Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[heatherrae]

I'd prefer to pay myself just so you cannot see the 2 for 1 bill when it comes

lol... i don't mind a guy using coupons. I'll even try to find them and cut them out.

 

[gotmilk]

screw coupons...we have 2 for 1 lobster specials everywhere

 

[seaking420]

its all gos back to..
you pay for pussy one way or another....right right.lol

you gals demand equal salaries in the work place, equality in job duties and status, then still try to foist off 50 year old dating practices on guys who got passed over for promotion because managment "need to put a woman in the slot"....ya'll want it all, ya'll want it both ways...

both of these are so true.
I will always pay, but to hear that it's expected of me is BS.

 

[Smurfy]

I saw this article today on the net: http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/HomeMortgageSavings/WhoPays.aspx#pageTopAchor

Personally, if a guy does not pay on the first date, he is history with me. I've actually never had that happen, but I had close to it once.

I went out on a first date with a guy. He asked me to "dinner and drinks" so I wore a nice dress. He shows up in jeans and a sloppy looking shirt. STRIKE ONE.

So, he asks what is around where I live. I took him to the square where there was a nice Italian restaraunt, indian restaraunt, etc. He points to Johnny Rockets (a 50's burger diner) and asks about it. I tell him and he says he would love a burger. So, I'm a good sport, even though I look like a fool in this burger diner wearing a $500 BCBG dress and nice heels. STRIKE TWO.

When the check comes, he said "I'll get it this time, and you can get it next time." STRIKE THREE. YOU'RE OUT!

If a guy wants to go dutch, I take it as a personal insult, like I'm not worthy in his eyes of being treated like gf material. Srew that.

I only read the first post not the entire thread. I can only guess that this thread went very well with almost no disagreements or ridicules or derogatory statements at all.\

but heather I have to sy that IMO, it was your fault for even wearing a $500 dress if you didnt really know where you were going. also, why feel bad about being dressed up and in a "burger joint"? who cares? surely no one but you. why would you feel like a fool when you look like a million bucks? fuck if I'm lookin good I dont give a crap where I am, I feel good about myself.

anyway, i wouldnt totally count someone out if they didnt pay on the first date, in fact first date I always feel uncomfortable having the guy pay for me since we dont really know each other yet. i feel bad for having someone else pay in a situation like that. i ALWAYS offer to pay at least my own portion of the bill because honestly it makes me feel more comfortable and less like Im being a money grubber. yeah it's just my own weird idiosyncracies. i dont really feel comfortable with anyone paying or buying me stuff until or unless we're really an exclusive couple. and even then it's totally reciprocal.

 

[heatherrae]

I only read the first post not the entire thread. I can only guess that this thread went very well with almost no disagreements or ridicules or derogatory statements at all.\

but heather I have to sy that IMO, it was your fault for even wearing a $500 dress if you didnt really know where you were going. also, why feel bad about being dressed up and in a "burger joint"? who cares? surely no one but you. why would you feel like a fool when you look like a million bucks? fuck if I'm lookin good I dont give a crap where I am, I feel good about myself.

anyway, i wouldnt totally count someone out if they didnt pay on the first date, in fact first date I always feel uncomfortable having the guy pay for me since we dont really know each other yet. i feel bad for having someone else pay in a situation like that. i ALWAYS offer to pay at least my own portion of the bill because honestly it makes me feel more comfortable and less like Im being a money grubber. yeah it's just my own weird idiosyncracies. i dont really feel comfortable with anyone paying or buying me stuff until or unless we're really an exclusive couple. and even then it's totally reciprocal.

the thread really didn't get ugly.

When a guy suggests 9 o clock "dinner and drinks" I assume that a dress is appropriate. Had he said "let's grab a quick bite" I would have asked what he was going to wear. My dating experience has always been that "dinner and drinks usually means a little better than fast food. His lack of care in his appearance was a message to me that he did not value the date or my time.

Plain and simple, he was a socially inept turn off, IMO.

 

[Razorguns]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

I saw this article today on the net: http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/HomeMortgageSavings/WhoPays.aspx#pageTopAchor

Personally, if a guy does not pay on the first date, he is history with me. I've actually never had that happen, but I had close to it once.

I went out on a first date with a guy. He asked me to "dinner and drinks" so I wore a nice dress. He shows up in jeans and a sloppy looking shirt. STRIKE ONE.

So, he asks what is around where I live. I took him to the square where there was a nice Italian restaraunt, indian restaraunt, etc. He points to Johnny Rockets (a 50's burger diner) and asks about it. I tell him and he says he would love a burger. So, I'm a good sport, even though I look like a fool in this burger diner wearing a $500 BCBG dress and nice heels. STRIKE TWO.

When the check comes, he said "I'll get it this time, and you can get it next time." STRIKE THREE. YOU'RE OUT!

If a guy wants to go dutch, I take it as a personal insult, like I'm not worthy in his eyes of being treated like gf material. Srew that.

if the girl has a TOTAL BLAST being with you, has fun, you make her happy, you're physically attractive to her - $14 means nothing.

most women wind up paying for themselves and won't let me pay for them. like they wanna impress me or something. hey, i'm not gonna fight it

r

 

[Smurfy]

If I asked my father out for lunch, I wouldn't make him pay for it.

If I asked my grandma to go out for a movie, I would pay.

Is that any different?

If asked the man out on the date, I would pay.

I just don't ask men out on dates...lol.

my dad would never in a million years allow me to pay.

 

[jh1]

my dad would never in a million years allow me to pay.

Your dad is pretty loaded though, or so it seems.

 

[Smurfy]

the thread really didn't get ugly.

When a guy suggests 9 o clock "dinner and drinks" I assume that a dress is appropriate. Had he said "let's grab a quick bite" I would have asked what he was going to wear. My dating experience has always been that "dinner and drinks usually means a little better than fast food. His lack of care in his appearance was a message to me that he did not value the date or my time.

Plain and simple, he was a socially inept turn off, IMO.

how did you come to meet him? how did you know him in the first place? maybe he thought you were more casual than you really were?

i see what you're saying but for me that kind of stuff is just not a deal breaker. i assume people respect me by showing it in other ways I guess.

 

[foreigngirl]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

the thread really didn't get ugly.

When a guy suggests 9 o clock "dinner and drinks" I assume that a dress is appropriate. Had he said "let's grab a quick bite" I would have asked what he was going to wear. My dating experience has always been that "dinner and drinks usually means a little better than fast food. His lack of care in his appearance was a message to me that he did not value the date or my time.

Plain and simple, he was a socially inept turn off, IMO.

dinner and drinks can be going at "Buffalo Wild Wings" too Or maybe a pub, too. It doesnt necessarily means an exclusive restaurant IMO. But thats just me