Was this bitchy of me or was it okay??

[phatty123]

you could say hi and introduced your bf to him.
If he is secure enough that shouldnt have been a problem.
A ex is still a person you have shared love with. That shouldnt make you uncomfertable

I'm with you on that one.

 

[casavant]

Good call.

 

[SofaGeorge]

Two ways to handle it: the way you did... or going over and saying 'hi.'

You didn't want to go say 'hi' to him or you would have.

Hence, you handled it correctly.

Part of this that is unsaid is I think in the past the guy acted like a dick.

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

You did the right thing.

To me, a hug is something special and of great value. I don't dole them out freely, and I reserve them for the person I am with at the time, not a woman from my past.

 

[daveyboy]

You did right. I'm sure that your bf would be very appreciative of how you handled it & that's what counts. It builds trust. You don't want to give the other guy the wrong impression & have him think that the door of opportunity to hooking up with you is still open when it's not.

 

[the nature boy]

I wouldn't care.

 

[Raina]

We had only dated for probably 6 weeks. It wasn't a long term deal nor was it ever a love thing. I have a sneaking suspicion he's going to call me at my office this week though because he's done that before (which in my mind is weird since we haven't really talked or hung out for years).

I suppose it just bothers me when I feel like I've hurt someone's feelings. I feel bad about last night but at the same time, my bf-- particularly in a chemically enhanced state, probably wouldn't have been keen on that situation. And I suppose that I have a short list of "people I wouldn't mind never seeing again" and he's on that list. I guess it just feels weird to blow someone off like that.

I always feel the same way when someone is being flirty with me and I don't respond to it. I always wonder if I come of as aloof, even if I throw in somewhere that I'm with someone.

 

[Anarchist]

you handled it badly. a hug? no. but there was no reason to to not talk to him.

also you said you basically blew him off. not kool. geez, what the fuck did he do?

 

[ZKaudio]

I give my girls' x bf's mad respect as long as they treated them well. In your case, I think you should have straight up told him that there is no hope for a future with you two but that you will be sociable. Lack of communication lets wild ideas flow... the worst thing in any relationship.

 

[Anarchist]

all of my exs talk to me whenver the see me. but if one curled her nose at me when i was saying hi, id think she was a bitch too.