Should I say this to a chick

[Blue Star]

There's this chick at work i like. She's married but separated with a kid. I told her i like her but she said she doesn't like me in that way. However, afte constant flirting week in and week out and suggestive body language...i was going to say to her something along the lines of......

"I#You look very sexy in that red dress but you're giving me mixed singals cuz ur saying one thing and ur body language another..."

BTW, she wears red every saturday.

Also, i was thinking of saying to her that everytime i'm around her i feel drawn towards her and that i want to hold her, touch her kiss her.

Is this too much folks or?

 

[split endz]

yep, too much. Tease her a little; ignore her sometimes when she's trying for attention; make fun of her if you can. Have an air of mystery about yourself, mysterious but confident.

 

[musclemom]

There's this chick at work i like. She's married but separated with a kid. I told her i like her but she said she doesn't like me in that way. However, afte constant flirting week in and week out and suggestive body language...i was going to say to her something along the lines of......

"I#You look very sexy in that red dress but you're giving me mixed singals cuz ur saying one thing and ur body language another..."

BTW, she wears red every saturday.

Also, i was thinking of saying to her that everytime i'm around her i feel drawn towards her and that i want to hold her, touch her kiss her.

Is this too much folks or?

Sorry to barge in, I don't normally post in this forum but I'm a female sooooooo ...

IMO, if you want to have a meaningless physical relationship with this lady that will be short lived, you play games just like split endz suggested. Most women will ALWAYS rise to the occasion and chase down complicated or difficult prey (we've all heard the stories of women who want to turn a gay guy around). A meaningless relationship with a coworker is a recipe for disaster.

ON THE OTHER HAND, if you genuinely WANT a long term relationship with this woman you say EXACTLY what you're thinking of saying. If she doesn't want to be involved with you, then everything's on the table, at least she'll stop flirting.

Think here, you said she's separated, if she's just recently separated, she may not want to get into a serious relationship right now (dating is a whole issue on several levels in the beginings of divorce; and don't forget there's a kid involved, too). She MIGHT not want to go out with you because she's not ready to get involved with someone, for her own sake, or the sake of her child. She might genuinely like you as a friend (guess what, that is NOT a hopeless situation. My current husband and I -- whom I adore -- started out as "just friends.") Guys are so quick to dismiss the "just friends" comment. I have news, gentleman, you want to have a long term relationship with a woman, start out as being best friends. You'll be amazed what happens

The way to a woman's heart is through her mind.

Sorry to butt in if I did ...

 

[tanka]

i have to agree with musclemom the way to a womens heart is with out doubt through her mind but hey lets not totally dismiss how much fun a meaningless physical relationship can be for a guy.for me i would say in the third person hey did you ever meet someone and for some reason you just begain to feel totally drawn to this person and the more you listened to them the more it just seemed as though you had known them your whole life and the stronger this connection become it just felt so natural to want to get closer to them and feel the intensity of that conection and explore these feelings more deeply etc. when she begins to agree with the theme of the (conversation)as she must because who hasnt felt like that , just layer in some more along the same lines with some feeling in your voice blue star..you could be surprised just how effective this can be because when you can touch a woman deep in her heart deep in her soul and in all the special places a woman longs to be touched things will start to blossom and move in the right direction from my experience . good luck

 

[tanka]

the most important thing here guys is always set your self up as the prize here not her and if she is very lucky you may let her step into your world at some point in time , a calm and cool approach to women is essential at all times as they will try to test you in ther search for strength from time to time.

 

[H_T_]

why would you want to step into a situation like that? maybe you feel your chances are better cuz she's vulnerable.

 

[latinsteel]

why would you want to step into a situation like that? maybe you feel your chances are better cuz she's vulnerable.

PLAY games like split endz said!!

 

[tmk123]

yep, too much. Tease her a little; ignore her sometimes when she's trying for attention; make fun of her if you can. Have an air of mystery about yourself, mysterious but confident.

So you've read double your dating too?

 

[mrhoon]

Many years ago, I worked with a bunch of guys, and a few choice chicks. One of the girls was hot and in control of all the guys, had them wrapped. "Lift this, drive me here, buy me that." She got it no questions asked. Then I come along, I tell her to lift her own goddamn box, I won't drive her cause she could use the exercise, and fuck no I wont buy you shit. I'd still flirt, but I was runnin the game, not her. The guys would say you can't talk to girls like that! I'd just smile. Well, guess who was fucking her within a week? Me. There was another girl that was with a guy, but he apparently wasn't into sex anymore. I didn't want to get between a couple but when she started talking about missing sex so much, what is a knight in shining armor supposed to do. So I start flirting a little. Shes like WTF? I said " Listen, I'm not trying to steel you away from XXXX or anything, I just want to sample some of what he's not using." Bingo, she was in. Her whole demeeanor changed. Over the next few weeks, she would come to work to "visit" some of the other workers, and I'd be in the back, she would sneak back to see me and say "so, you wanna see some skin?" Then she would pull up her shirt and show me her titts!!!! Fuckin sweet. Before that I'd never seen her in street clothes before. We eventually set up a time to fuck at work, but I got transferred to another store that was being opened.
My point is, there is a time for honesty, there is a time for subtlety, there is a time to be the bad boy, and soon enough, there will be time to nail it to the wall.

 

[tanka]

first class attitude mrhoon, top notch.women will sometimes test a guy for strength look on it as a respect opportunity and well come it with both arms .... let them know you will not put up with the games. do this in a calm cool way and this seperates you non runners.you are the prize and if shes very lucky she may be able to step into your world and find out what she is really looking for.