wow. . .you're in my prayers buddy.
keep the faith. . .i can't tell you how many people i know that had similar situations when their kids were in untero, then the kid was born, and turned out to be completely normal. . .the one guy i work with, all three of his kids supposedly had serious developmental issues while they were gestating and, each time one was born the meds told them that they might not live past 12 y/o. . .all three of them (two boys and a girl) are beautiful, they all three have masters degrees, they were all great athletes and two of them have kids of their own now (the other is still in college working on her doctorate). . .pre-birth development is a funny thing, and not all fetuses develop the same. . .there are always things that are outside the norm, and turn out to be nothing, other than "different".