I'm all over the place on this...I've typed out five or six responses but never posted.
A couple of points -
1) I always offer to pay part of the bill, either by word or gesture (reaching for the bill, reaching for my bag, etc), but I've never had a guy actually let me. I don't think I'd be bothered by it, though. It feels like the traditional, courteous thing to do, however, if he is the one who invited the girl out on a date. If I ever invite someone to do something with me, friend or boyfriend, I've always paid for it (like buying concert tickets, etc). On a first date, though, this would probably not make a difference to me one way or another but I might take it as a signal that he wasn't interested because he was ending things the way I'd end dinner with friends. Mulling over who owes what. But lack of a second date wouldn't be because I didn't have interest. I'd assume HE didn't.
2) for the record, I'm no feminist. I think there's a certain comfort level in traditional gender roles, and I keep up my end of that. My work is a contradiction on the surface, but it all falls in line if you know me well enough to know that I only enjoy doing the work because it allows me to take care of my family. I couldn't care less about the glass ceiling because I'll be gone and retired from finance and starting my own businesses before I ever hit it. Let the people who want to live their lives at the office and miss their kids baseball games have the big desk.
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