Picking up women in public places

[bluetwistedsteel67]

dude teh girl in your avatar is reasonably pretty, but i couldnt disagree with your post more

What???? I've never been mistaken for a "reasonably pretty girl". You sure you replied to the right post? What could you possibly disagree with in my post anyways? If you think an average to below average looking guy has anywhere near the chance that a good looking guy with some game has, you're crazy. As I said, there are exceptions but overall a woman would rather (by far) be approached and flirted with by a guy she found physically appealing. The exceptions are; he has cash, is funny as hell but not obnoxious, or.............nope that's pretty much it for exceptions. Now that doesn't mean a guy can't grow on a girl as she gets to know him and he then becomes more attractive over time but in the context of this thread, the question was regarding picking up a girl NOT getting to know a girl.

 

[youngguns]

Video store: "That's a great movie" (say something positive if you can... best to not say "that movie sucked, even if it sucked balls; Positive = better)

Grocery Store: Ohhh... fun one! Use the "broken wing" syndrome. Ask a basic question about a relatively complex cooking project, and make it clear from the question that *you* are doing the cooking. Why? 1) It gets the conversation started, 2) It shows you don't have a chick cooking for you, 3) It shows that you aren't living like a bear with a rotten apple and 3 six-packs of beer in your fridge and 4) Some chicks are *really* into helping/mothering guys a little bit -- it's the "broken wing" syndrome.

Know what's even better? If the conversation really gets going, and she's giving you signals, you finish with "Now I just need to find someone brave enough to take the first bite. I hope I don't poison anyone." Then it can go two ways... either she comes and helps you prepare it for the first time or she comes over to 'test' your work.

Funny story, but I tested that approach last weekend (I'm not on the market... it was more of an intellectual pursuit). And this was in front of my mother! Cute girl at the grocery, so I ask my mom what order I should put the ingredients in for my pot roast. Then I brought the girl into the discussion (she was right next to us). Did the whole "incompetent cook" routine... asked her if I could accidentally burn it... asked how long / what setting. Finished with "Now I just need to find someone brave enough to try it." And it was great... I got a smile, eye contact, and even a touch of the hair! Course I didn't go the next step, cause i'm not shopping for a female atm.

Actualy poisen it, that would be jokes

 

[GoldenDelicious]

What???? I've never been mistaken for a "reasonably pretty girl". You sure you replied to the right post? .

its called humour, bud

What could you possibly disagree with in my post anyways? .

lots of it, ill chat below

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f you think an average to below average looking guy has anywhere near the chance that a good looking guy with some game has, you're crazy. .

i didnt say that, yorue putting words in my mouth. i merely disagree with the "youve got it or you dont" "if she finds you attractive she'll wnt you to stay" etc because they say nothing of generating attraction in the first place

As I said, there are exceptions but overall a woman would rather (by far) be approached and flirted with by a guy she found physically appealing. .

theres a lot mroe to partnering up than mere physicality. the juicer board, for example, is full of comments about emo guys or skinny guys (or wahtever, less appeling physically guys) with hot girls while the juicers are not

The exceptions are; he has cash, is funny as hell but not obnoxious, or.............nope that's pretty much it for exceptions. .

or future potential
or high social value
or preselection by other women
or emotional intelligence
or social intelligence

there are lots of "ors"

Now that doesn't mean a guy can't grow on a girl as she gets to know him and he then becomes more attractive over time but in the context of this thread, the question was regarding picking up a girl NOT getting to know a girl.

a smart guy can accellerate the "getting to know" period to a few minutes if he wants to. its about steering the conversation the way you want it to go, and being able to communicate who you are, so that the girl gets to see how great you are within a few minutes, rather than over the course of weeks/months, the way a lot of low self esteem guys do it

just my opinion, of course

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

its called humour, bud

lots of it, ill chat below

Ii didnt say that, yorue putting words in my mouth. i merely disagree with the "youve got it or you dont" "if she finds you attractive she'll wnt you to stay" etc because they say nothing of generating attraction in the first place

theres a lot mroe to partnering up than mere physicality. the juicer board, for example, is full of comments about emo guys or skinny guys (or wahtever, less appeling physically guys) with hot girls while the juicers are not


or future potential
or high social value
or preselection by other women
or emotional intelligence
or social intelligence

there are lots of "ors"

a smart guy can accellerate the "getting to know" period to a few minutes if he wants to. its about steering the conversation the way you want it to go, and being able to communicate who you are, so that the girl gets to see how great you are within a few minutes, rather than over the course of weeks/months, the way a lot of low self esteem guys do it

just my opinion, of course

All well thought out points I'll admit. My statements are all based on anecdotal evidence and I am certain (and we're talking about picking up a girl in a public place) that if I approached a woman with the skills and charm that I have (more than some, not as much as others) I would probably do ok, actually I'd probably do better than ok. Now if I were the same guy personality wise (I'm actually a pretty great guy) but less attractive I would have a tougher time - probably a much tougher time. I'm surprised none of the EF females haven't chimed in on this one. Sassy, help me out here.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

All well thought out points I'll admit. My statements are all based on anecdotal evidence and I am certain (and we're talking about picking up a girl in a public place) that if I approached a woman with the skills and charm that I have (more than some, not as much as others) I would probably do ok, actually I'd probably do better than ok. Now if I were the same guy personality wise (I'm actually a pretty great guy) but less attractive I would have a tougher time - probably a much tougher time. I'm surprised none of the EF females haven't chimed in on this one. Sassy, help me out here.

well sure, all things being equal, the better looking guy has a greater chance of getting the girl to invest in him by spending time/giving numbers whatever - although in some cases, being really good looking presents too much value and actually makes it more difficult - i have some ugly friends, for example, taht girls will have sex with becasue these guys are strictly for sex and have no long term potential, whereas with myself, they will very quickly go into "best behaviour" mode becasue they want to snare me for the longer term, and start acting very girlfriendy.

i was on a date the otehr night (me. on a date. LOLOLOL) and the girl uttered a phrase that circumscribes this very idea: "some people i just want to have sex with. you, i really want to know" all while touching me up severely, given that id only known her 2 hours and it was very well lit and public, with her family walking around somewhere in the general vicinity

translation: golden, youre boyfriend material, i dont want you to think im a slut

if i didnt have such an entertaining personality, id likely have a lot more one night stands, but id have to cycle through a LOT more women to get them. as it is, pretty much any girl i get a number from or something wants something more. im efficient, and proud!

 

[rudeboyja]

It's a joke how easy it is to approach women once you become comfortable doing it.

 

[NJL52]

Just go to a mall away from your house and approach and talk to like 300 girls. It makes things alot easier when it comes down to doing it for real.

 

[jon1320]

^^^ the mall is a great place to meet chicks. Just dress real casual, go with a friend and start gamin'. Always walk more towards the center of the center of the walkway as opposed to the outskirts. U should bring a friend thats funny cuz ur smile can win any chick.
Just a simple, "hi" is all you need to do, then if shes real hot say something like
"from far away it looks like u'd have a nice smile"
she: smiles
you: "i was wrong" give her a kinda dirty look .. then start smiling.
right there she wants to hit u , even though she doesn't know you... she wants to bone
anyway blah blah
just show her ur boss, but ur able to make a good connection
always lead the convos
and be the man