow, you guys must have been married FOREVER you get along so well and are so in sync with one another." .... this was only 2/3 hours after we had met in person for the first time.

 

[bw1]

I pay...always

 

[alien amp pharm]

Like I always say, "I'll buy the meal, you buy the rubbers"

 

[velvett]

While I'm thinking about it...

I remember being in my very early twenties and guys in their late 20's and *gasp* 30's were *shutter* "gross". I remember liking guys younger than me, come to thing of it my first boyfriend was a few years younger than me.



I haven't thought about this stuff in years...

 

[rudeboyja]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

I saw this article today on the net: http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/HomeMortgageSavings/WhoPays.aspx#pageTopAchor

Personally, if a guy does not pay on the first date, he is history with me. I've actually never had that happen, but I had close to it once.

I went out on a first date with a guy. He asked me to "dinner and drinks" so I wore a nice dress. He shows up in jeans and a sloppy looking shirt. STRIKE ONE.

So, he asks what is around where I live. I took him to the square where there was a nice Italian restaraunt, indian restaraunt, etc. He points to Johnny Rockets (a 50's burger diner) and asks about it. I tell him and he says he would love a burger. So, I'm a good sport, even though I look like a fool in this burger diner wearing a $500 BCBG dress and nice heels. STRIKE TWO.

When the check comes, he said "I'll get it this time, and you can get it next time." STRIKE THREE. YOU'RE OUT!

If a guy wants to go dutch, I take it as a personal insult, like I'm not worthy in his eyes of being treated like gf material. Srew that.

Y'all women are a trip. I do shit like this just to test women. Stop worring if you're GF material and just have some fun damnit...

 

[cindylou]

Like I always say, "I'll buy the meal, you buy the rubbers"

sexy!!

 

[musclemom]

If a man invites a woman out using something like the phrase, "I would like to take you to dinner," note the terminology. He is inviting HER. Imagine if you were inviting someone to your house for a meal, would you expect them to arrive carrying a pot roast?

I always looked at it this way, first date, he invites me, he pays. If we see each other after that, I see the relationship as evolving into something, ergo I would offer to pay for things or take him out afterwards.

I'm assuming everyone involved in this is an adult. When we're talking employed grown up people, a $50 or so meal isn't a big deal. I'll never understand men who won't think twice about spending $75 to go to a ball game (ticket/beers/food) but they buy a lousy appetizer and a couple of martinis and they expect a woman to be all over them.

 

[Y_lifter]

Nothing at all wrong with a woman (or man) staying at home not getting paid and taking care of the family.

Nothing at all wrong with what I termed the 1960's mentality of a woman being the home maker and the man making the money.

My comment would be directed to a woman that isn't in that awesome role and is single and or financially independent.

And yet still she has the mindset that they should be taken care of by the man financially, date or not, and complain about it when it doesn't happen.

 

[bw1]

If a man invites a woman out using something like the phrase, "I would like to take you to dinner," note the terminology. He is inviting HER. Imagine if you were inviting someone to your house for a meal, would you expect them to arrive carrying a pot roast?I always looked at it this way, first date, he invites me, he pays. If we see each other after that, I see the relationship as evolving into something, ergo I would offer to pay for things or take him out afterwards.

I'm assuming everyone involved in this is an adult. When we're talking employed grown up people, a $50 or so meal isn't a big deal. I'll never understand men who won't think twice about spending $75 to go to a ball game (ticket/beers/food) but they buy a lousy appetizer and a couple of martinis and they expect a woman to be all over them.

lol

 

[alien amp pharm]

I pay...always

Ugly dudes usually have to.