Who are you????

[-SD-]

My parenting input may not have any effect on her personality but it will have an effect on who she is...which isn't her personality. Especially in early childhood. I would even argue that it has an effect on her personality too.

i think parenting styles have affects on personality for sure. How else to explain how kids turn out after getting abused, sheltered, disciplined constantly etc

 

[cindylou]

i think parenting styles have affects on personality for sure. How else to explain how kids turn out after getting abused, sheltered, disciplined constantly etc

I completely agree.

 

[PICK3]

Excluding extremes, e.g. child abuse, identical twins separated at birth who meet decades later are remarkably similar. Paternal twins separated at birth share traits roughly correlated like picking 2 individuals from the random population. FMRI studies back this up.

Parents of moar than 1 child recognize differences in personality traits often within weeks although the family structure is unchanged.

 

[PICK3]

Parenting Peaks at Conception | Steven Pinker | Big Think

 

[cindylou]

Excluding extremes, e.g. child abuse, identical twins separated at birth who meet decades later are remarkably similar. Paternal twins separated at birth share traits roughly correlated like picking 2 individuals from the random population. FMRI studies back this up.

Parents of moar than 1 child recognize differences in personality traits often within weeks although the family structure is unchanged.

Who you are has nothing to do with personality traits, you know this. Most mature people grow outside the constraints of personality traits. If that wasn't the case then all you would have to do to get to know me, and how I would respond in any given situation would be to read my MBTI. Why does someone become cynical or insecure has nothing to do with personality, it is usually life experience and usually early childhood shapes most of what is going on in our unconscious. You can tell the adult that had a cold and uncaring father that didn't teach her/him about the world, about compassion and how to face pain and suffering with courage, someone who protected him/her when they were hurt. He might have focused too much on his work, maybe he was an alcoholic, nothing too severe, but enough for the daughter or son to realize the fraud of love by an early age. It has a huge impact on who they become.

 

[lartinos]

Excluding extremes, e.g. child abuse, identical twins separated at birth who meet decades later are remarkably similar. Paternal twins separated at birth share traits roughly correlated like picking 2 individuals from the random population. FMRI studies back this up.

Parents of moar than 1 child recognize differences in personality traits often within weeks although the family structure is unchanged.

You tend to think in absolutes Pick, but that is rarely the case.

 

[-SD-]

You tend to think in absolutes Pick, but that is rarely the case.

kinda like his sexuality

 

[Strongbow]

this thread is turning geigh as fuck

 

[PICK3]

Who you are has nothing to do with personality traits, you know this. Most mature people grow outside the constraints of personality traits. If that wasn't the case then all you would have to do to get to know me, and how I would respond in any given situation would be to read my MBTI. Why does someone become cynical or insecure has nothing to do with personality, it is usually life experience and usually early childhood shapes most of what is going on in our unconscious. You can tell the adult that had a cold and uncaring father that didn't teach her/him about the world, about compassion and how to face pain and suffering with courage, someone who protected him/her when they were hurt. He might have focused too much on his work, maybe he was an alcoholic, nothing too severe, but enough for the daughter or son to realize the fraud of love by an early age. It has a huge impact on who they become.

in case of the separated identical twins there were remarkable similarities in many areas: response to stimuli, IQ, mannerisms, etc ...

again, obvious neglect or abuse will skew these results

in your example I'm sure you're familiar with someone who was raised by an alcoholic(s) and still developed into a productive caring human while their sibling(s) became a cold hearted terror.

what some consider weak or insecure is a necessity of our species. We all can't be the alpha dog.

 

[PICK3]

You tend to think in absolutes Pick, but that is rarely the case.

In this case people who believe parenting is the biggest determinant in shaping a child are thinking in absolutes.

The latest science doesn't support that claim.