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Werd
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JavaGuru said:
No, no that isn't what I am asking or implying.
I am merely asking if you always end every sex act with orgasm? I have had experience with American and European men. And the European men don't always feel the need to reach orgasm. (At least the few that I have been with.) They always get me off (not hard to do LOL) and want to keep getting me off... even when all I want is for them to cum. But there are many times when they do not. I am always satisfied - actually they usually prefer to go down than to continue with intercourse.
Just wondering about this.
There are many many women who never orgasm.
I am just interested in the difference between the way different men approach sex. Do you guys feel like you have to orgasm in order for the sex act to have been considered "completed" or "good"?
Werd
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These are the responses I was looking for.
I don't have gobs of experience but for the most part the few guys I have been with all seemed to be the same - finish with an orgasm. It wasn't until recently that I noticed this is not the case with all men. And it makes me feel kind of "bad" to some extent.... as if I didn't truly satisfy them. But I also understand there is a philosophy by which the man does NOT want to achieve orgasm, however, to see how long and how often he can delay it.
It just blows my mind when a guy has not reached an orgasm, I have had at least one and he is gettin' his freak on like nobody's business, but just doesn't cum. I ask if he would like me to "finish the deal" with oral and the reply 9 out of 10 times is, "No, I would prefer to eat you and give you another orgasm... then I will be satisfied."
I don't have gobs of experience but for the most part the few guys I have been with all seemed to be the same - finish with an orgasm. It wasn't until recently that I noticed this is not the case with all men. And it makes me feel kind of "bad" to some extent.... as if I didn't truly satisfy them. But I also understand there is a philosophy by which the man does NOT want to achieve orgasm, however, to see how long and how often he can delay it.
It just blows my mind when a guy has not reached an orgasm, I have had at least one and he is gettin' his freak on like nobody's business, but just doesn't cum. I ask if he would like me to "finish the deal" with oral and the reply 9 out of 10 times is, "No, I would prefer to eat you and give you another orgasm... then I will be satisfied."
Robert Jan
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Hm. Id say its strange not to want one. Maybe they were showing off how much of a selfless lover they are
I pretty much always reach orgasm, unless the sex is just that bad. I try to delay mine as long as humanly possible because honestly, watching a woman orgasm is a much bigger turnon than having an orgasm myself. Calling my current partner multi-orgasmic is like saying Donald Trump has a few bucks. I try to pace myself and plan 3 moves ahead so she has 3-4 orgasms for every one of mine. 12 orgasms in 3-4 hours is very doable for her.....matter of fact we've done it several times. The goal is 24 orgasms in 24 hours. I will be one sore-jawed zombie after that.
Mandinka2
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When she's screaming for mercy of course....Werd said:
It's a tremendous feeling to be able to hold/carry an absolutely spent and satiated woman to bed.... I've had occassion to wash her face/teeth in bed she was so tired , then come back to the bed after emptying the rinse in the sink to find her snoring.....thats pretty special...
My French ex gf's sister complained that U.S. men seemed to think of sex as being something in porno movies. That's one kind of sex sure , but it's not making love....
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strongsmartsexy
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Werd said:
When she's begging for a break from orgasm, and then it's only if I'm in a good mood.
Otherwise it's just so damn fun to push her for more. Bwahahahahahahah
nvrbuffenuff_girl
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Mandinka2 said:
Hey! Am I dating you?
nvrbuffenuff_girl
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Werd said:
I think there is a HUGE difference between American or Americanized men and European men.
American men feel as though if they dont cum the woman either sucked, something is wrong with their unit, she was a turn off, something she did was a turn off, or God only knows what else. European men could care less whether they cum every single time or not. To them its every bit as satisfying to watch the woman they care for get off and they prefer that over cumming themselves. Perhaps its because they are satisfied knowing that the woman they are with was sexually satisfied by them.
I was with a guy who was French and German but was Americanized. He cared more about his own sexual satisfcation during sexual acts than mine. My boyfriend now, is European and he is completely different.
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Gambino
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I've faked a orgasm before, the sex was just that boring...
Mr.HeavyDuty
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whenever she has had her feel of orgasms then my work begins. there have been a few times where i just could not dial in and focus and achieve the dream. so i usually fall over in a sweaty heap and try agsin later. most of the time the girl i am with will suck me until i am ready to try again. and mornings are almost impossible for me to cum unless i bring myself off while watching her play with herself. works for me.
yes, more than once. sometimes i just get bored.
to answer your question, if shes climaxed at least once i dont feel i have to keep going, especially if i have better things to do.
to answer your question, if shes climaxed at least once i dont feel i have to keep going, especially if i have better things to do.
Werd
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Mr.HeavyDuty said:
This is what I was told... especially the morning part, that they found it very difficult to orgasm in the morning.
Neverbuffdenough - I feel ya. I am quickly beginning to realize that there is soooooooo much of a difference between the way American and European men view sex.
Sex with me is anything but boring. I am not saying that I am every man's fantasy... I AM NOT. But I also don't go to bed with every guy I've just met. If I get naked with a guy then there is definitely a connection.
Mandinka - *sigh* I have never been with a man who could do that to me...
I don't know how I would feel though if I was with a man in a steady relationship who did not achieve orgasm a great amount of the time. I guess I have been socialized to feel that if the man did not orgasm then I somehow failed. I always, always, always offer to try and please the man other ways if I orgasmed (especially if it was more than once) and he did not. I am very unselfish. I like to be pleased, yes. But I also want very much to please the man I am with.
obiwan9962
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doesn't have to happen all the timeWerd said:
but i never stop til she has had at least one
Mandinka2
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In the South of Europe society has a very different view of women - they are celebrated and not regarded as something to be used or shamed. You mention "pleasing your man" but the whole point is that nothing could give him greater pleasure than pleasuring his woman..... have her sleep in his arms...that is the definition of being a man. I would gladly swap all the orgasms I had with all the women I was with for one night more with someone that I truly loved. Men in general do happen to have greater sex drives so when I was with a woman who's body was really perfect for mine , and who was kind enough to make up my nights and fill my dys with pleasure , making it as pleasurable as possible for her was something that came completely naturally to me. Part of it too is porn - it has altered people's sex lives to a remarkable extent - and it is presented in such a way that the "cum shot" is the finale - which to me is a truly sad thing. Because the whole process should have beauty in it , and that is being lost.Werd said:
Men and women are much happier from what I have seen in the South , I think that is because what I describe is closer to nature, there is less hate between the sexes - she is his woman and he is her man , that is all.
jonny jacked
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I wouldn't sleep with a chick if she couldn't cum. it's like asking questions in a letter.
well, I have occasionally "Faked" it. Either:
1. The sex REALLY sucked (maybe a first.. and soon to be last time)
2. I was coming off of a cycle (DOH!)
3. I was SUPER stressed in life at the time
4. I was SO tired, but the gal REALLY wanted it - so I made sure she came, then "faked" it really quick so I could get some sleep
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Thats about all the circumstances. I think probably about 10 times total - not too bad for over 30 years!
1. The sex REALLY sucked (maybe a first.. and soon to be last time)
2. I was coming off of a cycle (DOH!)
3. I was SUPER stressed in life at the time
4. I was SO tired, but the gal REALLY wanted it - so I made sure she came, then "faked" it really quick so I could get some sleep
.Thats about all the circumstances. I think probably about 10 times total - not too bad for over 30 years!
