Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below You know the feeling? You work your ass off. You go to the gym everyday, you skip parties, you go when you don't feel like it , because you know that you gotta keep pushing on. Then you come home and the only thing that you get from your out of shape family/girlfriend (or whatever) is "why do you have to train so much, you´re obsessed with gym, all you do". Me, I never get compliments and if I get some results it's usually "you're on steroids you loser" or "you're too big". What is it with people, their inability to be happy for others? I´m not saying I live for compliments it just would be great if someone actually acknowledged what you're doing. Do you get that a lot? You eat superclean, you train like a beast and no one ever sees the potential or compliments you? Just because they don't have the passion the deem it obsessive. I don't judge them for doing whatever they enjoy the most! Kinda pissed here.
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metalfujimi
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Same thing happens with me bro. Just the other day, both my parents said that I was just gonna fuck my body up with all the "shit" I put into it. All my out of shape, weak as hell friends say the same shit that you just said. We gotta get used to it cause they dont understand what it's like, nor do they have what it takes to do what we do. If they did then they would be doing it with us. You just have to accept it and move on. Thats why we have places like this, a group of people who understand what its like and support each other even though the rest of the sad world doesnt.
Man !
Can I ever relate ! You guys are SO right, this lifestyle is tough sometimes, and no they DON'T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES, I sometimes get a compliment from a woman on my body but not very often, but whatever, I still would rather do this than hang in the bars drinking like I use to.
Can I ever relate ! You guys are SO right, this lifestyle is tough sometimes, and no they DON'T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES, I sometimes get a compliment from a woman on my body but not very often, but whatever, I still would rather do this than hang in the bars drinking like I use to.
Everybody at work tells me that the lunch I eat (chicken breast and oatmeal) is unhealthy because there is too much protein and my kidneys will fail, while they are chowing down a healthy bigmac.
People also tell me that if i stop working out all of my muscle will turn into fat. I just agree with them and move on, its impossible to change their opinion.
People also tell me that if i stop working out all of my muscle will turn into fat. I just agree with them and move on, its impossible to change their opinion.
hd heritage
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If you notice, the people who try to put us down are always scrawny or overweight & out of shape as hell. I dont think Ive ever been put down by a well built person. people are jealous when someone else has the discipline to achieve things that they dont. Ive gotten alot of that from some people around me. I just look at what they look like & grin to myself.
Yep, thats just the way things are. Like my GF for example will give me shit on occasion, im like " would you rather me be getting shitfaced and going out with a bunch of young girls and getting back into my old ways and old friends who are crackheads, at least im doing something thats productive and i love doing it". Most poelpe cant be happy for you and cant keep unecessary comments to themselves. The one thats most annoying is when i get the " your way to big, its so gross, girls dont like that" i say " shut the fuck up, do you really think i am doing this for to get chicks and putting myself through this and being 100 pecent dedicated? no fuck face, its becasue i love doing it, it gives me an amazing sense of accomplishment, its a passion of mine and im pursueing it" peolpe are just lazy and dont understand how poelpe can get so much enjoyment out of physical activity, but whatever, its never gonna change so we all just gott suck it up.
metalfujimi
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this one pisses me off so much. I think they are just jealous cause everyone that has said that to me was a skinny piece of garbage.
needtogetaas
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Exactly.
The funny thing is. I´m not big by any standards. Now im bulking and this is what i get from my friend last night "you have looked better, you´re bloated, you need definition". Yeah I know!, buttt have you been bulking all your life??(she is fat). I have learned only to take advice from my friends who are into sports themselves. I hate when people cant practice what they preach. She never lasts more than a week in the gym. I could take her advice and start running and lose it all but then again I want to take huge and i know I´m miiiiiles from it, even though everyone seems to have a different opinion. You just gotta develop a really thick skin i guess. And remember "Obsessed is how lazy describe the dedicated".
Btw: thanks for the replies , it helps me to know people are going through the same
Btw: thanks for the replies , it helps me to know people are going through the same
metalfujimi
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bro it got even worse for me today. My parents got me some shirts for christmas and they didnt fit (XL) was to small. They said that I was destroying my body and becoming an asshole, all because an XL shirt didnt fit.
georgebushkush
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I'm the exact same too. I work out hard, eat right, sure I take gear. But all my weak ass friends don't compliment on the effort I put into it outside of roids and just say "you're on roids" or "you're too big you douchebag".
