For me, it's intelligence, emotionally strong (not needy and insecure), advanced education (not necessarily a PhD, but wide general knowledge). All that with excellent physical condition, blond, small, frame, and a little bit of a tom-boy (likes to see if she can beat me on the motocross track), is what turns me on. And I'm blessed that my wife is all of that and more!!!! She's a brownbelt, has a Master's from U.T., perfect size & shape, and worked as a motocross stuntwoman in the movies for awhile. And she can handle s 12g shotgun better than Sarah Palin!
Charles