you cant beat how it was in uni/college. all my college buddies (i lived off campus and so never got socially lazy) went through major sexual droughts when they graduated. ie no sex for months on end. ALL of them, because they didnt have the social skill to meet women that werent in their faces every single day at breakfast/lunch/dinner/drinking nights/next dorm.
personally if i were you a wouldnt write off the bar scene - pretty much everyone goes to bars, good and bad - you just have to pick better bars, and dont go for the standard teenager/tweenager saturday night bender. instead, go to places where there are lots of women that youd potentially like - i personally like those little places in the city that you go to on a friday afternoon, where lots of office types go for end of week, after work drinks.
the other thing to do is to work on approaching women during the day comfortably. it takes effort, but can work really, really well.
one way or another, good luck. the harder you think about it and work at it, the better your results will be. if youre a lazy bastard who doesnt want to try...well...i hope you believe in fate, and hope the girl of your dreams walks up to you and makes the connection...instead of walking right past you, which is what happens to easily 99% of people