So Girls, What do you do when...

[5150guy]

I am going to gently bring this up again. You did not answer the question. Did you treat him(the man with the small penis) as you would have wanted to be treated were the situation reversed (ie you had an abnormally large vulva and loose vagina)?

I dont know why more of the EF ladies have not responded to your question either. It would be interesting to hear some frank honest answers from the other EF women as to how they would handle this kind of a situation. As general rule there are substantially more men who post on BTS than women.

As for each gender measuring their gentials and brinking a "stat card", while pragmantic, it could be a good idea. However, I doubt most women would go along with it. Men on the other hand have just grown used to being measured up and graded by women for their penis size as a fact of life. Women by and large struggle with being honest, open and comfortable disussing the size, appearance and natural tightness of thier punnani relative to how they "measure up" in that area.

If i had that small of a penis as the guy you mentioned, I would do the best could with what life had dealt me, and hope some how to find a woman who would accept me for my little wee wee. Hearing your account calls to mind the famous quote,"there but for the grace of God go I", and I would imagine that many men are thinking similar when they read your story. I would hope women have that same attitude as well. However, if in his shoes, I would be praying for the day when having penis enlargment was as far advanced and as relatively safe as having a good boob job.

 

[mobro]

I dont think I have a double standard. If a guy finds that he is just not sexually compatible with a woman because she is to loose then there is nothing wrong with him ending things. Sexual compatability is very important.

This was my first experience with this type of thing. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and it just didn't work. I wasn't in love, maybe it would have been different if I was - but I doubt it.

I just wanted to know what other girls do when faced with a similar situation. But apparently the guys are more interested in this topic.

Don't second guess yourself. You made an honest decision for yourself.
You are exactly right, sexual cpmpatibility is very important. I tried to stay in a relationship where there wasn't any. I told myself that I just didn't like sex that much. All that did was get me deeper into a bad situation. Now things are a lot worse than they would have been if I would have handled it then. And by the way, I love sex now. Be proud of yourself for making an honest decision and go out and find what makes you happy.

 

[Stefka]

I think I treated him decently. I gave it a shot - it wasn’t working for me - I ended things civilly.
And (perhaps most importantly) I have never told anyone irl about his size.
But if this type of thing ever happens again I wont sleep with the guy in the first place.

 

[Oceano]

I think I treated him decently. I gave it a shot - it wasn’t working for me - I ended things civilly.
And (perhaps most importantly) I have never told anyone irl about his size.
But if this type of thing ever happens again I wont sleep with the guy in the first place.

Do you not feel a bit shallow choosing someone based on the size of their member?

 

[Stefka]

Do you not feel a bit shallow choosing someone based on the size of their member?

Are you saying that it is shallow to break up with someone because the sex just isnt doing it for you?

 

[Oceano]

Are you saying that it is shallow to break up with someone because the sex just isnt doing it for you?

given that sex is 75% mental and 25% physical and you want to concentrate on the physical portion (more specifically the size of his member) then yes, its pretty shallow

 

[Stefka]

Sex isn’t always 25% physical and 75% mental. There are a lot of factors that come into play - like how long you have been with the other person, what you are looking for relationship wise.
Like I said earlier - maybe if I was in love it would have been different.
I think the physical part is very important, especially in a new relationship.
There is no reason to stay in an unsatisfying relationship, regardless of whether the cause of the dissatisfaction is mental or physical.

 

[Oceano]

Sex isn’t always 25% physical and 75% mental. There are a lot of factors that come into play - like how long you have been with the other person, what you are looking for relationship wise.
Like I said earlier - maybe if I was in love it would have been different.
I think the physical part is very important, especially in a new relationship.
There is no reason to stay in an unsatisfying relationship, regardless of whether the cause of the dissatisfaction is mental or physical.

could it be that this guy just didn't turn you on period?

the dick thing seems like a cop out

 

[Stefka]

could it be that this guy just didn't turn you on period?

the dick thing seems like a cop out

The "dick thing" was a problem.
Would I have liked him better if he was better endowed? Who knows. Perhaps I was initially turned off by his size and didnt allow myself to get that into him.
Human attraction is complicated.

 

[5150guy]

I think I treated him decently. I gave it a shot - it wasn’t working for me - I ended things civilly.
And (perhaps most importantly) I have never told anyone irl about his size.
But if this type of thing ever happens again I wont sleep with the guy in the first place.

Stefka:

Glad to hear that you treated him decently and did not humiliate him. Postive Karma will be returned to you. Not all women would have shown as much respect/class as you did. Women can be pretty cruel about that sort of thing.

I say this because I got labled as being gay and being a teeny weenie man by a woman who got pist at me when I found out about her history of cheating and I refused to have sex with her. I did not want that drama in my life, and why would I want to date a woman who continues to cheat on her men.

While neither of her accusatsions are true(straight as an arrow and just your average joe in the penis department), she spread that stuff among her family and friends, and once you get that label in the female community when you live in a less populated area, it gets around pretty fast and it is not fun to deal with.

At any rate, Kudos to you for showing respect and maturity.