Regarding the pyramid training. It's not a crappy way to go. It does work. But what Sass is saying is that if you do 4 exercises for a muscle group and your doing that many sets, per exercise - that's too much. If you would go to 2 exercises and pyramid, that would be more like it.
You also have to take into consideration the muscle group you're training and what muscle groups you're trying to work on more than others. You may train lighter on muscle groups you don't feel you need as much work on, and heavier on those you want to make grow.
I think you can find your info. right here on this board. Read the posts even on the guys side, read the sticky's, all of your information is right here, you just need to search for it. There are books out there - but I don't know what they are. Maybe someone else can help with that.
If you want to grow muscle, you NEED PROTEIN! You need to be eating AT LEAST your body weight in protein per day: ie, I weigh 123 lbs, I need AT LEAST 123 grams of protein per day.
Good luck!