Two Questions

[SteelWeaver]

Sorry - no specific suggestions, but I think Gladi has a point there on #2 - sounds just like my sister - could be very good at stuff if she put in the effort, but is very afraid of finding out that she might not be as good as people say she might be able to be, or as other people actually are, so she just accepts mediocrity as her lot ...

Still can't figure her out.

As for #1, maybe a lot of compliments would help. Not overly effusive - just firm and honest ..

Just my 2 cents

 

[Arioch]

I do not understand either one of them, hence my posting it here. It is coming down to the point where my recommendation will be to cut them both, and I hate doing this.

I mean, I had excellent genetics, but I continued to work as wanted to get better. Seems simple.

 

[Gladiola]

I do not understand either one of them, hence my posting it here. It is coming down to the point where my recommendation will be to cut them both, and I hate doing this.

I mean, I had excellent genetics, but I continued to work as wanted to get better. Seems simple.

If only a logical realization of the fact that our emotions are STUPID would make us stop *feeling* that way.. but it doesn't.

I have felt absolutely crippling insecurity at times... like I just wanted the floor to open up & swallow me. I couldn't imagine having these feelings & then trying to compete.

Even when I felt that way.. I knew in my mind, without a doubt, that I wasn't really THAT BAD... heck, I was probably above average & better than 50% of the ppl out there. But this intellectual realization didn't stop the crippling feeling.

My point - I totally agre with you. it's really stupid & hard to understand. I also wish it was something you could just 'fix' But I surely don't know the answer.

 

[Arioch]

Gladiola, thanks for your help.

This is also one of the most desperate bumps ever to take place in the Western hemisphere, if not the world.

 

[SteelWeaver]

Maybe if you just honestly told them what you've told us here .... just tackle the whole issue head on. Set up appointments with each of them and say what you have to say, then it's up to them ...

 

[Arioch]

I have.

I honestly have to confess that the biggest problem I have with the entire issue is that when I have to cut an athlete, I feel like I have failed. Or worse yet, quit. I hate that.