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This can be very true. However, beauty can also be your enemy. Certainly I am no beauty queen but by default of having blonde hair and blue eyes (read Toni Morrison's Bluest Eye) my childhood was full of "ah, how beautiful." I would get so angry that this "beauty" they spoke of was what they were basing their opinion of me on. Didn't they see that I was smart, talented, and confident not because of beauty but because I was comfortable in my skin? My first job was in banking and I quickly climbed the corporate ladder. I was always falling against resistance to how I was climbing. "She is sleeping with the boss" - "She is too young to be a leader, they just think she is cute" - when I would walk into a meeting with partners I could see the look on their face "oh great, a ditz." Then I would begin the meeting and I would love the look on their face like "holy shit." This was constant during the first 5 years of my career. I hated every bit of it. I was smart and talented and until I spoke people thought very differently.
Instead of focusing on exterior presence, work from the inside out. A beautiful person on the inside is always the most beautiful, graceful person on the out. You can be perfectly symetrical, perfectly beautiful, and your inside is still what shines. I want my being to shine the brightest, not my physical appearance.
Being in the coaching business that focuses on physical appearance this is a tough one for me. I am constantly bombarded with "I want to look like you" or "I want to look like _____". The first talk I have to have is about inner confidence. We start there. I always find that in the end the outside becomes just a beautiful. It will not work the opposite way and I "fire" clients who believe it does. I also find that some clients hire me because I'm their "cute trainer". I think it is disgusting, degrading, and demeaning. It is my job to test the limits of the body but it has nothing to do with my external appearance. It is the strength within that creates the body, and it is my job to portray exactly that.
I am reading a book "Woman Alone" that talks about societies role in our desire to "have someone" or "something" to be fulfilled. The book is about the art of being alone and the beauty of it. I recommend it to all beautiful, strong women (all women are).
just be.
Instead of focusing on exterior presence, work from the inside out. A beautiful person on the inside is always the most beautiful, graceful person on the out. You can be perfectly symetrical, perfectly beautiful, and your inside is still what shines. I want my being to shine the brightest, not my physical appearance.
Being in the coaching business that focuses on physical appearance this is a tough one for me. I am constantly bombarded with "I want to look like you" or "I want to look like _____". The first talk I have to have is about inner confidence. We start there. I always find that in the end the outside becomes just a beautiful. It will not work the opposite way and I "fire" clients who believe it does. I also find that some clients hire me because I'm their "cute trainer". I think it is disgusting, degrading, and demeaning. It is my job to test the limits of the body but it has nothing to do with my external appearance. It is the strength within that creates the body, and it is my job to portray exactly that.
I am reading a book "Woman Alone" that talks about societies role in our desire to "have someone" or "something" to be fulfilled. The book is about the art of being alone and the beauty of it. I recommend it to all beautiful, strong women (all women are).
just be.
