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Is there a solid reason for this?
Why do younger girls go for older men?
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jenscats5
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I've read in Psychology that it has to do with a "father complex"
I'm married to an older man, I've almost always dated older men ... and I admit I had a truly shitty relationship with my father ...jenscats5 said:
But I always went for a guy that was a little bit older (at least 2 years, my current husband is 11 years older than me) is because ... well, when I was younger, frankly guys my own age were ummm, immature idiots and didn't have the same intellectual interests.
Now did I go for somewhat older guys because I had a bad relationship with my father? Or did I go for older guys because past experience had left me disgruntled and bored with my own peer group
??? I'm not a psychologist ...
obiwan9962
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well the father complex can be of two minds
one to emulate your father
the second to be the kind of father you wished for
most of the younger women i've been with just wanted an experienced man who was not looking for game
one to emulate your father
the second to be the kind of father you wished for
most of the younger women i've been with just wanted an experienced man who was not looking for game
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musclemom said:I'm married to an older man, I've almost always dated older men ... and I admit I had a truly shitty relationship with my father ...
But I always went for a guy that was a little bit older (at least 2 years, my current husband is 11 years older than me) is because ... well, when I was younger, frankly guys my own age were ummm, immature idiots and didn't have the same intellectual interests.
Now did I go for somewhat older guys because I had a bad relationship with my father? Or did I go for older guys because past experience had left me disgruntled and bored with my own peer group
I'm not a psychologist ...
And how does that make you feel??
I ain't no Freud....and he was a nutso anyway....
BUT just simply based on what I read it's cuz of a lack of the father being a parent or full parent or there was something missing in the relationship....true?? I have no clue....
obiwan9962
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freud was not exactly nutsjenscats5 said:And how does that make you feel??
I ain't no Freud....and he was a nutso anyway....
BUT just simply based on what I read it's cuz of a lack of the father being a parent or full parent or there was something missing in the relationship....true?? I have no clue....
he did hate his mother and most women
but he had cancer of the jaw and was on heroine/opium most of his academic life
Sanel27
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Damn, now you people are getting psychological with all this............
I thought younger chicks dig us older guys (im 27 by the way) cause we got more experience, are a bit more established, goal oriented, dont play games and are more mature.
I mean that would be my guess, i wont go any deeper into the conversation that you all started............
I like young dumb chicks for one night stand only, as far as for relationship i like bit more stable and mature chicks, my age or a bit older.
I thought younger chicks dig us older guys (im 27 by the way) cause we got more experience, are a bit more established, goal oriented, dont play games and are more mature.
I mean that would be my guess, i wont go any deeper into the conversation that you all started............
I like young dumb chicks for one night stand only, as far as for relationship i like bit more stable and mature chicks, my age or a bit older.
sigmund
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I have to disagree that all young guys are immature and not intellectually equipped to stimulate a woman's mind, emotional needs etc. I think there's plenty of highly intelligent and mature young men all over the place, and I know there's plenty of fellas my age (I’m in my 30's) with the mentality of 15 year old children... So I think there's more to it than that.
A woman dating an older man = slightly taboo = more exciting = more of a turn on (for some), ie. If the older man is 40 and the girl 20, people will talk and it will attract attention!
Secondly, older men generally have more money, their own property, their own car, all this = much more freedom and ability to do those "dreamy things", spontaneous holidays, gifts, etc, which is a massive plus! Additionally older guys have established themselves (perhaps senior position at work, that demands respect) - powerful men = more attractive! An older man is not concerned what his parents think or feels he has to answer to them.
They also (in theory) know more about sex and how to please a woman, know more about a woman's emotional needs and (if required) can provide that parental type guidance that a woman may also seek from her Father, taking a dominant / confident role in decision making pertaining both to the relationship and “life guidance” for their partner. So in summary the extra security, freedom and power makes the older man an attractive alternative to the young less established "stud".
If the older man is in great shape with a high sex drive then it's probably a win win situation for the young girl!
As a side note, funny thing is alot of older divorced women in their 40's date younger men - it's a reversal of the above... and the young guys love it for very similar reasons. The older woman offers more security, freedom and is more established. So it works both ways. I think it just pisses off young men more than it does young women – lol!
A woman dating an older man = slightly taboo = more exciting = more of a turn on (for some), ie. If the older man is 40 and the girl 20, people will talk and it will attract attention!
Secondly, older men generally have more money, their own property, their own car, all this = much more freedom and ability to do those "dreamy things", spontaneous holidays, gifts, etc, which is a massive plus! Additionally older guys have established themselves (perhaps senior position at work, that demands respect) - powerful men = more attractive! An older man is not concerned what his parents think or feels he has to answer to them.
They also (in theory) know more about sex and how to please a woman, know more about a woman's emotional needs and (if required) can provide that parental type guidance that a woman may also seek from her Father, taking a dominant / confident role in decision making pertaining both to the relationship and “life guidance” for their partner. So in summary the extra security, freedom and power makes the older man an attractive alternative to the young less established "stud".
If the older man is in great shape with a high sex drive then it's probably a win win situation for the young girl!
As a side note, funny thing is alot of older divorced women in their 40's date younger men - it's a reversal of the above... and the young guys love it for very similar reasons. The older woman offers more security, freedom and is more established. So it works both ways. I think it just pisses off young men more than it does young women – lol!
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