Tips for using the back door

[out_at_sea]

Could anyone give some tips about how to prepare the use of the back door...My partner is kinda scaray bout this and I wanna make sure that she is comfotable.

Thanks

 

[ajtomasi]

I've heard it takes days if not weeks of prep work such as fingering the ass hole regularly to loosen it up.

My girl and I finger each other ass holes when ever we're in the shower, but she still can't take me from behind.

 

[out_at_sea]

I've heard it takes days if not weeks of prep work such as fingering the ass hole regularly to loosen it up.

My girl and I finger each other ass holes when ever we're in the shower, but she still can't take me from behind.

I am sure that some guys will help us out to use the back door properly...

 

[out_at_sea]

Give her at least two vaginal orgasms first with the second being doggy or missionary with her on her stomach. I can it reverse missionary. Then a full body hot oil massage, ending at the ass and thighs. I go down and lick their ass here but I love that anyway. Ask her to hold her buttcheeks apart then pour some of the hot oil down her asscrack and spread it with your fingers. Get some on your finger too then SLOWLY work it inside. Let her tell you when she's ready for more. When she's ready try two fingers. Since I'm no John Holmes if she can take two fingers she's probably ready for me. Going to 3 seems bigger than cocks, not that I've seen many. Lube it up and kneel behind her. Insert the head and hold it there for a good 20-30 seconds then ease in inch by inch. Assuming she can take it all don't be surprised if it takes her 2 minutes before she's got it all. Massage her ass and back while you do it. Ask her to play with her pussy too; that may take her mind off things if she's worried about pain. You CANNOT go too slow; fuck it up the first time and you may not get a 2nd chance for months.
Whew! Excuse me while I go jack off now. LOL

Sounds like a plan..QUite an endeavour...

 

[Puddles]

This is something I wrote to someone else a few months ago:

I don't know what if any attempts have been made for you two to enjoy anal sex, but let me tell you, it's absolutely wonderful. In all honesty, my most intense orgasms come from anal, but they can be so intense that I am completely wiped out afterwards for a little while. It's a feeling like no other orgasm produces once you let yourself go. Instead of the typical g-spot or clitoral orgasms, anal seems to combine g-spot along with what ever else is in my ass to produce mind blowing sensations that just go on and on, very deeply, very intensely, and for longer stretches than the usual orgasms. Most of the time when we're having anal, either my husband or I will also be playing with my clit, and quite often we'll do a double penetration using a vibe or a dildo or just his fingers.

Positions...three favorites of mine are: me on my knees with my legs spread fairly wide, my ass angled up towards him while my chest down against the bed, my husband standing behind me at the edge of the bed; me on my back at the edge of the bed, my legs spread in a wide "v" with my husband standing; me on my back on the bed, my legs spread in a wide "v" with my ankles at about shoulder height, my hips raised up naturally with my legs being so high, my husband on his knees either with his body erect or leaning over me. All of those positions allow us easy access to my pussy and clit for more stimulation.

If she's very nervous about trying anal and she can enjoy a drink or two, this would be a perfect time, as it will help her relax.

Obviously lube is a must for anal. You should begin to loosen her up with your lubed finger. Put a good amount of lube on your fingertips and gently caress her hole, applying a little pressure on the entire area, not just going immediately in. Play with her clit and/or pussy gently while you're warming up her ass. SLOWLY take one fingertip and massage her hole with little motions of going in. She needs to really relax her muscles or it's gonna hurt. (Pain is part of the game though and the pleasure she will eventually receive will be well worth the moments of initial pain.) Once you've maneuvered a fingertip in, say to the first or second nuckel, move your finger in a circular motion slowly loosening up the rim. It's kind of like a stretching exercise. Keep doing this and add in a little in and out stroking as she becomes more comfortable and is feeling pleasure from your finger. Next I would go for a small vibe or dildo...very well lubed, and gently slide it into her ass. If she says stop, you stop. Don't pull out though. If you just leave it alone held in place, her hole will loosen up to accommodate the toy. Again, once she's comfortable, slide it in and out and in a circular rotation to loosen her up some more. You should continue to stimulate her pussy/clit during all of this.

You may have given her an orgasm by now.