Sometimes I even think the girls are scared of me...
And my older brother is the biggest douche/critic of them all. I was just eating and he goes "do you know or are you scared of what that shit will do to your body" because I eat a lot. Or "you're going to have a heart attack before you're 40".
I got it pretty bad this week too, I was in the gym mon Tuesday and wed, taking Thursday and Friday off. Normally I dont lift 3 days straight but I wanted to get my work out in before the holidays knowing xmass was going to screw up my routine. So my wife tells me " your selfish for going to the gym 3 days in a row"...... I almost felt bad until I read this. Then I'm at my mothers and I got everything from too much protien is bad for me, And the creatine is killing my liver! That's when I pulled out a bag of milk thistle and said I got it covered!
DannoMight
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My wife don't care when I go to the gym I just have to giver her an hour or so notice and I am golden. She has been saying I am too big right now and I should cut down to 185lbs. From 215? Negative 220lbs+ is right around the corner.
My mentality is pretty simple: If people cannot accept who I am, and what I do, then it's too bad because this is the only me there is... I respect anything someone is into just as long as it isn't imposing on someone else, regardless if it is something that interests me or not.
You should never have to change something that makes you happy and that lets you express yourself.
You should never have to change something that makes you happy and that lets you express yourself.
I didn't read the whole thread but my experience is very different. I believe in living your life outside of the gym, keeping vices in check. I don't see it as a tremendous sacrifice. I never get disparaging remarks about my body. Then again, I'm not a mass monster. The reaction is usually, "wow, I didn't realize how buff you are." And that's fine with me.
This is exactly what its like for me. My family label my diet as weird just bc i eat totally different to them (clean and healthy and fucking loads of it)
And it pisses me off too! but the girlfriend is all for AAS, getting huge and feeds me tons so i just ignore the family...
And it pisses me off too! but the girlfriend is all for AAS, getting huge and feeds me tons so i just ignore the family...
weak...
Wow, after reading all of that I am a blessed guy. As long as I keep it to 3 or 4 days a week my wife is golden. We talk about my injections and she wants to learn all about it. She never puts me down or complains about any of it. God bless this woman. I sincerly hope the best for all of the rest of you that dont have it quite so easy and happy.
metalfujimi
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bro, if your gonna quite cause everyone else brings you down, then you dont have what it takes. I get made fun of literally everyday, including by my family and friends. You have to suck it up and push through it. Read my sig quote
Joe , I'm not asking someone to compliment on steroid use.. I´m just saying that people are never happy for others,, or have a hard time being happy. It´s like with girls, other girls to them are either too skinny or too fat, never look good, it´s a defense mechanism really to never acknowledege others.
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ALIN
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I have had that my whole life but honestly I feed off others negativity,,,it pushes me to strive harder and harder.
I started bodybuilding at a time when doctors where stating that AAS could not increase muscle mass. Haters called bodybuilders gay. Arnold was just arriving on scene Venice Beach. In the 1980's, housewives started putting his poster on their refridgerators. 2 Ciba dbols (10 mg) a day was common and considered resonable dose.
Bodybuilding is a sport, a hobby and a lifestyle. I am into it as a hobby and a lifstyle so massive amounts of AAS and other perfromance enhancing drugs are simply not part of my life. You can take bodybuilding too far. I bodybuild to improve my life. It is not my life. If it becomes an obsession or a burden, then you might need to re-balance you life. I agree 100% with Nelson, it should not be a burden.
People are often jealous and too lazy to make a change for the better so instead, they try to bring those down around them so they feel better about their loser selves. Take their negative energy and accept it as a gift that you can use to your advantage in the gym.
alin states it very well:
Happy New Year to All!
-doublebicep-
Bodybuilding is a sport, a hobby and a lifestyle. I am into it as a hobby and a lifstyle so massive amounts of AAS and other perfromance enhancing drugs are simply not part of my life. You can take bodybuilding too far. I bodybuild to improve my life. It is not my life. If it becomes an obsession or a burden, then you might need to re-balance you life. I agree 100% with Nelson, it should not be a burden.
