Well, my wife and I had "the talk" again this morning. rarely do you hear me say, 'I need you to listen to me for a second, it's important that you understand." and the TV gets turned down. It was one of those. She listened, I told her that I needed sex at least twice a week, the version of her choice was fine with me, but this no sex thing wasn't working for me. I feel more like a roommate than a husband." I know yall think that I'm being dumb, stupid, whatever, but I could remember things that yall had written and I tried to use them. I explained that I was SO simple compared to her, I needed 3 things, 1) for her to apppreciate the things that I do for the family, provide a home, be a good husband and father, 2) I need her to see that I get concerned with my bussinesses, when they're making money, I'm good, when things get tight, I may not be too easy to get along with, because it interferes with me doing the #1 things, and 3) sex. Those 3 thing are what makes me tick. She went into this whole I don;t feel like having sex when..... 123456789 things, everything from something that i said last year to xmas decorations still being out on the wall, painting that needs to be done on the house, etc. ( Sucha fricken Mars/ Venus moment, holy cow!) I finally interupted and said, lets just keep this confined to things that you like me to do for you, ie massage, rub, hold you at night, etc, the things that you really need me to do, OK? She came back down to the level that I was at and we discuissed the massages, rubbing her feet at night, etc. I asked her, "Have I ever told you 'No'". Her answer, "no", "but, you don't do it very long sometimes!" Your correct, I don't sometimes I don't feel like it, but i do it to SOME degree anyway. That's exactly what I'm trying to get you to see, I alyas do SOMETHING, that's why i told you I know you don't always want to have intercourse, and that I would be perfectly happy with oral or manual, hell just 'Helping me would be fine most of the time." (silence) "What do you want me to do!? just lay there!?" "Honey, I really think that if we started, you would get into it, I truley do" (silence) "I probably would. So if you want, I'll try and see if it works. I guess I could stop my meds everyonce in awhile too.' OH HELL NO!, lol. "If your not into it, what's wrong with laying by we and massaging my balls and talking sexy, that's not too much to ask is it? "No, but I do want to always start with intercourse, you MAY be right."
I told her that I loved her, and just her listening and being considerate made me very happy. She said, "she felt good about it too, and it was important for her as well."
For the record, my wife looks alot like a 45 year old Kim Kardashian. She also went into why she doesn't "Feel sexy" I'm not inshape, my stomach isn't tight, my butt isn't high enough, ALL these things. OMG, this woman is gorgeous, and NO, she doesn't look 25, she not! neithr am I, but everyone has someone who just really ROCKS their world, and she does mine. Don't think that I didn't tell her so........again.
We'll see.....
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