When you both think she's ready for your cock, make sure you've lubed yourself up well. Just like with the toy...it will hurt unless she's completely relaxed so listen to her, when she says stop, you stop. I've had to have my husband stop and be still for a good 30 seconds due to the pain, but I KNOW how good it's going to feel once I can get beyond that. I think much of the reason I wind up in pain is that I'm too excited and simply can't relax my muscles well enough. Anyway, take her cues and go slowly. Once you get past the head of your cock by about an inch, the rest will go smoothly, slowly perhaps pausing for a while until it’s all the way in. The skin in-between her ass and her pussy is almost paper thin...she will feel your cock hitting her g-spot. You will love how different her ass feels on your cock, so tight and hot! After a little slow fucking, you will be able to fuck her ass harder and faster, sending her into some very deep and intense orgasms. One of you should continue to pay attention to her clit too...it's just absolutely mind blowing!!! Nipple stimulation is always a good thing to add in too.

 

[out_at_sea]

This is something I wrote to someone else a few months ago:

I don't know what if any attempts have been made for you two to enjoy anal sex, but let me tell you, it's absolutely wonderful. In all honesty, my most intense orgasms come from anal, but they can be so intense that I am completely wiped out afterwards for a little while. It's a feeling like no other orgasm produces once you let yourself go. Instead of the typical g-spot or clitoral orgasms, anal seems to combine g-spot along with what ever else is in my ass to produce mind blowing sensations that just go on and on, very deeply, very intensely, and for longer stretches than the usual orgasms. Most of the time when we're having anal, either my husband or I will also be playing with my clit, and quite often we'll do a double penetration using a vibe or a dildo or just his fingers.

Positions...three favorites of mine are: me on my knees with my legs spread fairly wide, my ass angled up towards him while my chest down against the bed, my husband standing behind me at the edge of the bed; me on my back at the edge of the bed, my legs spread in a wide "v" with my husband standing; me on my back on the bed, my legs spread in a wide "v" with my ankles at about shoulder height, my hips raised up naturally with my legs being so high, my husband on his knees either with his body erect or leaning over me. All of those positions allow us easy access to my pussy and clit for more stimulation.

If she's very nervous about trying anal and she can enjoy a drink or two, this would be a perfect time, as it will help her relax.

Obviously lube is a must for anal. You should begin to loosen her up with your lubed finger. Put a good amount of lube on your fingertips and gently caress her hole, applying a little pressure on the entire area, not just going immediately in. Play with her clit and/or pussy gently while you're warming up her ass. SLOWLY take one fingertip and massage her hole with little motions of going in. She needs to really relax her muscles or it's gonna hurt. (Pain is part of the game though and the pleasure she will eventually receive will be well worth the moments of initial pain.) Once you've maneuvered a fingertip in, say to the first or second nuckel, move your finger in a circular motion slowly loosening up the rim. It's kind of like a stretching exercise. Keep doing this and add in a little in and out stroking as she becomes more comfortable and is feeling pleasure from your finger. Next I would go for a small vibe or dildo...very well lubed, and gently slide it into her ass. If she says stop, you stop. Don't pull out though. If you just leave it alone held in place, her hole will loosen up to accommodate the toy. Again, once she's comfortable, slide it in and out and in a circular rotation to loosen her up some more. You should continue to stimulate her pussy/clit during all of this.

You may have given her an orgasm by now.

When you both think she's ready for your cock, make sure you've lubed yourself up well. Just like with the toy...it will hurt unless she's completely relaxed so listen to her, when she says stop, you stop. I've had to have my husband stop and be still for a good 30 seconds due to the pain, but I KNOW how good it's going to feel once I can get beyond that. I think much of the reason I wind up in pain is that I'm too excited and simply can't relax my muscles well enough. Anyway, take her cues and go slowly. Once you get past the head of your cock by about an inch, the rest will go smoothly, slowly perhaps pausing for a while until it’s all the way in. The skin in-between her ass and her pussy is almost paper thin...she will feel your cock hitting her g-spot. You will love how different her ass feels on your cock, so tight and hot! After a little slow fucking, you will be able to fuck her ass harder and faster, sending her into some very deep and intense orgasms. One of you should continue to pay attention to her clit too...it's just absolutely mind blowing!!! Nipple stimulation is always a good thing to add in too.

What do you use to lube her up??

 

[Puddles]

I like Astroglide. My husband prefers something thicker like KY. If you're using condoms, don't use anything oil based as it will break down the condom.

 

[out_at_sea]

I like Astroglide. My husband prefers something thicker like KY. If you're using condoms, don't use anything oil based as it will break down the condom.

Really?
I was thinking about using a condom and lube it up..

Why could get broken?

 

[out_at_sea]

 

[Puddles]

Astroglide and KY ARE water based and safe to use with condoms. You can't use things like babyoil or vasseline with condoms....I don't know why oils breakd down the materials in condoms, but the do.

So, yes use a condom and Astroglide or KY!