Sex question for the guys

[Werd]

whenever she has had her feel of orgasms then my work begins. there have been a few times where i just could not dial in and focus and achieve the dream. so i usually fall over in a sweaty heap and try agsin later. most of the time the girl i am with will suck me until i am ready to try again. and mornings are almost impossible for me to cum unless i bring myself off while watching her play with herself. works for me.

This is what I was told... especially the morning part, that they found it very difficult to orgasm in the morning.

Neverbuffdenough - I feel ya. I am quickly beginning to realize that there is soooooooo much of a difference between the way American and European men view sex.

Sex with me is anything but boring. I am not saying that I am every man's fantasy... I AM NOT. But I also don't go to bed with every guy I've just met. If I get naked with a guy then there is definitely a connection.

Mandinka - *sigh* I have never been with a man who could do that to me...

I don't know how I would feel though if I was with a man in a steady relationship who did not achieve orgasm a great amount of the time. I guess I have been socialized to feel that if the man did not orgasm then I somehow failed. I always, always, always offer to try and please the man other ways if I orgasmed (especially if it was more than once) and he did not. I am very unselfish. I like to be pleased, yes. But I also want very much to please the man I am with.

 

[avenirup]

This is what I was told... especially the morning part, that they found it very difficult to orgasm in the morning.

Neverbuffdenough - I feel ya. I am quickly beginning to realize that there is soooooooo much of a difference between the way American and European men view sex.

Sex with me is anything but boring. I am not saying that I am every man's fantasy... I AM NOT. But I also don't go to bed with every guy I've just met. If I get naked with a guy then there is definitely a connection.

Mandinka - *sigh* I have never been with a man who could do that to me...

I don't know how I would feel though if I was with a man in a steady relationship who did not achieve orgasm a great amount of the time. I guess I have been socialized to feel that if the man did not orgasm then I somehow failed. I always, always, always offer to try and please the man other ways if I orgasmed (especially if it was more than once) and he did not. I am very unselfish. I like to be pleased, yes. But I also want very much to please the man I am with.

 

[Gymgurl]

My hubby can't cum with certian sinus meds......

 

[obiwan9962]

No, no that isn't what I am asking or implying.

I am merely asking if you always end every sex act with orgasm? I have had experience with American and European men. And the European men don't always feel the need to reach orgasm. (At least the few that I have been with.) They always get me off (not hard to do LOL) and want to keep getting me off... even when all I want is for them to cum. But there are many times when they do not. I am always satisfied - actually they usually prefer to go down than to continue with intercourse.

Just wondering about this.

There are many many women who never orgasm.

I am just interested in the difference between the way different men approach sex. Do you guys feel like you have to orgasm in order for the sex act to have been considered "completed" or "good"?

doesn't have to happen all the time
but i never stop til she has had at least one

 

[Mandinka2]

This is what I was told... especially the morning part, that they found it very difficult to orgasm in the morning.

Neverbuffdenough - I feel ya. I am quickly beginning to realize that there is soooooooo much of a difference between the way American and European men view sex.

Sex with me is anything but boring. I am not saying that I am every man's fantasy... I AM NOT. But I also don't go to bed with every guy I've just met. If I get naked with a guy then there is definitely a connection.

Mandinka - *sigh* I have never been with a man who could do that to me...

I don't know how I would feel though if I was with a man in a steady relationship who did not achieve orgasm a great amount of the time. I guess I have been socialized to feel that if the man did not orgasm then I somehow failed. I always, always, always offer to try and please the man other ways if I orgasmed (especially if it was more than once) and he did not. I am very unselfish. I like to be pleased, yes. But I also want very much to please the man I am with.

In the South of Europe society has a very different view of women - they are celebrated and not regarded as something to be used or shamed. You mention "pleasing your man" but the whole point is that nothing could give him greater pleasure than pleasuring his woman..... have her sleep in his arms...that is the definition of being a man. I would gladly swap all the orgasms I had with all the women I was with for one night more with someone that I truly loved. Men in general do happen to have greater sex drives so when I was with a woman who's body was really perfect for mine , and who was kind enough to make up my nights and fill my dys with pleasure , making it as pleasurable as possible for her was something that came completely naturally to me. Part of it too is porn - it has altered people's sex lives to a remarkable extent - and it is presented in such a way that the "cum shot" is the finale - which to me is a truly sad thing. Because the whole process should have beauty in it , and that is being lost.


Men and women are much happier from what I have seen in the South , I think that is because what I describe is closer to nature, there is less hate between the sexes - she is his woman and he is her man , that is all.

 

[Mr. Black]

the "cum shot" is the finale - which to me is a truly sad thing. QUOTE]

Most women I've been with simply love cum and would get pretty pissed if they didn't get their daily fix.

 

[jonny jacked]

I wouldn't sleep with a chick if she couldn't cum. it's like asking questions in a letter.

 

[guards]

I've faked a orgasm before, the sex was just that boring...

so have i

 

[juve]

I have stopped a few sessions because I would feel complete apathy and aloofness/detachment all of a sudden - I don't know why it happens, and nothing seems to warrant the onset of these states


Otherwise, I don't have a prob making a splat

 

[newpump]

well, I have occasionally "Faked" it. Either:

1. The sex REALLY sucked (maybe a first.. and soon to be last time)
2. I was coming off of a cycle (DOH!)
3. I was SUPER stressed in life at the time
4. I was SO tired, but the gal REALLY wanted it - so I made sure she came, then "faked" it really quick so I could get some sleep .

Thats about all the circumstances. I think probably about 10 times total - not too bad for over 30 years!