People are often jealous and too lazy to make a change for the better so instead, they try to bring those down around them so they feel better about their loser selves. Take their negative energy and accept it as a gift that you can use to your advantage in the gym.
alin states it very well:
Happy New Year to All!
-doublebicep-
i wasnt solely talking about steroid use. its all of it. most of us here have an unhealthy hobby. im not downing it myself im just looking at it from another point of view. a constant strive to be bigger and or stronger is taxing on your body. it gets a lot of negative review because of that.
i got compliments alot at first when my gains first came but now, nothing. Except being asked if I take roids lol. But now, no I dont really get compliments unless its from someone who I havnt seen in a long time.
I think its because most normal people dont realise how hard it is to change your body...
lol most people just think "why do you need to get bigger youre already big". Well it just comes down to personal opinion, there is no right and wrong. I want to be bigger because I feel like an alpha male that way. Most people would say thats an insecurity but shit tell a woman to walk around with no make up on for a week, they wouldnt because they wouldnt like the way they look.
The people who accept it are the good ones, as with anything in life. The people who hate just have problems of their own. I DO believe you can take bodybuilding too far, as in 25 supps a day. I take gear because I see it as a supplement not a drug.
The people who accept it are the good ones, as with anything in life. The people who hate just have problems of their own. I DO believe you can take bodybuilding too far, as in 25 supps a day. I take gear because I see it as a supplement not a drug.
twineminder
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When they ask why I need to get bigger and say I'm already big, I just ask back "why do you keep eating whoppers, you're already fat enough.
Gear is a true supp. 3/4 of the shite on the shelf at those stores or online is just hype and snake oil. Gear does exaclty as advertised. All of the haters I know spend a ton in those stores in the hopes they get the result advertised. If they sold gear in the stores you know damn well they'd be the first in line, bills in hand. Funny how for a short time in U.S. history, if you were drinking a beer, you were breaking the law. Put that in your stigma pipe and smoke it!
RADAR
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RADAR
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Same here...i opened my first muscle mag where Joe Weider was introducing Arnold to the Bodybuilding world.
Man! thats been a long time ago.
anyway i fit right in with the crowd with a pillow tucked under my shirt!
RADAR
My story is ... I am 37 and kept getting hit on by a little hot 19yr old with fake titties at the pool and she was doing it right in front of my wife !! All the guys would just drool over her and so did the girls that were at the pool ....so needless to say my wife wasnt happy at all but made me feel awesome thinking this old man could slide his slong in a tight little 19yr old girl. HaHa she wouldnt know what hit her by the time my experienced ass was done with her plus being on 750mg of test!!! well anyways my wife was like enough of this shit what do you have that can make me thin and fit ( she was always against aas but tolerated it cause of me ) .... being how she was 185 I started with diet and not eating after 6pm and have her on the treadmill walking 4 miles a day 5 days a week and put her on anavar and now she is 125 looking great ... she made a change and not only feels better but looks great and is a true believer in aas usage but not abusive !!! Its funny cause when she started seeing results she wanted to b on that treadmill everyday ..... its amazing what it takes to motivate someone considering I have been begging her for years to workout and eat right !!!
Thats awesome! Youll hear people say its cheating but really its not, shes putting in all the work. I think a little boost is ok, especially when AAS are done safely they are pretty much the same as a supplement.
well guys, it's a shortcut for sure, and of course guys who are natural and wokr harder deserve more credit buuuuut I will not have anyone say I didn't work for it , although im on steroids,, i still hit the gym 6 times a week annd eat boring food, do not make it seem like it's easy
I think the term jealous is a bit strong and conveys the wrong impression. I think seeing some one in great shape is just a harsh reminder of what kind of potential people have and how far some people are from that potential.
Unless someone is ready to make a change themselves and around fit people for the inspiration, acknowledging someone elses level of fitness can be a bitter pill to swallow.
I beleive that most of the time lack of compliments has nothing to do with the fit person at all, its more due to the fact that their appearance/strength/stamina or what have you IS appreciated but by voicing it people bring their own shortcomings to light.
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