What would you do if your 16 old kid did this?

[-SD-]

how did she get to the point where she is going crazy and destroying everything. usually kids progressively become more wild and violent.

 

[gotmilk]

it's too bad you couldn't have the cops pull her aside for a few moments and tell her to grow up

 

[biteme]

Why not just leave her to your ex? Cut ties alltogether? You're indebted for what, 3 more years?

She called me tonight and apologized and said she was wrong. Didn't sound very repentant, but said she needed to man up and admit she was wrong. I told her it would take me a good long while to get over what she did and that anyone else I'd send to jail. I don't know what to do.. I love her. She's my daughter.

 

[wlmcrae]

Biteme, correct me if I'm wrong but did you not post that you had told her that for this type of action you would send her to jail? If so then YOU NEED TO FOLLOW THROUGH. If the babe did not learn cause and effect at age 2, then she needs to learn it at age 16, apology or not. If you don't follow through, then you train her that 'easy apology' will get her out of anything - she's gonna be shocked, hurt, distressed and destroyed the first time she comes up against an employer that won't 'let her come back' when she 'apologizes' for her actions. Maybe mama is enabling her, but so? YOU need to follow through what you say . . or don't say it.

 

[txbondsman]

I don't know what to do.. I love her. She's my daughter.

then tell her that you love her, but that her actions are unacceptable, then, now or anytime in the future. I'd have an itemized list of the damage and what it cost to repair/replace. Tell her that she is expected to pay that and make her a payment plan that she can keep w/o any trouble but not just pennies either, she needs to feel it to some degree. If it's too much at one time she'll not pay it at all...