seriously depressed!!!!!!! someone help.........

[Dakotah]

hi ladies,
someone please tell me why the hell this has to happen to me. I went shopping this weekend and i bought clothes that were a size or two larger than what i used to wear and all fit just fine. Well i bought clothes off of ebay and just got them today tried them on and they are the same exact size as the clothes i bought new and some are even the same brand like old navy gap and ck and they dont even fit over my damn thighs. i got over 70 pcs of clothing here.
It is so depressing that im ready to just starve myself just so they do fit.
I am having a horrible day now with that and the fact that my parents were robbed for the second time today in the last 6 months by the same lil prick that did it before and he lives 2 houses over from them.

i cant quit thinking about the fact that i weighed 125 at the most 6 and half months ago and now i weigh 162 and thing is i dont see the weight but i know its there my clothes dont fit.
im so sad i cant quit crying now and my boyfriend just left for work, as soon as he left the waterworks started. someone please help me find a eating diet just for me.
It sucks because i have to eat different from my bf because hes trying to gain weight and im trying to lose, it just doesnt work, if i dont get a lil out of this funk i will lose the weight in an unhealthy way- ive been down that path before and dont want to return.

 

[velvett]

Take a deep breath.

Clothing sizes are a mystery (a joke actually).
My girlfriend was a bridesmaid and she had to get a size 16 dress and have it altered (she's an 8/10 by normal standards). Nearly a month later and she's still upset about it.

Think about how well you have been doing and not how badly you are feeling right now.

Bad days, weakness, failure, feeling hopeless are all forms of balance when your life is out of balance. (seems horribly unfair if you ask me)

If you really want to keep all the clothes you bought - fold them up and put them in the closet, now is not the time to torture yourself with them.

Take another deep breath.

What have you been eating the past 3 months? (share this with us for some help)
What can you do for your parents beyond being supportive?

(it's ok to cry - crying is good for the soul, just take a long hot shower, lie down and with a cold wash cloth compress over your eyes)

After a nap or rest start to think about what you've been doing and what you think you can realistic do to change things up - providing you need to.


BIG HUG.

 

[Dakotah]

honestly i have been eating like this:
i hardly ever eat breakfast i actually dont like breakfast that much, i have lost the want to drink milk like i used to too.

i dance so i really only work one or two weeks a month at the most. and only 6 days out of the week, my hours are 4 pm till 2 :30 am
so when i work i eat whatever i happen to grab - i.e. a turkey sandwich w/mustard only no cheese or homemade enchiladas with cheese on the top not mixed with the meat.
while at work i eat tuna and wheat thins throughout the night and drink lemonade.

It really matters if i have time to cook anything really
so that means i dont really have a diet.


when i dont work i cook up a storm like turkey casserole w/biscuits has carrots,peas,potatoes, and chicken gravy in it.
i dont drinl caffeine and i bought a crap load of junk food at a huge tent sale and i have hardly touched anything. i drink tea with ginseng and honey
I have been slacking on going to the gym because i have been working.

in plain words my diet does suck and when i work is pretty much the only real time i dont work out.
i dont get it do i need more cardio?
i have started cardio up again and it includes running 15 min on the tread mill and the stair machine.10 min.
i wasnt doing any cardio before about two weeks ago.

as far as the clothes thing it just sucks because they are clothes that are for summer too and i really fit them in other areas just not the thighs and waist its like my hips are huge or expanding.
ultimately, i have been happy but i have just knocked all the happiness out of the solar system and replaced it with feeling like a fattie.
since this has happened all i want to do is never touch food again and run like crazy to lose this weight, i am extremly dissapointed in the fact that i weigh 162 lbs. its like my body went into overload, i havent weighed that much in 3 or 4 years when i weighed that before i did all the wrong things to lose the weight it was successful but did horriblr things to me mentally and internally body wise. i lost so much that i ended up weighing a whole 88lbs!

 

[dirty~d~]

^^^ I can't add much more to what velvett just said.

