Split up with the lady, now a hot blond wants me to spend the night.... advice?

[Big Brother Val]

Okay... the lady I've been going out with (and nearly married) for two and a half years split up, because she'd much rather show herself off to the general public than me.

I helped her get into great shape. I mean, don't get me wrong, she did all the work. But I put up her diet, training, cardio, supplements, you name it. She's absolutely beautiful. 34 DD chest... wears a size 0 short... long blond hair... good Christ. She's my favorite.

Well... we're split up due to the confidence she gained in herself... seems she no longer needs me. So in a way... I created a monster. The more confidence she got... the further away she drifted. Now she just wants attention... and doesn't talk to me much.

So I'm trying to get my own apartment, as I still live with her. I just sleep on the couch.

In any case... somehow this gal that used to work with me got wind of this, she just talked with me online... and asked me to "train" her. She also told me to be ready to get a good workout myself, and bring something to sleep in, because I'd be too tired to drive home.

FUCK! This gal isn't the type that sleeps around (from what I know of her) but she REALLY liked me when she worked here, but I was with my gal. So do I take her up on it and move on? Or do I try to work it out with my gal?

I don't know what to do. I've been with two gals in the past 8 years... and I don't want anyone else... but the thought of great sex with a hot lady who REALLY digs me is hard to pass up, when my lady at home doesn't treat me like I'm worth shit on her shoe.

Any advice?

 

[Cromagnum]

put it too her. This will do one of two things that will give you options.

1)it will either bring lady #1 back too you at a sprint cause she will now realize it is possible for her to lose what she thinks is hers and is takin for granted.

2)if lady #1 doesn't come running back drop her and move onto #2 a woman who truely wants to be with you.

 

[TxCollegeguy]

Sounds like a good deal to me


Try it on for size, if you dont like it then move on

 

[Big Brother Val]

Cromagnum... that's just what I thought.

The other option, is that I go out with this new gal, and it totally destroys any chance with my lady. I really thought me and her would go the distance. But it seems I can't keep up with the feeling she gets from turning heads, and looking incredible where ever she goes.

Don't get me wrong... it's not that I don't have any balls... they've shrunk a shitload this year... but I would really like to work it out with my gal. I've been trying for about 6 months... buying flowers, a ring, trying to treet her like a queen... but I just seem like someone who helps pay the rent now.

Though she'll still say she wants to marry me. Confuses the shit out of me. Doesn't talk much... gets pissed when I get jealous of all the attention she gives/gets from other people... and none for me.... yet says she'd marry me tomorrow.

It pisses me off so bad, I feel like I'm gonna fuckin' explode.

 

[Cromagnum]

man you can either take matters into your own hands or you can let her tighten her grip on your nuts. I vote for option #1. Call me crazy but I like control

 

[Iceman121]

Bro, it may be hard, but I would leave the other woman. Sounds like you would be in a world of hell all the time. Nothing worse than a woman who thinks she is above eveyone else. Will hurt for awhile, but in the long run you will be better off..........Hit the new girl!! MOVE ON!!

 

[Big Brother Val]

I know. I know.

I also prefer control. I don't have to run the entire show... but shit... her acknowledging me when we're in public would be nice.

It's odd... I work my ass off... I don't have the greatest physique, but my arms are 18", my waist is 31", low bodyfat.... and she'd rather have attention from skinny, ugly, fat, pathetic, pit faced, bad haired, hairy backed, bad smellin', twelve sandwich eatin' bastards than me.

Did I REALLY fuck up?

Or is it just a woman thing to have complete control over the male population... no matter how pathetic the men are?

 

[jAcKiNDaBoX]

If you don't take the new girl up on her offer your being stupid. You need to show yor ex that her self absorbed confidence has pushed you into going out with another woman. I would also try to get out of her apartment and into your own a.s.a.p

 

[Cromagnum]

here are the words my dad gave me to live by and I think now is a good time for them

"treat a girl like a queen and she will walk all over you, treat her like shit (of course everyonce and a while be nice) and she will be at your beck and call"

I've found this to be rue with most women. There are a few exceptions but from what I have seen the exceptions make up a very small percentage.

 

[FreakMonster]

Just remember Brother Val, WOMEN WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE!!!!!

Just act like you don't give a damn about her.

You show her that and she will come crying back to you.

If not then she was not the one for you!!!!

Enjoy yourself with the new hottie!!!