What is the most attractive feature you find in the opposite sex?

[Oceano]

Of course the list is different for every woman (and will even vary for the same woman from year to year).

Attractive Traits
Humor, as in taking pleasure in the simple things, being able to laugh easily
Humility (if a guy can't laugh at himself forget it)
Curiosity (with enough intelligence to seek and find answers to the questions that the curiosity raises)
Compassion
A healthy blend of spirituality and sensuality
Natural born common sense
A "steady" guy ... I don't know how to explain this. I like surprises but I need to feel that if I need him, in whatever way, he'll be there for me, he'll be my rock.

Deal Breakers
Dishonesty
Cruelty (emotional or physical to anyone or anything)
Stinginess
Thinking childISH equates to childLIKE
A guy who patronizes me or dismisses my thoughts or feelings because I am a woman

So given that it is said women usually want the opposite of what they think they want, guys should aim for the deal-breakers

 

[hardrock]

Honest, smart, sweet, thoughtful, not conceited, sense of humor, and as little baggage as possible.

 

[blueta2]

Of course the list is different for every woman (and will even vary for the same woman from year to year).

Attractive Traits
Humor, as in taking pleasure in the simple things, being able to laugh easily
Humility (if a guy can't laugh at himself forget it)
Curiosity (with enough intelligence to seek and find answers to the questions that the curiosity raises)
Compassion
A healthy blend of spirituality and sensuality
Natural born common sense
A "steady" guy ... I don't know how to explain this. I like surprises but I need to feel that if I need him, in whatever way, he'll be there for me, he'll be my rock.

Deal Breakers
Dishonesty
Cruelty (emotional or physical to anyone or anything)
Stinginess
Thinking childISH equates to childLIKE
A guy who patronizes me or dismisses my thoughts or feelings because I am a woman

My list would look exactly the same

 

[EnderJE]

My list would look exactly the same

Thinking childish? All of EF is now out of the running for your pants.

 

[blueta2]

Thinking childish? All of EF is now out of the running for your pants.

Guess I'm going to have to switch teams ;-)

 

[nefertiti]

awwww I think thats what keep people young at heart!

though my attitude could change as i get older

i love seeing the little boy in my husband when he comes out. I dont ever want that to go away

I'm totally with you...the kid in S. is one of his most endearing qualities. He still plays (and he's a bit older than me lol). I told him recently that i didn't want him to EVER lose that. As we grow up we get jaded and a lot of us lose the ability to find simple joy in small moments the way children do. Having him in my life has helped me find my way back to that inner silliness and I've been infinitely happier for it. When we went to florida a couple of weeks ago, we actually walked around in the rain jumping in puddles and splashing each other...I mean, really? But it was AWESOME.

I can't single out the most attractive trait...there are too many things on a pretty even plane. But deal breakers are easy.

Selfish
problematically jealous (a little bit of that instinctual "MINE" is ok...but if you start yelling at me because some guy eyed me, it's not gonna work).
Workaholic
irresponsible
No desire to travel or try new things

 

[blueta2]

Cindy and Nef, that's not what MM and myself meant by childish.

And yes, your choices change as you get older. What I wanted in my 20's is nothing near what I want now

 

[-Ariel-]

Cindy and Nef, that's not what MM and myself meant by childish.

And yes, your choices change as you get older. What I wanted in my 20's is nothing near what I want now

Childlike is sexy... sometimes I think I'm childlike..
childish is narcisstic and selfish... sometimes we can all be this as well
but yeah I think the latter is the correct def...
Love the Avi Blue...

 

[nefertiti]

Cindy and Nef, that's not what MM and myself meant by childish.

And yes, your choices change as you get older. What I wanted in my 20's is nothing near what I want now

I was not responding to you, MM, or stefka...I was just agreeing with cindy, who responded to tatyana.

I completely agree with stefka's original comment on the topic.

 

[chris302001]

Barbie was never childlike...ripped and clawed his way outta his mamma's womb with those big fat guns and black leotard, just lookin for his next woman...