You'll be fine chica. Clothing sizes are a pain in the butt for all of us; don't let those bastards get you down. You know, I'm still convinced it was a man who invented those horrible contraptions called Panty Hose.

Keep venting away if you need. We'll be here to listen.

 

[Dakotah]

thanks ladies

you are both right, i cant believe how much i rambled on sorry - wow i can sure talk cant i!

i know im not the only one who has felt this way or be the last to feel it, but i just guess i was so proud of myself when i was comfortable with my weight and now that things have changed, i am going crazy. I hate feeling so large in all the wrong places.
im very confused and discouraged.

thanks again ladies and i have to say its nice to know someone is listening to me instead of telling that i look sexxy and they like me the way i am.
My weight issue has been that a true and large issue to me, i love my man but he just doesnt know what im feeling and never will-seeing as to how he is trying to gain weight himself.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Don't cry pretty thing you look amazing.

But if you really want diet help first thing I noticed is you don't eat often enough and not eating the right things. For sure not enough protien.

Don't worry about what the scale says go by how your clothes fit. Some sizes are fucked though seriously. Anyways how are old clothes fiting?

 

[Puddles]

It sucks when you get to feeling like this but you know the only way to fix it is to change what you're doing. Don't wait till next week, don't wait till tomorrow, start NOW.

You're a smart girl so grab a pen and paper and figure out a meal plan that you can stick to, regardless of work. You don't have to spend a lot of time in the kitchen to eat right. Hell, I can't tell you how many lunches I've had that come out of a can (can of tuna and a can of asparagus, takes 30 seconds to prepare and can be eaten quickly at work). When I do cook I cook in large quantities so I don't have to do it often and it's always there for when I need to grab something. You can make a 4 lb. turkey meatloaf (skip gravey and breadcrumbs, include veggies instead...cellery, peppers, onions, shrooms and some brown rice...eggs to hold it all together) and eat that for a few days for breakfast, lunch and dinner. You can bring it with you and it can stay at room temp for hours and won't go bad. There is no rule saying you have to eat breakfast foods for breakfast, I don't.

You gotta eat more often or your body will go into starvation mode and you'll gain weight. SIX FUCKIN MEALS A DAY. Just do it. Skip the crap foods, no gravey, no enchallada's with cheese, no lemonade unless it's sugarfree, drop the wheat thins and biscuits!

You're the only person who can do this for yourself so get your ass in geer, girl! Make yourself happy!!!

 

[Pamela]

I can' t add to much to what these smart ladies posted.

If you get back into starving yourself your going to feel Really BAD.
And then you get your self in to a spiral down mode.

You need to take charge over this situation.
Get that eating program now..

 

[Werd]

I will tell yall something now that probably none of yaz ever knew before - when I heard it I nearly shit!

Does any of you know how clothing sizes are determined by the manufacterers in the first place?!

They hire "fit" models, make the clothing for the size that they are SUPPOSED to be and with mathematical formula determine larger and smaller sizes. So now, if the professional model who is SUPPOSED to be certain specific measurements (not weight, but cm's or inches as in waist, hips, bust, inseam, etc) is NOT the size she SAYS she is.... GUESS WHAT?

THE CLOTHING IS EITHER BIGGER OR SMALLER THAN WHAT THE LINE WAS BEFORE OR THAN ANOTHER BRAND

I used to model (though not fit modeling as I was too short) and when the girls told me this I almost shit!!!

Hehehehehehehheheeee

I wear anything from a children's size 12 to an adult size 7! LOL



AND ALL THE OTHER STUFF THAT THE WONDERFULLY KNOWLEDGEABLE LADIES SAID BEFORE ME!!!!




Cheer up Sugarplumb - life is a grand adventure!

 

[MissJanet79]

Join the club!!!
Most women feel this way about clothing! I ignore it b/c as long as I like what I see in the mirror & how I feel, then I'm not going to stress myself out about it!

Perhaps changing your eating habits will boost your confidence! Good luck hon!